I asked him if he still wanted me. I said I needed to know.

He told me he loves me...but no.

So last night I cried, I sobbed and I bawled. I don't know how two people who said they love each other could go so wrong.

I told him if I had felt he wanted me to I would've waited for him for as long as it took but I can't do it alone. It takes two to be in a relationship, and two to make it work, especially a long distance relationship. I wasn't feeling it from him for a while now and I only heard "I love you" one time in the last month.

So...I love him and I'm in so much pain right now I can't see straight but it's through. It's done and I'm free.

Maybe now I can find someone who can tell me and show me he loves me and is grateful every day that I'm in his life instead of dialing into the relationship whenever he feels like it and throws around the words "I love you" when it's convenient or to show what a victim he is in all this.

Someone on here said once that love is not a feeling, it's a decision. I partly agree...it's a feeling AND a decision and you have to decide to participate in love not just sit there and expect it to happen to you.

So...I'm not leaving this forum and I'm not even going to take a break because you ladies are some of the most wonderful women I've encountered and I need you now more than ever!!

Awww hun..I'm so sorry to hear about this... It's really depressing me, hearing about how all these "men" are treating the women who stand behind them no matter what... You WILL find someone so much better that will show you how much they love you every single day. And I'm glad you're staying on here!!!! :D

Awww hun..I'm so sorry to hear about this... It's really depressing me, hearing about how all these "men" are treating the women who stand behind them no matter what... You WILL find someone so much better that will show you how much they love you every single day. And I'm glad you're staying on here!!!! :D

I've seen it coming for a while now and fought it for a long time but no matter how much it hurts now it will hurt me less in the long run to let him go now than to fruitlessly beat my heart against a wall every day. He's a good man, he's just not ready for a real relationship and all the work it entails.

Thank you!!!

I'm glad you're staying, too. :hugs to you, I hope things work out in the long run. I think what you said is true: Love is part work and part emotion....

I've seen it coming for a while now and fought it for a long time but no matter how much it hurts now it will hurt me less in the long run to let him go now than to fruitlessly beat my heart against a wall every day. He's a good man, he's just not ready for a real relationship and all the work it entails.

Thank you!!!

Yeah some guys just can't handle all the love we give. Stay strong hun and I know you'll make it through. You seem pretty strong already :D
PM me if you ever need to. I'm always here

You seem to be handling this with a lot of maturity. It's good that you recognize you deserve someone better than what he is offering you. Break ups are such a painful thing to go through but once you come out the other end you know who you are even better then before.

You seem to be handling this with a lot of maturity. It's good that you recognize you deserve someone better than what he is offering you. Break ups are such a painful thing to go through but once you come out the other end you know who you are even better then before.

LOL...you didn't hear me last night in the chatroom. I wasn't handling it with so much maturity then. I really thought I was losing my mind.

I know there's someone out there who will love and appreciate me...I thought it was him but obviously not. There will be up days and down days but I'm a fighter and a survivor.

Thanks. :-)

I'm glad you're staying, too. :hugs to you, I hope things work out in the long run. I think what you said is true: Love is part work and part emotion....

Thank you...you gals really are the best here.

I'm so sorry. :(

Thank you...you gals really are the best here.

DF and I got in an epic fight once. I mean it was royal rumble 2007 and I am amazed we made it through this experience. Anyways, I got so angry I threw all of his shit off of my balcony. His camo budweiser hat still sits on the car port roof. You can't always be mature so don't feel bad about flipping out. Allow yourself to get that out of your system and then move forward!

awwww hun im soooo sorry *big hugs* im glade ur staying!!! just remember everyone has a soul mate u just gotta go through a few ppl to get to ur soul mate if that makes any sense lol but hang in there girl if u need to talk just message me

:glomp:glomp:hugehug I love u... n I AM NOT AFRAID TO SAY IT!! Lmao... aww babe it cuks i knoe but he can just -> :jerkit
If u left I would :poking u rather then :consoling u but always remember

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loves n hugs n he doesnt deserve u!!!

XOXOXO
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Im sorry to heat that girl but you know what you have to be strong and look ahead now . We are all here for you !

I am sorry:( xoxox

I'm so sorry :hugs

im sorry sweetie :hugs

His loss :) Stay strong....

I'm so sorry to hear that you're parting ways. I went through this a year ago with my boyfriend, in what was a blissful relationship, and out of the blue it was over. I know how it feels going through this, the sort of mindnumbing pain that sits in your chest for weeks. I stuck around here though and I'm glad you're going to as well. These girls were amazing when I was a girlfriend and have remained good friends even though I've left the club. If you want a little time away from the military stuff, come check out our sister site The Womanhood (www.thewomanhood.com). We have a nice parting ways folder over there too that I spent lots of time posting to and getting it all out. :) :hugs

I`m so sorry for you . Life can be cruel, :hugehug
You had lots of good times ,think of it as a chapter in your life that has just come to an end ,and the next chapter will just start with new unexplored adventures . As they say " The world is your oyster" Live it, Love it, enjoy it.

“Somewhere there's someone who dreams of your smile,
and finds in your presence that life is worth while.
So when you are lonely, remember it's true:
Somebody, somewhere is thinking of you.”

:hugehug I hope your feeling better today. Just sending my love (L). And some hugs your way. :hugs. It will get better. And you will find someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

I (L) all of you!!

:hugs When my DB was being stupid and pulling this kinda crap with me (only in reverse: I dunno if I love you, but I wanna try to be with you, kinda).... And someone told me that Love is a Decision.

I shared it with him, and I held onto it. It made things hurt marginally less. :hugs Hang in there.

i heart you regina you know I'm always here for you

aww honey i know your pain! feel free to PM me whenever!!!! :unlove it fucking sucks :( :bigsadhug

I'm so sorry that you have to be going through all of this..I know that you are a strong person & that you WILL find that person that definately completes you..You deserve nothing but the best..Very happy to hear that you're not leaving & that you are staying here with all of your friends & us new gals..:hug

Aw sweetie I'm so sorry. When I was going through my last break-up I read a quote that really helped: 'Don't make someone a priority when they make you an option.' You deserve so much better. Let me know if there is anything I can do. :hugs

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