I went and got my hair cut and I felt so good afterwards...
Like I finally looked decent for the first time in months.
It really cheered me up, I felt like I was doing better!!!

Then I got on MySpace...
and he deleted every picture I was in.
Every one.
Like I was never there and never mattered. :tears
This is so hard!

It will get better. Maybe you should just delete him or stay off of his Myspace.

:hugs

:hugs im so sorry hun

Is he still planning on being a part of the baby's life?

Stinks but it happens. You just gotta start letting these things roll off your back while you are still high risk. T did that to me and I just did it right back. Childish? yes. But I also just moved past it and made my page look so much better then his :giggle

Why are you even still checking up on him? It's just going to make you feel worse. :hugs

wow that's harsh...after all he is the daddy of your son! What's he gonna do about that? Lemme know if you need somebody to talk to!

Why are you even still checking up on him? It's just going to make you feel worse. :hugs

I was thinking that. Its jsut setting yourself up for more hurt.

Aw. :sorrysign I've been reading what's been going on, but I haven't ever left a comment until now. I just want you to know that my heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I know you have a lot of people who offered to talk if you ever need to, I would like to be added to that list. If you ever need anything, I'm here! I :pray for you.

Ugh! He didn't have to do it this soon! He could have at least waited a while. Now he's just being a dick. Try to keep yourself busy. Even if it's just posting stuff on here! We'll keep you company! It's going to hurt for a while, so the best thing to do is just try to find new ways to get through the day. Let me know if you need anything. I don't know you well, but let me know if you need ANYTHING....

I'm sorry he's just being an ass now! Just try and get back in that mood you were in when you got out of the salon!!! (dont forget to post pics!)

big hugs. hang in there, it'll be tough only for a little while longer.

It will get better. Maybe you should just delete him or stay off of his Myspace.

I was going to suggest the same thing, but I KNOW it's easier said than done. I couldn't do it. :hugs

Is he still planning on being a part of the baby's life?

Oh yes...he is...he's made it very clear he'll still be there for our son...

And I can't post pics girls. I have no camera. Lol.

Why are you even still checking up on him? It's just going to make you feel worse. :hugs


I completely agree.

I know I shouldn't check in on him...
But...it's hard.

It is hard, but you have to think of the future & quit hanging on to the past. You're going to do JUST FINE without him. Honestly I think you're going to be MORE than just fine with out him.


...Also for someone that hurt me that bad I would NOT have their picture in my signature...

:hugs

do not look at anything that involves him...delete everything...its going to make it so much easier on you I swear! Im sorry and I know its hard but it is something that you have to do to move on...hes such a dumbass

I changed my siggy and took him off my myspace...including pics..
but I can't delete my pics from my computer.
They're good memories.
And someday I'll be glad I still have them. Especially for my son to see.

how about every time you get the urge to see how he is doing on his myspace or in other forms you post on here- i think i'm okay with speaking for the majority of us wouldn't mind even if its really random or anything:D


i'm just trying to help and i know it's hard ....pm me if you need to :hugs

It will get better. Maybe you should just delete him or stay off of his Myspace.

:agree I know its the hardest thing to do believe me I know i'm a snoop when DB and I break up!!! I have to keep looking! But when you do that you set yourself up for more of a heartbreak or more anger. Tough it out girl! You're strong!! Maybe try and get involved with some sort of activity to keep your mind off things... and who knows you might meet someone new :) :hugehug best of luck!!! I know its hard

:agree I know its the hardest thing to do believe me I know i'm a snoop when DB and I break up!!! I have to keep looking! But when you do that you set yourself up for more of a heartbreak or more anger. Tough it out girl! You're strong!! Maybe try and get involved with some sort of activity to keep your mind off things... and who knows you might meet someone new :) :hugehug best of luck!!! I know its hard

Thanks. =)
Meeting somebody new is totally out of the question, though.
I'm 6 months pregnant, and 18 years old. I'm gona have to work, sleep, and take care of my baby. A new relationship might kill me more than this old one ending is..
And god. I can't stop loving him, yet.

I changed my siggy and took him off my myspace...including pics..
but I can't delete my pics from my computer.
They're good memories.
And someday I'll be glad I still have them. Especially for my son to see.

Good job though on deleting him. It's hard. "Out of sight, out of mind." Maybe not yet, but it definitely helps down the road. :hugs And I agree, keeping the pics that are on your computer is fine. Just don't torture yourself by constantly looking through them. :)

I understand Kels. I can see you changed your siggie , thats good.
Why not put all the pics on your computer on discs or memory sticks.
I kept a box of photos and other momentoes of my ex for my boys.
Now that they are teenagers they often go through that box .
Lots of :hugs

I like your new siggy :)

why dont you take the pics and put them on a cd and put it away where you want be tempted to look at it, and then delete them off your computer. Then take things that remind you of him and put them in a shoe box and burn them(that always made me feel better)

:hugs

It will get better. Maybe you should just delete him or stay off of his Myspace.

I have to agree. I cant believe he is acting like this. Do we get to see a picture of the new hair?:D What is he planning on doing about the baby situation, if you dont mind me asking? I mean he cant pretend you dont have a baby to take care of.

Well, you just have to realize that a lot of things are going to remind you of him..BUTT you just cant let those things get to you. It's ok to miss him but then you just need to move on.. I know that you are trying and really hard too so just hang in there. Time will tell! One day you will look back and will be like "shit, how did i do that?"

By the way, what he did was really immature!

delete him from your myspace.

erase him from at least that aspect of your life.

and try and rest, for you and baby

It will take some time, but it will get better :hugs

I'm so sorry sweetie...and I was just as stupid today.. I looked at my ex fiance's myspace and saw pictures of him and his new fiance..seems like he moves on pretty quickly..

If only you were closer, me and you could hangout and get our minds off of each other's ex's. :hugs

delete him from your myspace.

erase him from at least that aspect of your life.

and try and rest, for you and baby

:agree

:hugehug to you......it hurts, I know. It WILL get easier.

Kelsi,
After having been married for 12 years (together 14), my ex-H has showed that he's clearly moved on by making over 40 lady "Friends" on his MySpace account. I have no doubt that number will rise into the triple digits before long. He just formed the account about a month ago. All the "ladies" (every last one) have links to porn sites, nude photos, sexy comments and whatnot. He wasted no time in this activity. I always knew porn was a preoccupation of his, but the striking thing was how quickly he decided to display this to the world.

What can you do? Men, they go through their pain, and I suppose they do what they must to cope. It just takes on far different form that what women do to move on.

As always, I love ya' and am here for you.
Kathy

You should stop checking his myspace and everything about him, in the long run it is better for you and the baby.
Wait acouple of months and then try to talk to him...maybe when everyone has a clear head it will be better :hug

it takes time to get over someone that you cared and loved for so much. the last relationship i was in was really hard to get over we where together for 3 years and he broke up with me. i used to look at his myspace all the time when we first broke up and it just made me more sad to look at this person that i loved for so long and now he had no feelings what so ever about me. i knew i need to deleted him out of my life. i deleted his sorry ass off of my friends list, deleted all the pictures of him on my computer, stopped talking to him, (i know in your case you want him in your son's life, which i'm glad that he wants a part of :)) i do have some pics of him still but when i look at them now i see that it would have never worked out and in a way i thank him for breaking up with me so i would learn and be a better woman for my DF. look at this break up as making you stronger for what your supposed to be. your be better. good luck sweetie.

I have been reading your posts just haven't been comenting.. we'll haven't commented on much lately :(

He is a stupid jerk to break up with such a wonderfull woman such as yourself.

Maybe it would be best to stay away from myspace for a bit... you know give yourself some breathing room to figure things out for yourself and the baby.

Just remember that no matter how hard it gets you are stronger... that your tears are a sign of your inner strength fighting the hurt and pain you are feeling. With each tear you cry you are one step closer to feeling better!

:hugehug

does he still want to be part of the babies life....or is he planning on deleting that part too?
dont go on his my space it will only upset you more

it takes time to get over someone that you cared and loved for so much. the last relationship i was in was really hard to get over we where together for 3 years and he broke up with me. i used to look at his myspace all the time when we first broke up and it just made me more sad to look at this person that i loved for so long and now he had no feelings what so ever about me. i knew i need to deleted him out of my life. i deleted his sorry ass off of my friends list, deleted all the pictures of him on my computer, stopped talking to him, (i know in your case you want him in your son's life, which i'm glad that he wants a part of :)) i do have some pics of him still but when i look at them now i see that it would have never worked out and in a way i thank him for breaking up with me so i would learn and be a better woman for my DF. look at this break up as making you stronger for what your supposed to be. your be better. good luck sweetie.

I agree. I had to do this, too; the guy I was with before my fiance (right when I joined msos) hurt me really badly. It was very hard to stop looking at pictures and seeing what he was doing on myspace or whatever, but it did help when I could finally stop. I went on his myspace just the other day and he is with some new chick and he seems to love her like he never loved me...and here now I have found a man who loved me like my ex never could. All of a sudden I was ridiculously happy because I realized I had finally really and truly moved past what he had done and found happiness again...AND YOU WILL TOO...:hugs :hugs :hugs

:hugs I'm sooo sorry it will get better!

I'm sorry sweetie :hugs.Like a lot of the other girls said though,it's not a good idea to look at his myspace right now.If you're up to it,I'd delete him and any pictures you have of him on yours.It's going to hurt too much right now to look at it.And it sucks,but you need to start trying tomove on, which will be a lot harder if you're always checking his myspace and such to see what he's up to.

be strong. be strong.

It is hard, but you have to think of the future & quit hanging on to the past. You're going to do JUST FINE without him. Honestly I think you're going to be MORE than just fine with out him.


...Also for someone that hurt me that bad I would NOT have their picture in my signature...

:hugs

Is it just me or are you being a bit harsh on her?

I didn't think it was too harsh, but I can see where it could be taken that way.

Kelsi, I'm really sorry that you're going through this! I know how you feel! I just went through it (minus the pregnancy part). I wish I could be there with you to try and comfort and help you. If you ever want to talk...whine...complain...etc., just let me know. You can always link up to myspace too (www.myspace.com/cheerkelly).

:hugs:hugs:hugs. Hang in there Kelsi, its gonna get better

At least you have your prioirties set up. Good luck sweety.

I changed my siggy and took him off my myspace...including pics..
but I can't delete my pics from my computer.
They're good memories.
And someday I'll be glad I still have them. Especially for my son to see.

That's a good thought....when me and my ex split...I deleted/torn every single picture of him. But now in the long run. What am I going to tell my son when he wants a picture of his father. But his father is not involved in his life. Not b/c I dont want him to, but b/c he doesn't want to. Thank god, he's got DF. my son calls him daddy.

Thanks. =)
Meeting somebody new is totally out of the question, though.
I'm 6 months pregnant, and 18 years old. I'm gona have to work, sleep, and take care of my baby. A new relationship might kill me more than this old one ending is..
And god. I can't stop loving him, yet.

well you can't possably start a new relationship "tomorrow". I'm sure all of us are talking about a few years, maybe awhile b4 you start thinking about relationships again. I know how it is to be busy with a newborn especially real young and on your own. I was on my own with a newborn at 16 so I def know how it is.

I am so sorry to see you going through this pain, especially with a baby on the way. Concentrate on the baby and taking care of you before anything else. Eventually it will all work itself out in the whole scheme of things, though it probably seems impossible right now. Is your ex going to be responsible for the baby financially and have visitation? I know that won't help as far as your emotions......
It is hard to see the forest for the trees this close to a painful break-up, but things WILL turn out for the best if you keep your eye on the ball and your priorities straight.
Best wishes to you and I will keep you in my prayers!

I am so sorry. I wish you weren't going through all this. It will all be okay. You're so strong. You'll make it. I know it's tough, especially being pregnant and dealing with it all. I don't think you should feel like you have to delete the pictures off your computer. I wouldn't delete the pictures of my child's father. They are good memories and they will be great for your baby to look at. Just don't let them hold you in the past. I agree that you shouldn't get into a relationship yet. You need to heal and you will be busy being a mom. Don't swear off relationships, just tread softly. We're all here for you...we'll help you get through it as much as we can.

:sigh

:bigsadhug