My DB is really getting to me lately....and sometimes makes me think what if his feelings are changing for me.Which isnt a fun thought.

DB has been pretty good with contact. He is not an emotional guy at all and hates the phone and writing,so taking that into hand, getting 1 call a week and 2-3 emails a week is acutally pretty good. Well, last month there was a two week period where he didnt call me at all and wrote very little.We got into a little fight about how he has the access to call daily if he wanted and if he has time to go to the gym for 3 hours everyday he has time to call me once a week.So he finally called and said he was sorry. Well he did it again...in a row!!!!! Today marks week 2-- of no phone call. well, I got pissed and called him earlier....which i dont like doing b/c i always call when hes crazy busy or alsleep,so i just let him call me. Well i got the same...im sorry,I mean too but I get sidetracked speech.

It pisses me off. He knows that it means soooo much to me for him to call. I have expressed these feelings to him in a nice...and on a few times upset manner. I dont get it. Why wouldnt he want to call me? If you miss someone, you want to talk to them, right? Especially when you know how much it means to that person.--- I even told him today...That it makes me feel like he either doesnt want to talk to me or his feelings are changing. He just said "no,well there not".

Not to mention my mother....who doesnt like DB (she loved the ex) told me.. "why are you waiting around for a guy who doesnt even want to talk to you"
I wanted to cry.:confuzzle

IDK.He does very sweet things. He sent me a very sweet v-day gift last week. He is planning an amazing vacation for the week after he gets home which is in 6 weeks. Where he picked the hotel and has planned all kinds of surprises,horseback riding,dinners,etc...


but he cant call me.What the hell?:dunno

:hugs so sorry sweetie. i'm going thru the same thing, so if you want to talk or vent, PM me. literally same thing...and i hate it.

Your DB sounds like a clone of mine!

:hugs

I have no advice because I can't get mine to talk to me, either, and he's NOT deployed. Good luck and I hope he calls you!!

Well, I hear the internet/phones are very sketchy over there. I know it must suck not to get a phone call when you are expecting one, but I don't think you can really get mad at him about it. I'm sure there could be a bunch of reasons why he wasn't able to call you. Be thankful for the contact you do get, cause a lot of other SO's get a lot less.

Your DB sounds like a clone of mine!

:hugs

I have no advice because I can't get mine to talk to me, either, and he's NOT deployed. Good luck and I hope he calls you!!

guess i should have mentioned that in mine, too, since he's stateside for another few weeks :teehee

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You have to understand that the phones are always sketchy. There were times I would get two calls a week and then I would go over 3 weeks without a call.

honestly, if he says his feelings for you aren't changing, i wouldn't push the issue...you're going to end up pushing him away...IMHO...:dunno

You have to understand that the phones are always sketchy. There were times I would get two calls a week and then I would go over 3 weeks without a call.

I think it all depends on where you are because we don't have problems with phone or internet... its more or less the time difference and when he's working for us. I'm working when he's out of work and he's sleeping when I get home. Yay for weekends.

:dunno God did have to try a second time to get it right, after all.... :giggle sometimes they just need a little :boxing :lol not that I would ever do that :wink

im not sure where your db is deployed at, but my df is in iraq and has had a lot of problems with phones and internet the past three weeks.
if i get to talk to him on the phone once a week im really lucky. df says he is really busy and i trust that. if he says his feelings haven't changed, believe him.
i know as a woman its hard not to get your feelings hurt when they dont call, but remember he is in a war zone working very hard seven days a week. i know they go to the gym and work out (my df does this daily too) but usually for them to get to a phone that have to wait in long lines and usually walk to the area where the phone is.

now if i read it right you said you called him, does he have his cell phone? in this cause he doesn't have much of an excuse about phone lines being down or long lines. i would just let him know you are worried about him and one phone call a week would be nice:D
good luck.