My name is Lisa, I'm 24 yrs old, am a college student, and live in San Antonio, TX. My boyfriend is stationed here at Ft Sam Houston, and as of 2 days ago, told me that he will be deployed soon, to an undisclosed location. This is the first person that I've dated in the military, so it was a bit overwhelming for me, because I don't know where he is going and only know that he is expected to be gone between 30 to 60 days, but that that could at anytime be extended. And this is the first time in our relationship for him to be deployed, so it would be so great if anyone could lend me some support and/or advice, on preparing myself for his soon deployment as well as how to cope with his absence. I would welcome anything that could help me through this difficult time. His parents, who live in Michigan, are used to this, because he has already been deployed to Iraq for 12 months in the past, and know that this is so new to me, and plan to be lend any support I need via phone or e-mail, during their son's absence. And though I honestly appreciate that, it would honestly help me a little more to here from a woman, who has gone through this with her boyfriend, fiance, or spouse that is in the military and was deployed. I would love to have someone that I could relate to at this difficult time, to make this process not so overwhelming and scary. As I said anything, I would gladly welcome with arms wide open. So please e-mail me at Lisa_g1984@yahoo.com (case-sensitive) anytime, with any advice and/or support regarding my boyfriend's soon deployment. Just put your name or simply "Advice 4 U on your BF's soon deployment" in the subject area, so I will recognize that the e-mail is not spam. And lastly, I would love if you all keep my boyfriend, his family, me, and my family, who all love him so deeply in your thoughts and prayers, as he is deployed to serve our country and for his safe return home. Thank you for taking the time to read this and I look forward to anyone who e-mails me with advice and support.

Blessings Always,

Lisa

I haven't gone through a deployment yet, but I do wish you the best of luck!!

:hugehug

Well, I will tell you the thing that has kept many of us from going insane is this site. Someone is almost always on (hey, we're scattered all over the planet!) so it's always "open" for chat. Yes, we talk about a lot of nonsense and sometimes there is drama (hey, we're women) but it is full to the brim with women (and a few men from time to time) that support, encourage and lift each other up.

I've learned that no question is too "out there" to ask and folks will generally open the floodgates of advice, experience and encouragement.

You CAN do this if you choose to. Deployments are hard. THere are going to be nights when you can't sleep - hop on here. There will be nights when you'll be mad - hop on here. There will be days when the sun is shining (like today) when you can think of better things to do than let the deployment get to you - hop on here.

Keep yourself busy, surround yourself with people who will encourage you (like us) and get ready to enter a whole new phase in your relationship with your soldier.

We're all here for you. You can message me any time.

Thank you for wishing me luck during this difficult time, it means so much. I'm happy that you haven't had to go through a deployment yet, and when my boyfriend comes home, I would more than glad to share with you, how I got through my first experience with my boyfriend's deployment. He planned to propose to me, the day he found out, and decided he wanted to wait on that engagement until he returns so he can give me a nice wedding ceremony with family and friends, and a honeymoon either in the US Virgin Islands or Aruba. So he was a bit down, when his proposal plans had to be postponed, but I told him, it's okay, and that I will be here when he returns. So we haven't started calling each other fiances yet, because he hasn't had the chance to ask my father for my hand due to his chaotic schedule, and we want to keep it under wraps until his return. So, thanks again for wishing me luck and I wish you the best of luck when you go through this, and hopefully will have some advice to share with you by then. Please keep both myself, my BF, and our families in your prayers, as I will keep yours in mine. Feel free to e-mail me anytime at Lisa_g1984@yahoo.com (case-sensitive) or IM me on the yahoo messenger at Lisa_g1984 if you wish too.

Blessings,
Lisa
from San Antonio, TX

:welcome Hey Lisa, so glad you found us! There are a lot of great women on this site and we all help support each other through the deployments and ups and downs of military life.

My name is Elaine and I'm a Texas native! However, I live in DC now. I also am going through my first deployment but my DB has been in the Army for the last 10 years so he's a pro at this.

You'll get through the deployment and you both will come out stronger then before. Its tough but you'll see first-hand God's blessing and grace over your lives. Feel free to PM (private message) me any time with questions. If your DB is only going to be gone for 60 days and to an unknown location, it sounds like his job might be similar to my DBs.

We're here for you!!

My name is Lisa, I'm 24 yrs old, am a college student, and live in San Antonio, TX. My boyfriend is stationed here at Ft Sam Houston, and as of 2 days ago, told me that he will be deployed soon, to an undisclosed location. This is the first person that I've dated in the military, so it was a bit overwhelming for me, because I don't know where he is going and only know that he is expected to be gone between 30 to 60 days, but that that could at anytime be extended. And this is the first time in our relationship for him to be deployed, so it would be so great if anyone could lend me some support and/or advice, on preparing myself for his soon deployment as well as how to cope with his absence. I would welcome anything that could help me through this difficult time. His parents, who live in Michigan, are used to this, because he has already been deployed to Iraq for 12 months in the past, and know that this is so new to me, and plan to be lend any support I need via phone or e-mail, during their son's absence. And though I honestly appreciate that, it would honestly help me a little more to here from a woman, who has gone through this with her boyfriend, fiance, or spouse that is in the military and was deployed. I would love to have someone that I could relate to at this difficult time, to make this process not so overwhelming and scary. As I said anything, I would gladly welcome with arms wide open. So please e-mail me at Lisa_g1984@yahoo.com (case-sensitive) anytime, with any advice and/or support regarding my boyfriend's soon deployment. Just put your name or simply "Advice 4 U on your BF's soon deployment" in the subject area, so I will recognize that the e-mail is not spam. And lastly, I would love if you all keep my boyfriend, his family, me, and my family, who all love him so deeply in your thoughts and prayers, as he is deployed to serve our country and for his safe return home. Thank you for taking the time to read this and I look forward to anyone who e-mails me with advice and support.

Blessings Always,

Lisa

Welcome to the site Lisa! The good lot of us are in the same boat as far as deployments go. And guess what? WE'RE HERE FOR YOU! Don't be afraid to ask questions. Reach out if you need anything. It's definitely not an easy thing to go through, especially the first time. Mine is on his first deployment and this is my first deployment. Please don't hesitate to PM me if you need anything. :grouphug