Well, DH is at MEPS right now and he ships out for basic at 5 am tomorrow morning. I am going to see him tonight, but I can't believe he is really going now. I don't want him to go, though I know it is the best thing for our family. I want him to be here when the baby is born (but he won't be) and I want him to be here for everything else. I don't want to live with my parents until June, when he finishes training and we get stationed somewhere. Plus, my parents are so clueless. They see no reason to be upset... not to mention I only have 2 friends here. This is really just a big whine, but it is all just hitting me that he is really going and I won't see him for 14-15 weeks. I hope he gets through in-processing quickly so I have an address to write to him at and everything. I just have no idea how I am going to handle this... I know we will deal with MUCH longer deployments once he is done with training, but at least then I won't be freaking pregnant!!!

:hugs you will be amazed to find out how strong you really are! You can handle this!

:hugs you will be amazed to find out how strong you really are! You can handle this!

I agree!! I am going through my first deployment now.... I swear to you I though i was going to die being alone without DH. But really I found out that I am a very strong person and I had no idea. Thanks to this situation, I have found a new me, and its a great feeling!!!
:hugs I hope all goes well!!

Your in the right spot for support!!!!

Hey hun...my husband just left 5 weeks ago for basic. I know how hard it is to watch them leave and knowing they're going to miss a birth. Trust me, the first 2 weeks are hell, but after that you still miss them, but it starts getting easier. Get into a routine. Spend time with friends and family, take up a hobby. Keep your calendar full. The weeks will fly by when you're busy, and after your baby is here, you're going to be super busy, and he'll be back before you know it!! There is a ton of support here. We're always here for you...good times and venting times, lol. If you ever wanna talk you can pm me, im here pretty much everyday. :hugs

:edit Just wanted to add...when you're in love, you keep them around because you want them there, not because you need them. You'll find out just how strong you really are, and become really independent. And my husband being gone has made me realize how much I love him and want him. You feel like you took their presence for granted, and when they come home it's going to make your relationship that much better. And dh has even told me that being away has made him want to be a better husband/father. It's all for the good, and it's going to be okay, he's going to come home!!!

:edit Just wanted to add...when you're in love, you keep them around because you want them there, not because you need them. You'll find out just how strong you really are, and become really independent. And my husband being gone has made me realize how much I love him and want him. You feel like you took their presence for granted, and when they come home it's going to make your relationship that much better. And dh has even told me that being away has made him want to be a better husband/father. It's all for the good, and it's going to be okay, he's going to come home!!!

:agree :hugs

My dh has been gone for about 2 weeks now. I realize that I have amazing strength. I have my 20 month old twins and my 5 year old here all alone in a place where I have no friends or family. I debated going back home to live with family but I thought this will not be the last time he will be separated and I want to know that I can do this. Guess what, I can do it. Dont get me wrong I miss dh madly. I cant wait until he is back but this amazing thing is happening...My love has only grown more stronger, I learned that I can change a tire on my own, and my twins are really going kill me:teehee. Everyday, I am learning how to be independent and I am sooo proud of myself. Not to mention, I am SOOO proud of Dh for the sacrifice. I know that he is just as hard for him to be away as it is to not have him here

Oh yeah, You will get some of the most romantic letters ever. Its amazing to read all the beautiful letters him sent me. Makes me realize that I love him more and more everyday.

:hugs You two will make it through this. If you need anything I will be down there in 16 days!

:hugs You two will make it through this. If you need anything I will be down there in 16 days!

Thanks!! We definitely need to hang out once you get down here... sitting around the house is definitely not going to help time go any faster!!!

you will be able to make, he is doing something to better himself and his family, he has reasons for doing this...it will make the relationship stronger and you will get stronger...do things for yourself while he is gone....

hey, we're all here for you, the first day he was gone and a few days following were the hardest days i have ever gone through. but you will make it through i promise...its only been 10 days for me, and feels like 20 but i promise you....you will feel a lot better within the first week....the day he left i thought i'd be crying 24/7 till i saw him again. you'll be okay i promise! pm me if you want to talk =)