My DB is in a location in the middle east where he doesn't go outside of his compound. There is great phone service available....so he calls everyday. It has been this way for 8 months. :happy

This week has been nothing but a out of the ordinary one for communication.

Sunday: Shared his call with his mom b/c she rarely gets to talk to him and I was over when he called. No problems with that. I know she misses him as much as I do.

Monday: I got my call, just this time it was cut short b/c he was tired, no problem....sleep to be alert during his shift the next day is more important to me than getting a few more mins on the phone.

Tuesday: I usually have a lab, but told him he could call b/c it would let out before he usually calls....got no call. BUT I did get a letter that took twice the normal time to get here.:sigh

Wed: TODAY GRRR...I want to call my phone company and scream at them. For some reason when he called it kicked his call to voicemail! :arg:faint I know he has stuff to do tomorrow, but I had all my bars, and wasn't on the phone at all! 2 days w/ not being able to talk to him...when I am used to the everyday...that is what I look foward to each day...it just sucks!:pout

Tomorrow: I know I am not going to get my wakeup call from him b/c he won't think about it. Then his day off (when he and I get to use webcam) is going to be cut short b/c he has to go to a meeting on the next morning where he has to give a speech. So a whole week with little, more like next to none communication. :depressed

How do you guys handle when your routine is broken? I know how EXTREMELY lucky I am to be able to talk to him as much as I do...I really do. But I rely so much on it, which I know I shouldn't, that I was holding my phone in tears, pleading w/ my SO (who is not there) to PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE call back:beg. Whether your routine is for getting a letter/call/email every day/week/month/more than a month...I just am in tears b/c I haven't been able to talk to him about things that I need to for days. I have some things that I need to know ASAP and have been counting on talking to him today to iron those out.


Please help you guys...I know this is only going to happen more when he gets promoted...he is doing all that kind of stuff tomorrow and on Friday. I have to handle this better, but all I can do is fight crying, which is silly...I know he is gonna be able to see me, and me him tomorrow. But that is a long time away right now.

First and foremost calm down, this is the nature of the beast. There is no routine so don't allow yourself to fall into one with communication. It will lead to mood swings beyond your control(as you as experiencing). Maybe write all the things you want to say to him on paper. It always makes me feel better when I go weeks without contact.

Whenever you have something that seems like a routine gets disturbed, of course you are going to get upset, but just breathe becuase he DID call. So you know he is ok, and you know he tried.

Things like this are going to happen, we just have to be able to roll with it.

You can do it!