retrvinfool
02-23-2008, 08:09 PM
have similair experiences i thought I'd post. (kinda long)
Some of you know DB and I have been having a rough patch. He's expected home for R n R really SOON. Its been about a month and things have been really "off" I've been Debbie Downer on here cause I've been so worried and all. Just thought I'd post so that any gals who go through something similiar are prepared.
DB has been pulling away from me. Most recently everytime we talked he's been telling me what an asshole he can be. I haven't heard the sweet or loving sentiment from him that I used to get. I used to get sweet little IMs all the time now none. Its like the man I loved was just disappearing. I was freaking out thinking he was going to come home and break things off. Well I sent him an email that finally got thru to him. Today he said its all been just stress about coming home on leave. "You've built me into the man in your mind that I can't be. I'm just me." Thank god he finally said it.
We chatted just a little but it was such a weight off of me. I know we will be OK once he gets home. This is the first time he's had anyone stick with him thru a deployment and he's just putting way too much pressure on himself ....so if your SO starts to act this way just know its nerves, its stress, its pressure and that it will be OK if you can find a way to talk about it.
Some of you know DB and I have been having a rough patch. He's expected home for R n R really SOON. Its been about a month and things have been really "off" I've been Debbie Downer on here cause I've been so worried and all. Just thought I'd post so that any gals who go through something similiar are prepared.
DB has been pulling away from me. Most recently everytime we talked he's been telling me what an asshole he can be. I haven't heard the sweet or loving sentiment from him that I used to get. I used to get sweet little IMs all the time now none. Its like the man I loved was just disappearing. I was freaking out thinking he was going to come home and break things off. Well I sent him an email that finally got thru to him. Today he said its all been just stress about coming home on leave. "You've built me into the man in your mind that I can't be. I'm just me." Thank god he finally said it.
We chatted just a little but it was such a weight off of me. I know we will be OK once he gets home. This is the first time he's had anyone stick with him thru a deployment and he's just putting way too much pressure on himself ....so if your SO starts to act this way just know its nerves, its stress, its pressure and that it will be OK if you can find a way to talk about it.