I found out the last time I saw DB he went to a wedding later... rumor has it he "got w/ another girl" less than 2 hrs after seeing me. If it is true I am done... I already told him this. So, I guess I should ask... but really? Idk how I feel other then hurt. :sigh

Oh wow!!!! Who did the rumor come from?! Yep...I'd confront him!!!

Oh wow!!!! Who did the rumor come from?! Yep...I'd confront him!!!

definitely agree! confront him..thats horrible if its true..:hugs :hugs :hugs i hope everything is alright

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My sister she is in the command... he is deployed... idk this just sucks.

:hugehug i know that has to be a hard situation to be in and not knowing what to think. i hope all turns out for the very best.
:prayers for you

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i'm sorry....i would def. talk to him about what you heard...
if he did that he doesn't deserve you :hugs

wow hun im sorry:hugs

Did your sister see it first hand or is it still a he said she said that she just happen to hear? Deffinitly have to talk to him about it. Deployment or not. You deserve to know.

Talk to him about this. Keep us posted!

Well... I will if he writes back... I think I sent kind of a mean message to him. "Don't take the knife outts my back to fast, I might bleed to death. Goodbye."
So, If he writes back I will let u all know of course :dunno

im really sorry this is happening...get the info before any decisions

Awww Sarah!!

:hugs :hugs :hugs :hugs :hugs

I swear...men are so stupid. Lemme know if you wanna talk about it, k??

:( I'm so sorry! :bigsadhug

Omg hun im soo sorry why do guy have to be so stupid sometimes. :hugehug

this is my email update

And gordon told u this? No I did not get w any girl, left the party and
went back to my room. U know Travis and doug told me some stuff about
gordon didn't really think about it til now. They told me he was a shady
muthafucka. He'd rather steal someone else's girl than find his own.
He's actually told them that, don't leave your girl around me or else
he'd try to get w her. So it sounds like he's trying to undermine me and
get closer to u.

^ from John/DB

this is my email update

And gordon told u this? No I did not get w any girl, left the party and
went back to my room. U know Travis and doug told me some stuff about
gordon didn't really think about it til now. They told me he was a shady
muthafucka. He'd rather steal someone else's girl than find his own.
He's actually told them that, don't leave your girl around me or else
he'd try to get w her. So it sounds like he's trying to undermine me and
get closer to u.

^ from John/DB

:shrug Only you will be able to decide to believe him or not. How well do you know your DB? Has his past behavior ever led you to believe he's not honest with you? If it hasn't given you any reason to doubt him then put this rumor on the back burner for now. If you continue to hear rumors then I'm a believer in the idea that where there is smoke there is fire. Otherwise, he deserves your trust.

:shrug Only you will be able to decide to believe him or not. How well do you know your DB? Has his past behavior ever led you to believe he's not honest with you? If it hasn't given you any reason to doubt him then put this rumor on the back burner for now. If you continue to hear rumors then I'm a believer in the idea that where there is smoke there is fire. Otherwise, he deserves your trust.

:agree

This is the story as of right now.

Oh okay, I know the whole story now. Apparently she overheard trav and
doug talking about jamie's dad, whose name is also john. He got w this
girl named jessica at the wedding. So tell ur sister to get the whole
story b4 she runs her fucking mouth.

I do not really have a reason not t otrust him, and I should NOT compare him w/ my exs but I do. I have been cheated on, used, abused etc... So, I am not putting up w/ garbage anymore. <- I promised myself that. I do love and trust him... but that only goes so far.. kwim? Idk everyone likes to tell me different stories, and all I want is the truth.

This is the story as of right now.

Oh okay, I know the whole story now. Apparently she overheard trav and
doug talking about jamie's dad, whose name is also john. He got w this
girl named jessica at the wedding. So tell ur sister to get the whole
story b4 she runs her fucking mouth.

I do not really have a reason not t otrust him, and I should NOT compare him w/ my exs but I do. I have been cheated on, used, abused etc... So, I am not putting up w/ garbage anymore. <- I promised myself that. I do love and trust him... but that only goes so far.. kwim? Idk everyone likes to tell me different stories, and all I want is the truth.

Sounds like you guys got trapped in the rumor mill. I'd go ahead and drop it right now and just trust what you guys have. :hugs

:hugs hope everything turns out alright. thinking about you sarah!

It seems like it was just a huge miscommunicaation. I think if he was trying to hide the fact he did something wrong he would have gotten super defensive and been a jerk to you. He just wants to clear it all up.

Like someone else said, you should trust what you and your SO have and don't listen to what others have to say.

If he has shown no reason to trust him in the past then there is no reason to not trust him about this.

Just go with your gut though... it always tells the truth and never hides anything.

Good Luck

Its so hard to be in situations like that.... esp. when hes not right there to talk to, etc. I know if I heard that from someone I trust, I'd be suspicious, no matter how much I am sure that dh wouldn't cheat. Its just cause I have a really hard time trusting people. I hope things work out!!! It sounds like he tried to clear it up, and fast. Me thinks thats a good sign.

It sounds like he is on the up and up... but what does your heart say? If it were me, I'd got with my gut instinct, you know him best and your gut/heart probably really knows. :hugehug

:hugs it is so hard with deployment and i think trust issues just get amplified...he sounds like a good man, and it's probably true...if you've never had a reason to not trust him, don't start now...JMO

Aw thanks ladies! We worked thorugh a lot of stuff today I feel like a bif weight has been lifted.

The main problem is most of the people I trust other than him, do not want us to have a relationship. My sister just does not like him. Guys in his command are trying to undermine him like he said... etc. I am trusting him, but somedays it is hard.

For now things are back on track. B/w all the apologizing and cyber forgivness today was a long day.

Thanks again for all your support!!!! It helps :grouphug

in the case of your sister not liking him, i probably wouldn't listen to a thing she says that is suspicioius about him...she is probably "hearing" things she wants to hear that could break you guys up, whether intentionally or subconscioiusly....

i'm glad you worked it out though!!! stay out of this forum!!!:P

oh goodness girl.. i hope this is just he said she said stuff!
keep your head up girl!
im sorry you're going through this! hope all works out!

im glade u guys worked things out hun :hugehug

Sounds like you guys got trapped in the rumor mill. I'd go ahead and drop it right now and just trust what you guys have. :hugs

:agree

:hugs