....some of the posts about getting engaged and it got me wondering???? Lots of our SOs "proposed" before proposing like in letters or over the phone or sometimes in person! Basically asking us if we would say yes and if we wanted to.
My question is... Do you see that as just putting his "feelers" out there or as a real proposal!!!

PS: Let me clarify... EX. I want to marry you one day, your the only one for me baby, do you feel the same way? Do you want my last name?

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i would take that as just testing to see your response...not a real proposal..JMO

That's putting out feelers.. the proposal is when he gets down on one knee and asks...

Yeah, me too. Just feelers.

Yeah lol ha ha feelers just testing to see what you would say!!! Sorry bad word!

Db and i have talked about it alot and he has even asked me but i dont see that as a proposal i was just wondering if there was many that did!!!

when he has a **ring**, I'll consider it a real proposal :grin:

DB has said things like, "You are my one and only".... "I hope our kids look more like you than me"..."when we get married..." etc. but I think such conversations are just a mutual acknowledgment that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. yay :)

yeah he's trying to get comfortable with you and the fact that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.. also he wants to feel a lil bit at ease when he really does propose to you.. because even though he has you he still has that hidden insecurity that when he drops down on one knee you'll run away you know what im saying? guys have lots of insecurites and proposin is scary!! so he's tryna be comfy and relaxed and basically PREPARE!! i think....
well good luck!!

Feelers. They're just making sure that you would say yes, so that when they do really ask. They wont get let down if you say NO.

Totally how i feel ladies, yesterday i was at lunch and i heard somebody else so that "he proposed over the phone it was soooo cute" and i was just wondering if i was still the only old fashioned one out there that thought that was just him wondering more or less!!! :wink Oh and the other post some of the girls reply to i kinda got a vibe they didnt feel the same as me!!! Not that thats bad basically i was just curiouse

Well, there's kind of a difference. Some guys say, "Baby, I know I'm not there, and I don't have a ring, but I can't live without asking you this RIGHT NOW. Will you marry me?"

In that case, I'm pretty sure it goes beyond feelers. I'd probably say, "Yes I will, but you're proposing again when you get here, right?" :lmao

Well, there's kind of a difference. Some guys say, "Baby, I know I'm not there, and I don't have a ring, but I can't live without asking you this RIGHT NOW. Will you marry me?"

In that case, I'm pretty sure it goes beyond feelers. I'd probably say, "Yes I will, but you're proposing again when you get here, right?" :lmao

Lol ha ha :rofl me too!!

totally feelers

That's putting out feelers.. the proposal is when he gets down on one knee and asks...

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I think this might because I am from a different culture, but I don't make the one knee a big deal. We don't do that where I am from so I never cared if he did it or not. I think for me the actual proposal was when he realized he wanted to marry me and told me that. Then he asked if I want to marry him and that we will get the ring later. We got the ring together a few weeks later and I like it, because it was spontaneous. I don't think you have to have a ring to consider it a proposal though. As long as he asks it as a yes or no question... JMO

when he has a **ring**, I'll consider it a real proposal :grin:

DB has said things like, "You are my one and only".... "I hope our kids look more like you than me"..."when we get married..." etc. but I think such conversations are just a mutual acknowledgment that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. yay :)

Mine proposed without the ring, and then took me shopping to pick it out. ;) In the interim I wore his class ring while my ring was being sized. I got everything, the whole romantic dinner, the proposal and the ring I really wanted... I :wub that man!

when he has a **ring**, I'll consider it a real proposal :grin:

:agree lol

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i would take that as just testing to see your response...not a real proposal..JMO

That's putting out feelers.. the proposal is when he gets down on one knee and asks...


:agree

feelers, i wouldnt consider it a proposal without a ring

just because you talk about marriage does not make you engaged in my book.
i personally wanted the ring, but that's not always the case. however, i think there should definitely be some formality to it. it should mean that you are actively planning your marriage.

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I would say he's feeling out to see what you might say if he were to propose.... one day(before he deployed) while DB and I were standing in line at the px out of no where he asked me, when I get back would you put one of these on your car, and when I turn around he was holding up a license plate that said "army wife" on it, I thought it was the cutest thing ever...... I dont think everyone has to have a ring and he have to get on one knee for it to be one, not everyone is the same, depends on the circumstances, but I defeintly think he is feeling you out for the propsal.....

Yeah my SO says "when we get married one day, we'll do this/that/etc..."

I hate the one day part. I feel like our relationship is in slo-mo. :whatever

i ws asked first in a letter but he said then to a replied letter that he will have the ring and go down one knee what he called the right way.

i think it was to make sure that the answer was a yes and get to know if the feelings were the same.if we were thinking the same way

Feelers, with the exception of what kiwijus said. Talking about it is TOTALLY different from a proposal.

just because you talk about marriage does not make you engaged in my book.
i personally wanted the ring, but that's not always the case. however, i think there should definitely be some formality to it. it should mean that you are actively planning your marriage.

totally agree.