Db has been in a total funk for the past two weeks and iive been trying to keep his spirits up but i dont seem to be doing the job. Now im getting into one that i cant shake. He'll be home in less than three months. Could it be just the end of deployment blues? I wish there was something i could do to make him crack a smile. I mean sometimes he's great laughing and playing but he looses it quickly.....:sigh

it might be the end of deployment blues, maybe he is just getting so sick of being there and just wants out...can you send him something cute that will lift his spirits??

this is what i did, and db LOVED it, i made a can't wait album...I took pics of me doing everyday things and then put them all in this little album and wrote captions for each...like I can't wait to cook with you, I can't wait to take the dog for a walk with you etc...

he loved it and still talks about it

feel better hun

UGH I know how you feel I feel awful for DB he's been in and out of the funk for months now...I'm never quite sure who I am gonna get on the other end of the line. I send him lots of dirty jokes, politcal jokes, I send him silly carepackages that he just laughs at like Hillary Clinton voodoo doll with pins and everything...I send him random youtube videos when I can with sappy songs or fun sexy songs ....hmmmmmmm and once I sent him a quick movie (I have a webcam so it can take movies but you could use a camera) and I just blew him a kiss and wrapped my arms around myself in a BIG hug with a goofy smile on my face and said "Looked like you could use one of these Baby. Hang in there we got this...just a walk in the park" (walk in the park is what I say anytime something seem too much to handle...its code for "trudge thru the shit with me baby and I can do anything") He said it was exactly what he needed. Hope it helps OH and I think his favorite gift was a pillow case with iron-ons of all the things we are gonna do when he gets back he has it hangin on the wall.....keep up what you are doing and remember its all temporary and he'll be home soon

I think he is just wanting to get home. Don't take it personally. Its probally just the stress of wanting to be home with you and doing his job there.

I try not to be too critial of hubby and also to be very understanding when he goes into a "mood" which isn't very often in his case, thank goodness for me.

We have to keep in mind that it's very hard on them over there. Not only do they have to deal with missing us emotionally....they also have to deal with being in a combat zone AND not getting any :sex for months at a time. It's a really bad combo for anyone but especially for a man.

I feel so sorry for them....I can't wait to baby my baby when he gets home. :yes

God i know! When he gets home, im going to try to make things as good as possible for him. I cant imagine what they are going through, i never want to be one who starts dumb little fights so i try to be encouraging and if hes in a bad mood, take it with a grain of salt kinda thing. Luckily its not often, which im thankful for for his sake.


I try not to be too critial of hubby and also to be very understanding when he goes into a "mood" which isn't very often in his case, thank goodness for me.

We have to keep in mind that it's very hard on them over there. Not only do they have to deal with missing us emotionally....they also have to deal with being in a combat zone AND not getting any :sex for months at a time. It's a really bad combo for anyone but especially for a man.

I feel so sorry for them....I can't wait to baby my baby when he gets home. :yes

Yeah, it totally sucks when they go through one of their funks.:( DB went through one after R and R for about two months. Blech. I sent a ton of fun packages, funny emails, cards, letters ect and it would cheer him up for a bit but then he'd get depressed and sorta distant again. After about two months I had a gentle but firm convo with him and basically told him that I know it sucks and I hate it for him but he needed to try and push through it. I assured him that I was there for him but basically said that if he stayed distant then he got home our integration would be that much harder...we'd get though it...we'd just have more work in front of us then we needed to have. Plus, his deployment would seem longer and be more difficult for him. Well the next day he called me and was SUPER mushy and kept telling me how much he loved me and how thankful he was for us to be together and for my support ect. He bucked up and was back to his old self again. Clearly he still has bad days/weeks but he doesn't let himself get depressed for two months anymore. Honestly, I was shocked that convo worked! I think he was glad that I'd do all the fun and mushy stuff and then slightly push him when he needed it.

So basically my advice is just ride the funk out for awhile and be encouraging and patient and then if he never bucks up then a gentle push my help. But everyone's different so idk.:)

Its oretty normal for them at one point or another to be this way. DH is in one...I want to kick him sometimes :lol The other day I really wanted to ask him what was up. I didnt know if it was me or something was bothering him so I took a "concerned" approach. It worked really well and he came right out and let me know that he is just tired of being there. That he is with some guys that he really hates and he feels he has to keep a wall up to and since he is keeping that wall up to them he is forgeting to take it down when we talk. He let me know that its hard to swing from a hard ass mode to a mushy husband mode and that he would work on it but to not take it personal. so Im not! It is what it is. And he knows if he goes to far that I will kick him!