Hi ladies....how many of you would say that your guys are excited about their deployment? My fiance is going on his first deployment in a couple of months and it's sometimes hard for me to digest that he's "looking forwad to it"...is that normal? Of course I am glad he's not going to be miserable, because that would be awful, and I know that he's not looking forward to being apart, but rather to the job and the experience, but ... arg! It's probably an immature frustration, but it's just been hard for me to hear lately. Make sense? Anyone else know what I mean?

That makes sense that it might hurt your feelings a little, but just remember that he's not excited about leaving you. He's excited about his job, which is a very good thing. Especially when his job is the nature that it is. I think it's great when soldiers are excited about going overseas.

I know exactly what you are talking about bc my fiance is going on his first deployment in May and he's excited for all the different ports he's going to see and to actually be doing his Navy thing. And all I can think about is that while he's going to be having a good time, visiting some awesome countries, and doing something that he loves I'll be staying here at home, missing him, hating going to work, and leading a normal, un-exciting, dull life. :sadeyes I'm right there with ya girl!

I think it's pretty common and probably a good thing for him. DB has been in for 11 years and he honestly likes being out in the field. He doesn't like the leaving loved ones part, but he does like the chance to be out there doing something. Remember, our guys chose the military for a reason, and it wasn't to sit behind a desk!

I understand, and I think it's totally normal to be kind of upset about it. My dh is looking forward to his upcoming deployment, and dreading it all at the same time. He is exctied about doing his actual job as a submariner, and about doing something he can feel proud of... but he's not looking forward to leaving me behind.

Don't worry - he'll miss you soon enough! :hugs

Looking forward to deployment does NOT mean that you won't be missed :hugs

My DH is a born sailor. It's what he was made to do. He has never come out and told me that he looked forward to deployment - as a matter of fact he's told me that he WASN'T looking forward to spending months away from us. However - there's just something about being out there in the middle of nowhere on this little tiny ginormous hunk of metal, and I know that deep down he was looking forward to being underway. If I hadn't been there myself at one time, I wouldn't understand. Being on deployment is hard work - it's nice to see all the different countries, but the interim is no cakewalk, don't think he's out there living it up underway.

I really understand how it would upset you, viewing it from the perspective of "oh my gosh he is looking forward to being away from me..." but I really don't think that is what he's looking forward to.

Whatever the branch, these guys train and learn and practice and have a job to do. For the vast majority, there's just something exciting about getting out there and doing it.

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It's totally normal although my DH was scheduled to get out this January past and was stop lossed. I was so upset and he was too, but he says it nothing he can do so why not make the best of it. I hated the prep for his leaving it seem stressful and exciting at the same time. Good luck!!!!

Mike was excited to go to Iraq. He volunteered for it, and he feels like it is his calling to save Marines lives. Unfortuantely, I'm not in Iraq (duh!) so we have to be apart during this time. But it's his "dream", the military is what he's always wanted to do. And he's passionate about it. Now that he's there, he wants to be home with me and our families, but overall he's not completely devastated there because he's doing what he has been trained to do. :hugs Hang in there hun :hugs

my DF actually fought to be deployed...he almost didn't get cleared due to a surgery for a cyst on his wrist about a month before deployment...he would have been crushed if he didn't go, to which i had to support and pray that he would be able to go...

it's what they signed up for, it's what their responsibility is, and it doesn't mean they love you any less :hugs

It absolutely makes sense. DB hates being deployed so I can't use him as an example. But I have a friend in the Marines and he is really proud to have gone over there and fought. I don't know if he was looking forward to it but he has a great sense of pride for having done it. I hope it doesn't hurt your feelings because I'm sure that he doesn't mean for it to. :hugs

Nick's really excited to go too...it makes me kinda :oogle to hear him say "I can't wait" or "things will be so much easier/less stressful when I'm gone"

Mine's over the moon too! He's telling me he has an easy assignment, but dude, c'mon :( I guess he's excited to be doing something other than what he's used to day to day...

I've learned to be happy he's looking forward to it! Everyone should have a job they love, and I'm happy for him as long as he's happy doing it.
It never means they are excited to be away from us, just excited for their new adventure/challenge.

Both my brother and my Db get excited for deployments "go figure" but the day to day stress they deal with here and what they deal with there are TWO totally different things... Plus it's the reason they signed up. To defend everything that they hold dear, plus they get to blow things up :giggle that might just be a guy thing tho...

yeah, i've come to appreciate the fact that he's excited....on most days. every now and then though it totally hits me wrong! but at the end of the day, i'd rather at least one of us be excited than none of us!

A lot of the excitement is from them being able to actually put into motion all the things that they have been training so long to do.

Yeah, I know what you mean too. But it's also the feeling of it hanging over your head... I don't want him to leave but I know he's going eventually so it's almost like I want him to go just to get it started and over with. He feels the same, he's excited to go and wants to go to get through it instead of talking about it all the time... It's complicated lol.

DB is just graduating from tech school and actually said he was sorta pissed because he's doesn't think he'll be deployed. While I would miss him too much if he was deployed, it makes me EXTREMELY proud to know that he wants to and would go willingly if called. I love him.

joe was excited for it. not to be away from us. but to FINALLY be going to do his job that he has trained two years to do. this is what they build up to. so yeah, he was excited to finally get to do it, and i fully supported it. i mean, yeah, i miss him and didn't want him to go, but i want him to be happy and proud and accomplished. :hugs i think it's normal sweetie.

A lot of soldiers etc, love their jobs! And even after deployment, they can't wait to get back and be deployed again. I've had soldiers tell me that they feel like they've really made a difference in Iraq (or somewhere else). It can be very gratifying. Of course he wants to be with you but a lot of times, they really really love their jobs!

Yeah, I know what you mean too. But it's also the feeling of it hanging over your head... I don't want him to leave but I know he's going eventually so it's almost like I want him to go just to get it started and over with. He feels the same, he's excited to go and wants to go to get through it instead of talking about it all the time... It's complicated lol.That is exactly how I feel, just wish he could go now so I could start looking forward to him coming back! He can't wait to go, it won't be soon enough as far as he's concerned. He says he's not doing any good sitting at home.