Ive never cried so hard in my life [Archive] - Military Significant Others and Spouse Support

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 09:21 PM

:hugs i'm sorry.

no one's fault but his (L)(L) thanks <3

that's horrible. i'm so sorry sweetie. :hugs

I know anything I could say won't help. But do hang in there. PM me if you want to talk.

thank you so much (L)(L) the support is enough :) it helps <3

:hugs I am sorry

(L)(L)(L)

what else went on in this conversation...he owes you more than that!!! :hugs

i'll copy the conversation

i want him to stay with me...i dont wanna lose him

smile_in_your_sleep23: are we gonna be able to talk sometime
him: not likely
smile_in_your_sleep23: why?
smile_in_your_sleep23: i don't understand
him: me neither
smile_in_your_sleep23: what dont u understnad
smile_in_your_sleep23: understand*
smile_in_your_sleep23: soo..idkk..u dont wanna talk ever..whats going on
him: correcto mundo
smile_in_your_sleep23: why
smile_in_your_sleep23: look..i understand the fact that we havent been together for the like huge majority of our relationship...but we've overcome things and worked our way through things...why can't we try and talk about this together. like a few weeks ago you were the one who said we were automatic that you'd always come back no matter what. that you do love me and that you were sure you wanted to be with me. It would be alot easier on us in a few months when i move. i dont understand why we cant talk about this together.
smile_in_your_sleep23: what do i do that your so against
him: dat aint got notin to do wit it
smile_in_your_sleep23: then what is it
him: life
smile_in_your_sleep23: cuz i dont understand what im doing so wrong.
smile_in_your_sleep23: life?
smile_in_your_sleep23: you wanted to plan life with me
him: look jus shut up, aint notin wrong wit u
smile_in_your_sleep23: well i just want to know whats truly going on here. i mean how come a couple weeks ago you called me talking about filling out papers to get married and then a few days later u want nothing to do with me
smile_in_your_sleep23: i dont get why we cant work through this too
smile_in_your_sleep23: we
smile_in_your_sleep23: we have been through this...you know i'm here waiting...i dont mind that..and even giving you space or anything...everything can be ok
smile_in_your_sleep23: ive never given up...n u never have before..we don't have to now
him: yes i have actually
smile_in_your_sleep23: no cuz we worked things out before
smile_in_your_sleep23: why do you wanna do this
smile_in_your_sleep23: why don't you want me around
him: i havent gotten to those papers yet unfortunately
smile_in_your_sleep23: what do u mean yet
smile_in_your_sleep23: saying yet means ull still fill em out but later
him: ?
smile_in_your_sleep23: what
smile_in_your_sleep23: u said you havent gotten to those papers YET
him: yes i havent
smile_in_your_sleep23: ok but...does that mean you are going to fill them out?
smile_in_your_sleep23: yet is usually just meaning youre just waiting to get to it
him: im not at all nor planning to do so anytime soon
smile_in_your_sleep23: then why say yet
smile_in_your_sleep23: why cant we just talk through this..put that kind of stuff behind us...remember like we did before...and not have any of that kind of stuff in front of us right now. i dont see the problem with us
smile_in_your_sleep23: could you please let me know your home address..i have some stuff id like to send to the girls
him: why?
him: dont i got them hooked up alredy
smile_in_your_sleep23: well i already have some things i wanted to give to them

Volley1985

03-28-2008, 09:23 PM

aw I'm so sorry hun, I hope things will work themselves out, maybe it will just take some time hopefully

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 09:25 PM

is he deployed?? idk that's soooo weird!! I really hope things work out :sigh

he's in Japan..we have dealt with this before. it was cleared up in a week but we hadnt talked from the 11-26...

I am SO sorry that he is doing this to you. :hugs
:hugs thanks hun...i dont know why he's doing this

We forget it is really hard for them too, sometimes cutting off communication keeps them sane. It's easier for them to pretend that you aren't there if they don't 'have to' communicate with you. That being said I am soo sorry that this is happening to you. I hope that he comes to his senses soon. :hugehug

thank you (L)(L) we hadnt talked for almost like 2 weeks..we have gone through this before so idkk..but thank you so much

I'm really sorry....it must be so hard to comprehend. I'm hoping you can try to calm down and gather yourself together. I can only imagine how badly you must be feeling. Hopefully he'll get his head out of his arse and call you in a few days.

yea..i'm calming down a little more now but i feel so numb...and then i just start up crying again...thanks for the support (L) means so much (L)

<33333!

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 09:27 PM

aw I'm so sorry hun, I hope things will work themselves out, maybe it will just take some time hopefully

thanks (L)..i hope they will..i really dont wanna lose him

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Zoe

03-28-2008, 09:29 PM

oh sweet heart im so sorry!

you have to talk to him, just know we are here if you need us x

Shannon Marie

03-28-2008, 09:33 PM

We forget it is really hard for them too, sometimes cutting off communication keeps them sane. It's easier for them to pretend that you aren't there if they don't 'have to' communicate with you. That being said I am soo sorry that this is happening to you. I hope that he comes to his senses soon. :hugehug

I agree that it is really hard for them to be alone in a foreign place BUT if you are seriously engaged I don't think that is an excuse. You have commited to someone. I think it is a shit thing to do no matter what your status of the relationship. But once you make that step from gf to finacee, that brings on a whole new meaning of your commitment that you can't just erase. You deserve a better explanation to say the least.

I don't know hun. I hope everything works out but then again, if this is a sign of his character you may be better off. But you know him best.

Is this like him? To just totally revamp plans? :dunno

:hugs
Again sweetie, i'm sorry.

Mindy

03-28-2008, 09:33 PM

I'm sorry hon :hugs.

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 09:34 PM

oh sweet heart im so sorry!

you have to talk to him, just know we are here if you need us x

thanks so much hun (L)

i just hope he's not really done with me...its just his moods messing with him..but i dont know..im worried he's truly done done done

:tears :tears :tears

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 09:36 PM

I'm sorry hon :hugs.

thanks for the support (L) i appreciate all this support so much (L)

i'm hoping maybe this is just temporary but idkkk

i dont know...

torie.

03-28-2008, 09:38 PM

PleadingPhantasm

03-28-2008, 09:39 PM

Im so sorry hun :hugehug

i hope everything works out. IMO, he just sounds like hes scared. but he'll come to his senses soon.

Sweetest*Agony

03-28-2008, 09:39 PM

You are an amazing woman. Just from what you told me to help me cheer up I can see that and one day he will relize that also.

Just sounds like he has things to work out and maybe doesn't want to hurt you?

Sorry advice from me tonight is like getting advice from a 2 cent whore in bumf**k nowhere..

But I am here for you... we can ride this pitty boat together and feast on popcorn as we cry.

:hugehug :hugehug :hugehug

lacy+chk

03-28-2008, 09:41 PM

i would just talk to him and have him listen to how much you love him and will be there iwthout getting into saying "are we over?" because he might just be agreeing wiht what you say rather than telling you what is really up...that is what it seems like to me based on what i read of your convo

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 09:54 PM

Oh my goodness... how did I not see this post earlier? I'm so sorry Jenny!! :bigsadhug

I don't even know what to say...I'm just so sorry that its come to that. He is such a jerk for not providing even a reason and to lead it on this long without even talking to you about it... :hugs :hugs :hugs

thanks so much hun (L) your support has been so amazing. and i just hope maybe this is a temporary freak out...but even if its not im definitely not gonna leave you wonderful ladies :)

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Im so sorry hun :hugehug

i hope everything works out. IMO, he just sounds like hes scared. but he'll come to his senses soon.

thank you (L) i like that opinion..cuz we have gone through this before and he said he was done and everything and then a few days later came back to me.

You are an amazing woman. Just from what you told me to help me cheer up I can see that and one day he will relize that also.

Just sounds like he has things to work out and maybe doesn't want to hurt you?

Sorry advice from me tonight is like getting advice from a 2 cent whore in bumf**k nowhere..

But I am here for you... we can ride this pitty boat together and feast on popcorn as we cry.

:hugehug :hugehug :hugehug

aww hun your advice is just fine :) (L) but sounds ok to me..lets eat haha (L)(L)(L) i hope this IS temp. we've been trough this before i dont see why we cant work this out

i would just talk to him and have him listen to how much you love him and will be there iwthout getting into saying "are we over?" because he might just be agreeing wiht what you say rather than telling you what is really up...that is what it seems like to me based on what i read of your convo

yea im avoiding saying things like since we're over or anything along those lines. i sent one last message to him so im not pushing him..."well you know im not gonna give up because i never have and im not going to now. I care about you and i'll be right here waiting still. i'm keeping my promise. I love you <3 i'm not going give up"
so i'll just let him know im still here and hopefully this will be ok.

thanks so much hun (L)(L) youre and amazing support :)

(L)(L)(L)(L)(L)

Sweetest*Agony

03-28-2008, 10:02 PM

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 10:05 PM

I bet you that you two can work it out.

Things get hard for them at times, I just learned that, and when they get hard they push away.

If the past is any aid for showing the future then your past with him shows a hopefully future.

:hugehug

thanks :) :)
i like that thinking :) (L)

i still have that hope...just some hurts covering it.

thank you thank you (L)(L)(L)

lacy+chk

03-28-2008, 10:09 PM

sounds like a good message you sent...i just hope he decides to talk to you and work it out...:hugs:hugs:hugs

MrsKola

03-28-2008, 10:12 PM

miramargirl

03-28-2008, 10:12 PM

so sorry sweetie:bigsadhug

martiemullet

03-28-2008, 10:12 PM

i'm sorry babe... i really hope he gets his head on straight... i'm here if you need anything

BLBnJVB3

03-28-2008, 10:14 PM

I'm sorry hun. I hope things work out the way you want. :hugs

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 10:14 PM

sounds like a good message you sent...i just hope he decides to talk to you and work it out...:hugs:hugs:hugs

thanks hun! :) :) you're amaazin :) :P
i'm glad i have you all or else id be soo worse off

i hope so too

really before was worse he said im breaking up with you and i need my dogtags back and as u saw he never said any of that.
he's coming up on a like 35 day ish training thing sooo could be that causing crap. of course he acts as tho lifes all dandy and its not bothering him to not talk to me which makes me feel like he doesnt love me...i hope he comes around

(L)(L)(L)

semperkiss

03-28-2008, 10:17 PM

omg...i'm so so so so so so sorry..things will get better...just give him some space.

semperkiss

03-28-2008, 10:20 PM

Im so sorry hun :hugehug

i hope everything works out. IMO, he just sounds like hes scared. but he'll come to his senses soon.

what is IMO???

Shanoony

03-28-2008, 10:22 PM

:hugs I'm sorry hun. I hope the two of you can work things out! :hugs :hugs :hugs

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 10:22 PM

You said you've been through this before... Is there something similar between the situations that maybe would trigger this kind of reaction, because maybe if you can tie them all together the two of you can talk about those triggers and work between the two of you to avoid them.

.... idk if that helps.

On a completely different note, Im sorry you're going through this. Just remember things don't happen for no reason, so if this is what is meant to be than this is what is meant to be. There is a plan for you in life and if this doesn't work out, just learn from in and make yourself a better stronger person. I know you love him alot, but you are a beautiful, intelligent woman and if he takes that for granted, maybe there is someone else out there who would cherish and respect that.

... I hope I helped a little bit.

thank you sooo much! (L)(L) that meant alot to hear that <3
yea there are lots of similarity type things. and it makes me think that it really isnt over

see hes getting ready to leave from over there again in a while and for a good length of time and he did this right before he left for korea too.

thank you soo incredibly much (L)(L)(L)

so sorry sweetie:bigsadhug

:hugs thank you (L)

i'm sorry babe... i really hope he gets his head on straight... i'm here if you need anything

thanks (L)(L)(L)(L) :hugs i hope this is temporary stupidity

I'm sorry hun. I hope things work out the way you want. :hugs

thanks :) i hope things can be ok (L)(L)

Sweetest*Agony

03-28-2008, 10:25 PM

Hold the phone.. How could he not love you?

You are a kind compassionate human being that has killer looks, wich btw I am JEALOUS (sp) of...

:hide

Teachercat

03-28-2008, 10:26 PM

OK...First have you looked in the mirror? You are beautiful!!!! You have supportive of others and you have been supportive of him. So now you are going to have to get all the tears out and decide what you are going to do next.
Some thoughts...
From your posts everytime he pulls back you go forward, so perhaps this is his way of "testing" your commitment. He may not feel worthy of love and he needs to push you to see if you love him. This is a little fucked up because it is all based on his insecurities and you can't win. Thus only HE can decide if he wants t be with you.

Perhaps as oppsed to texting him or even writing him right now you wait...just wait...I know this is hard. Decided what you really love about him, be specific. If he contacts you during this waiting time, simply tell him, I am hurt right now and I need to think.

Once you have your reasons for loving him, write him those things. Tell him you are willing to wait for him, but he can't keep hurting your heart like he has been doing.

Be strong and be independent. This way when you both are together you can carry him when he needs it or help him stand on his own feet and he can do the same for you.

I really hope you will feel better soon. :hugs

I also might suggest ICE CREAM.

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 10:33 PM

Hold the phone.. How could he not love you?

You are a kind compassionate human being that has killer looks, wich btw I am JEALOUS (sp) of...

:hide

awww girl haha (L)(L) ur craaazyy haha but thanks made me smile :)
i am happy you got an update tho! :) (L)(L)

OK...First have you looked in the mirror? You are beautiful!!!! You have supportive of others and you have been supportive of him. So now you are going to have to get all the tears out and decide what you are going to do next.
Some thoughts...
From your posts everytime he pulls back you go forward, so perhaps this is his way of "testing" your commitment. He may not feel worthy of love and he needs to push you to see if you love him. This is a little fucked up because it is all based on his insecurities and you can't win. Thus only HE can decide if he wants t be with you.

Perhaps as oppsed to texting him or even writing him right now you wait...just wait...I know this is hard. Decided what you really love about him, be specific. If he contacts you during this waiting time, simply tell him, I am hurt right now and I need to think.

Once you have your reasons for loving him, write him those things. Tell him you are willing to wait for him, but he can't keep hurting your heart like he has been doing.

Be strong and be independent. This way when you both are together you can carry him when he needs it or help him stand on his own feet and he can do the same for you.

I really hope you will feel better soon. :hugs

I also might suggest ICE CREAM.

thank you soo soo much that means alot :) (L)
yea i am gonna wait...hope that things can work out. :hugs thank you thank you it means alot to have such wonderful support

and actually i was supposed to go to the chocolate bar with my friend tonight :giggle

<3333333!

TheHeartOfOrion

03-28-2008, 10:35 PM

LindsayLin

03-28-2008, 10:36 PM

((HUGS))

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 10:40 PM

:agree

And might I suggest Ben and Jerry's Karmal Surta or Phish Food for the ice cream.

thanks (L)(L) :) ooo i looove phish food and karmal sutra! goood taste on the ben n jerrys there!! :)

im hoping im still heading to the chocolate bar tonight..they have allll deserts n ill go crazy undoubtedly..i need something good right now

which all of you ladies are absolutely amazing!!

thank you thank youu! (L)(L)(L)

((HUGS))

:) thanks hun :) (L)

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 10:51 PM

you all have been so amazingly wonderful.
i honestly could not thank you all more (L)
I truly hope i have not lost him for good. and if this is really whats happening i still won't leave here. you all have been so great to me and you've become great friends to me really. i appreciate EVERYTHING (L)(L)(L)(L)(L)

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kittieb

03-28-2008, 11:02 PM

:bigsadhug I'm so sorry :(
thats a really cruel way of ending a relationship.
I hope he realizes how much he is losing by just giving you up like that.

KelsEllie

03-28-2008, 11:06 PM

I'm so sorry baby face. I love you you've always been SO great to me and everybody on here...
My exDF did the same thing...just up and didn't wana get married anymore...I saw it coming, though...and it hurt so badly. I'm so sorry he's doing this to you. I hope he realizes the mistake he's made and begs you for forgiveness asap...but if he doesn't? You will hurt for a long time but you will start to feel better...PM me if you need okay? :hugs

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 11:10 PM

:bigsadhug I'm so sorry :(
thats a really cruel way of ending a relationship.
I hope he realizes how much he is losing by just giving you up like that.

thanks (L) yea idkk its weird he usually says we're breaking up..yea we've dealt with it before blehh...but this time it wasnt that..idkk im soo confused right now

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I'm so sorry baby face. I love you you've always been SO great to me and everybody on here...
My exDF did the same thing...just up and didn't wana get married anymore...I saw it coming, though...and it hurt so badly. I'm so sorry he's doing this to you. I hope he realizes the mistake he's made and begs you for forgiveness asap...but if he doesn't? You will hurt for a long time but you will start to feel better...PM me if you need okay? :hugs

thank you soo much girl! (L) I love ya (L) :) YOU have been soo great. i appreciate it so much. yea im trying to figure out if this is really over or not..its still kinda hanging. this is just all sooo crazy. :dunno but thank you thank you soo soo much youre amazing :) (L)(L)(L)(L)

KelsEllie

03-28-2008, 11:16 PM

thank you soo much girl! (L) I love ya (L) :) YOU have been soo great. i appreciate it so much. yea im trying to figure out if this is really over or not..its still kinda hanging. this is just all sooo crazy. :dunno but thank you thank you soo soo much youre amazing :) (L)(L)(L)(L)
Don't worry your pretty little face about it. Just go get some rest and try to forget it for a few hours...(Impossible. I didn't sleep for 3 days striaght and was sick to the point of puking. pathetic, but reality. :hugs)
I'm here for you babe.

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 11:19 PM

Don't worry your pretty little face about it. Just go get some rest and try to forget it for a few hours...(Impossible. I didn't sleep for 3 days striaght and was sick to the point of puking. pathetic, but reality. :hugs)
I'm here for you babe.

:) you're too great girl :) (L)(L)(L) much much love to you <3
i wouldnt say pathetic..its the feeling...lastnight i didnt sleep like at all and ive been sick alll day :( blehh. my friends supposed to take me out to some nice place just to hang out n catch up but she still hasnt called :( :(
but thank you so incredibly much its great to know i have great girls around :) :)

(L)(L)(L)(L)(L)(L)

LovingMyMarine22

03-28-2008, 11:20 PM

I don't know if i should take down my ticker or not...

hmmmph

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TheHeartOfOrion

03-29-2008, 01:44 AM

LovingMyMarine22

03-29-2008, 01:46 AM

I would hold onto it till you are sure about what is happening with you two 100%

Also yay desserts!!!! If I lived near ya I could make you like any desert you want, cause I love to cook and make food.

:hugs

Hope you feel better. I hope he wakes up and smells the coffee so to speak.

ooo! that sounds good :) well you could definitely teach me a few things cuz i loove cooking but i need some good skills :) :)

:hugs thanks hun :) (L)(L)

all this support is definitely calming down some..i honestly dont feel like this is truuullyyy over but ill have to see

(L)(L)(L)(L)(L)

OMG it's Andrea!

03-29-2008, 01:53 AM

:hugehug oh i'm so sorry sweetie. so so so so sorry. i wish i could make you feel better. he doesn't deserve you. i hope he realizes what he is missing. you know i'm here. :hugs :hugs

kiwijus

03-29-2008, 01:55 AM

I'm so sorry, honey. :bigsadhug

LovingMyMarine22

03-29-2008, 01:59 AM

:hugehug oh i'm so sorry sweetie. so so so so sorry. i wish i could make you feel better. he doesn't deserve you. i hope he realizes what he is missing. you know i'm here. :hugs :hugs

heyy im texting you now!! haha :giggle :) thanks girl (L) yous wonderfullll :D (L) :hugs i'm glad you've been there through all this i appreciate it soo much :) :) :wub :P

I'm so sorry, honey. :bigsadhug

(L)(L) it's k..its no one's fault but his <3 thanks so much for the support...i'm so half n half on feelings right now im numb yet trying to be strong and say uve gone through this before with him u can still keep some of that hope
but thank you so much for the support :) it means alot to me to have you and all the other ladies here (L)(L)(L)

LovingMyMarine22

03-29-2008, 02:47 AM

I'm crying AGAIN. why does he have to be like this towards me...he just told me on myspace...well i already dropped my pack for you and looks like i wont be picking it up no more.

WHAT THE FUCK! UGHHHH

sorry for the language

<33333333!

Airman's.Reina

03-29-2008, 04:03 AM

-runs to PM you-

LovingMyMarine22

03-29-2008, 04:05 AM

-runs to PM you-

:) (L)(L)(L)(L)

Southerngrl85

03-29-2008, 09:16 AM

You know it sounds like he is having a really hard time over there. Perhaps he will come to his senses soon enough. :hugehug

USNIwife

03-29-2008, 09:34 AM

:hugs :sadeyes :depressed 4 u. what happened??

TallBlondie82

03-29-2008, 09:43 AM

oh my goodness hun...i am so incredibly sorry...i really truly am...if you need anything please let me know

timsgurl1776

03-29-2008, 09:44 AM

:bigsadhug

Zoe

03-29-2008, 09:51 AM

Oh sweetheart,

I am so so sorry. I know whatever i say will not help but i am here if you need anything please pm me!!

I hope this gets easier sweetheart x

AmandaW

03-29-2008, 01:44 PM

I'm bawling my eyes out...im crying so hard.

DF IMed me...he's giving up.

i said so do u just not wanna talk ever...he said "correct"

I can't do this. I dont get why he is giving up.

I'm so sick and i cant stop crying.

i want this to be a joke. i want this to be a horrible joke

i dont want to lose this.

:tears :tears :tears :tears

i dont know what to do

:depressed:depressed:depressed:depressed:depressed

awwwww hun!!!! i just want to

:reallymad:vent:flamethrow:slap:rant:club:boxing :spank:kungfu:madwife:angrywife:voodoo:shoot :smackup:fryingpan

grrrr... that idiot! my ex bf did this and then 2 days later called me begging to get back with him....
:vent

that stupid :censored:censored:censored:censored:censored i just want to kick his :censored

text me if u want to talk about it!!!!!!!

parents

03-29-2008, 03:52 PM

awwwww hun!!!! i just want to

:reallymad:vent:flamethrow:slap:rant:club:boxing :spank:kungfu:madwife:angrywife:voodoo:shoot :smackup:fryingpan

grrrr... that idiot! my ex bf did this and then 2 days later called me begging to get back with him....
:vent

that stupid :censored:censored:censored:censored:censored i just want to kick his :censored

text me if u want to talk about it!!!!!!!

This is me. Hun I am sorry I did not even see this till now!!!!! :hugs baby girl! He better get his head on straight :mumble

HollySunshine

03-29-2008, 03:57 PM

hey hun... we've been talkin about it all day and you know I want you to be strong. I've given you the best advice I could! I hope you can pull through and come out on the other side better than ever!

Love ya hun... call or text me if you need anything!

LovingMyMarine22

03-29-2008, 04:43 PM

You know it sounds like he is having a really hard time over there. Perhaps he will come to his senses soon enough. :hugehug

yea..i definitely hope so...we've gone through so much and i dont know how he can just throw all this away..:sadeyes:sigh

:hugs :sadeyes :depressed 4 u. what happened??

(L) thanks (L) he just all of a sudden..i dont know..just said he's done...we have gone through this before...but i dont know about this time.
stil hasnt asked for his stuff back though. three weeks ago he called me and was so excited n was like omg we need to get the papers going so we can get married! and four days later he says hes confused...something has to be up cuz u dont just wake up 4 days later not wanting to marry the person you made so many promises with...he promised he'd always ocme back he promised forever....:tears :sigh

oh my goodness hun...i am so incredibly sorry...i really truly am...if you need anything please let me know

thanks so much (L) i appreciate how wonderful you and all the ladies are :) (L) it definitely helps

:bigsadhug

(L)(L)(L)

Oh sweetheart,

I am so so sorry. I know whatever i say will not help but i am here if you need anything please pm me!!

I hope this gets easier sweetheart x

thanks (L)(L) :hugs

awwwww hun!!!! i just want to

:reallymad:vent:flamethrow:slap:rant:club:boxing :spank:kungfu:madwife:angrywife:voodoo:shoot :smackup:fryingpan

grrrr... that idiot! my ex bf did this and then 2 days later called me begging to get back with him....
:vent

that stupid :censored:censored:censored:censored:censored i just want to kick his :censored

text me if u want to talk about it!!!!!!!

ill prbly be texting u later (L)
hah thnks..i really wanna do all that too <3

This is me. Hun I am sorry I did not even see this till now!!!!! :hugs baby girl! He better get his head on straight :mumble

I want him to...cuz as dumb as it is i just want to be with him...(L)(L)(L)

hey hun... we've been talkin about it all day and you know I want you to be strong. I've given you the best advice I could! I hope you can pull through and come out on the other side better than ever!

Love ya hun... call or text me if you need anything!

(L) i really appreciate you being there for me :) it does help. Im sick and im so exhausted today..im trying my best

thanks so much girl (L) love ya (L)

BrittanyJo

03-29-2008, 09:12 PM

LovingMyMarine22

03-29-2008, 10:41 PM

wow, just wow. You were going to move in with his family and he pulls this crap with you? GOOD RIDDANCE. He has been nothing but a douche bag to you and you are a beautiful girl who deserves someone who is man enough to handle this sort of thing at least over the phone. You are wonderful and don't ever forget that.

thanks so much hun (L)(L) your support has been so wonderful through all of this

tha bad thing is i cant tell if this is like before or if this is done...i know it sounds dumb that i even care...i cant believe he would do this after all he has promised me

thanks so much hun your wonderful :) :hugs (L)

LovingMyMarine22

03-29-2008, 11:07 PM

I agree that it is really hard for them to be alone in a foreign place BUT if you are seriously engaged I don't think that is an excuse. You have commited to someone. I think it is a shit thing to do no matter what your status of the relationship. But once you make that step from gf to finacee, that brings on a whole new meaning of your commitment that you can't just erase. You deserve a better explanation to say the least.

I don't know hun. I hope everything works out but then again, if this is a sign of his character you may be better off. But you know him best.

Is this like him? To just totally revamp plans? :dunno

:hugs
Again sweetie, i'm sorry.

i just saw this and wanted to respond. He's so hard to explain. Cuz he's this "badass" guy..idkk he seems to be different from like...anyone and everyone...we have broken up three times now...i know sounds soo dumb but the first time we went WAY to fast on things..well but he always kept bringing up marriage. so after a week we got back together. second time was this huge misunderstanding while we were "fighting" and this time is kinda like the first where he was confused about things.
to me its a number of different things. his cousin tells me how his mom does love him n all but never really showed him much love and he always says they never seem to care so it like freaks him out that someone care so much for him i think and also his ex he was super serious with n was supposed to marry..cheated on him allll through out boot..so idk. i really do want this to be ok. i do want him.

idk :( i know im prbly dumb to say that but :sigh i do love him soo much

but yea ur right...to me once that transition is made its ahuge thing. and i asked him SOOO much your veryyyy suuure this is what u want and he said yea i know you ARE the one. its just me and you forever...and he also said "no matter if we break it off, you know ill always come back"

:depressed..i dont know

thanks hun (L)(L)

erika olivia

03-29-2008, 11:13 PM

oh honey im so sorry...youll be in my thoughts

LovingMyMarine22

03-29-2008, 11:14 PM

oh honey im so sorry...youll be in my thoughts

(L)(L)(L) thanks so much hun :hugs i appreciate it :)

i feel like theres just so much missing right now..:sigh

:unlove:unlove:unlove:unlove:unlove:sadeyes

BrittanyJo

03-29-2008, 11:35 PM

matters of the heart are never easy so never feel bad about how you feel.

LovingMyMarine22

03-29-2008, 11:38 PM

matters of the heart are never easy so never feel bad about how you feel.

I just truly honestly love him SOOO much no matter what crappy horrible stuff comes out out his mouth :sigh

not as if i wanna sound self involved or anything but if he finds another girl back home i sont think she's gonna do like i have done for him...i hear from all my friends there that all the girls cheat on all their bfs and theyre not good gfs...his ex finacee cheated on him all throughout boot.

I would never ever think of that. Ijust want everything back to normal

I dont know what to do...

<3333333333!

Tango'sGirl

03-29-2008, 11:43 PM

:bigsadhug I'm so sorry you are going through this. I really hope everything works out for you. :hugs

LovingMyMarine22

03-29-2008, 11:54 PM

:bigsadhug I'm so sorry you are going through this. I really hope everything works out for you. :hugs

:hugs (L)(L)(L) thanks so much hun...i do not know what i would do without each and every one of you! id go absolutely insane.
im only half way there now..hah...my attempt at humor at his point..sad i know hah...

:sigh

I hope all of you are still willing to put up with me on here :p :giggle you know im sticking around :D

(L) you all

parents

03-30-2008, 12:01 AM

:hugs (L)(L)(L) thanks so much hun...i do not know what i would do without each and every one of you! id go absolutely insane.
im only half way there now..hah...my attempt at humor at his point..sad i know hah...

:sigh

I hope all of you are still willing to put up with me on here :p :giggle you know im sticking around :D

(L) you all

If you left we would hunt you down to bring u back!!!!! Stick around honey! None of us knows what will happen... best of luck and def stay!!!

LovingMyMarine22

03-30-2008, 12:04 AM

If you left we would hunt you down to bring u back!!!!! Stick around honey! None of us knows what will happen... best of luck and def stay!!!

haha yea ill definitely stay :) :):yes
NO HUNTING ME DOWN! :giggle

i gotta think of a new username :unlove

<3333333!

Crazy4MyAirman

03-30-2008, 12:06 AM

I am so sorry hun. If you need to vent or just wanna talk I am here for you.

:bigsadhug

LovingMyMarine22

03-30-2008, 12:12 AM

I am so sorry hun. If you need to vent or just wanna talk I am here for you.

:bigsadhug

thanks so much (L)(L)(L)

i just started bawling my eyes out agian..he took me off his top on myspace...the feelings are all settling in...i cant believe he did this...

<333333!

sweetdreamer_08

03-30-2008, 12:17 AM

i am so sorry hun...and i kinda understand they way you feel right now...i am sorta going through the same thing but db didn't exactly say it was over...but i still don't know what is going on...i hope things get better...i am always here if you need to talk so if you want PM me!!!

LovingMyMarine22

03-30-2008, 12:31 AM

parents

03-30-2008, 12:33 AM

U can change your name, but ya still love him... even though it may have ended... It is your choice though! :hugs NO CRYING!!!!!!!!!! It makes me sad

LovingMyMarine22

03-30-2008, 02:57 AM

U can change your name, but ya still love him... even though it may have ended... It is your choice though! :hugs NO CRYING!!!!!!!!!! It makes me sad

yea i may wait a while before changing it :) :hugs thanks girl <3
im trying not to cry nemore..right now atleast :)

<333333!

missjenn00

03-30-2008, 07:50 AM

im sorry and i hope you are doing better.

LovingMyMarine22

03-30-2008, 12:25 PM

im sorry and i hope you are doing better.

thanks hun (L) im trying to get a little better. :)
things still hit me hard when i wake up in the morning. His mom just called me right wen i was about to call her...he had said he told her everything already..which he hasnt even talked to her! this is soo strange...he has done the same before...he acts this way and its so not undrstandable. He IMed me lastnight..he IMed me FIRST. he told me he was deleteing me from myspace but thats not something new to me. its like his little temper tantrum :tantrum.

oo goodness i dont know..taking this day by day for sure.
thank you soo much (L) :) :hugs

<3333333!

lorie1482

03-30-2008, 02:48 PM

I'm sorry, I hope things work out for you two!!!

usmc_wifey85

03-30-2008, 02:59 PM

:hugs Im so sorry sweetie.

LovingMyMarine22

03-30-2008, 03:38 PM

:hugs Im so sorry sweetie.

:) (L) thanks for the support (L)
I'm still trying to figure it all out and what exactly is going on

i was supposed to call his mom this morning and right when i went to call her she called me and she said she hasnt heard from him in days and has no idea whats going on...so he DIDNT tell her like he said..:thinking:thinking

this is interesting

<33333333!

LovingMyMarine22

03-30-2008, 03:39 PM

I'm sorry, I hope things work out for you two!!!

:) thanks so much (L)

ArmyWifeKelly

04-02-2008, 08:14 PM

LovingMyMarine22

04-02-2008, 08:21 PM

My heart hurts for you. I'm sorry he hurt you. I wish I could tell you I know exactly what you're going through or what to do, but I can't. There are two ways this can go. He can come to you and you two can get back together. Or, you will not get back together and you will need to move on. I don't think you're silly (I think that's what you said) for holding onto hope, but I don't want you to hold on forever. Yes, you love him and that takes a very long time to fade, but if it does fade, let it. I think it can end with him realizing he loves you and you two can get back together. However it ends, I definitely think that right now, you should give him his space. If he doesn't want to talk, then let him be. I like what someone said about figuring out what you love about him. That is a wonderful idea. Use this time to figure out what you love about him. Why do you want to be with him? What draws you to him? What makes you love him? My DH cheated on me and when I chose to stay with him, I had to ask myself those and many other hard questions. I know it's different, but I want you to know that we all have difficult questions we need to ask and answer. I will be thinking about you. Keep us updated on what happens. We all care about you.

Thank you soo incredibly much (L)
that was really good to read <3 and you are right. and i dont know whats going to happen..at this point things are as is and its done..and he supposedly is talking to some girl..but to me things dont fade too quickly and i gave him all i had and sacrificed alot and i kno the girls back home for him and ive heard alott about them and they dont keep to themselves much..they like to have many different boyfriends..and this is the one thing me and him agreed on at the beginning of our relationship..we were done playing silly games..we wanted something real a real realtionship and we had that. alot of those girls he talks to dont care about much of anything except for themselves so maybe this is just him learning the hard way. his best friend even said to me "he's stupid..thats screwed up.he's an idiot and he needs to figure out what he's doing" and his mom doesnt even get it she absolutely can not understand the situation.

thank you soo much. that was incredible to read and i appreciate it more than anything (L)

(L)(L)(L)(L)(L)(L)

square bear

04-02-2008, 08:22 PM

I'm so sorry this happened! Reading this thread reminds me of a situation I was in that was, I kid you not, EXACTLY like this one. Please keep us updated! PM me if you need to talk or vent dear :hugs

LovingMyMarine22

04-02-2008, 08:23 PM

I'm so sorry this happened! Reading this thread reminds me of a situation I was in that was, I kid you not, EXACTLY like this one. Please keep us updated! PM me if you need to talk or vent dear :hugs

thanks so much hun (L) :)
it helps to have all this wonderful support. i'm trying to take that step forward but its definitely hard as hell to do.

:hugs thanks so much :) (L)(L)(L)

<333333!

Brittany Rashel

04-02-2008, 08:24 PM

I'm sorry sweetie! My DH broke up with me while he was deployed (we were dating then) but we got back together (obviously). Maybe it will happen that way for you too. You're in my :pray.

girl20racer

04-02-2008, 08:25 PM

I'm so sorry sweetie :bigsadhug

LovingMyMarine22

04-02-2008, 08:31 PM

I'm sorry sweetie! My DH broke up with me while he was deployed (we were dating then) but we got back together (obviously). Maybe it will happen that way for you too. You're in my :pray.

(L) thanks hun :)

how long were you split up? if you dont mind me asking :) :hugs

TIA!

<3333333!

LovingMyMarine22

04-02-2008, 08:31 PM

I'm so sorry sweetie :bigsadhug

thanks hun (L) :) i hope all will be ok and if it is for sure done for good never to be again..i can move forward ok.

:hugs thanks!

(L)(L)(L)(L)

kimmie

04-02-2008, 08:41 PM

:pray:pray I will pray that he will come around once he has time to think about it...

LovingMyMarine22

04-02-2008, 09:17 PM

:pray:pray I will pray that he will come around once he has time to think about it...

thanks so much hun :) (L) i love prayer..it helps sooo much (L)

<333333!

figsflower

04-05-2008, 03:21 AM

Maybe he is going through something that he is not ready to open up about because it may invovle to many emotions that he can't deal with at a time like this, But he owes you more just that regardless of what he is going through... Im so so sorry but if your strong enough to support a military man then i believe that you are strong enough to get through this for you!!:hugehug:hugehug

ProudArmyWifeD

04-05-2008, 04:39 AM

thanks so much hun (L)(L) your support has been so wonderful through all of this

tha bad thing is i cant tell if this is like before or if this is done...i know it sounds dumb that i even care...i cant believe he would do this after all he has promised me

thanks so much hun your wonderful :) :hugs (L)

thanks hun (L) im trying to get a little better. :)
things still hit me hard when i wake up in the morning. His mom just called me right wen i was about to call her...he had said he told her everything already..which he hasnt even talked to her! this is soo strange...he has done the same before...he acts this way and its so not undrstandable. He IMed me lastnight..he IMed me FIRST. he told me he was deleteing me from myspace but thats not something new to me. its like his little temper tantrum :tantrum.

oo goodness i dont know..taking this day by day for sure.
thank you soo much (L) :) :hugs

<3333333!

:hugehug :hugehug :hugehug

First let me say I am so terribly sorry that you are hurting. It is always hard to work through a :unlove.

But...I read this entire thread, and especially from the above quotes - I'm wondering why you want to be in a relationship with someone who regularly acts this way and treats you like this? You keep saying you love him so much even though he says mean things, does mean things, treats your poorly. Why? What redeeming qualities does he have?

I'm not trying to be harsh, but what I am trying to say is...you deserve better. You deserve to know you are loved, to be treated as such. You deserve someone who doesn't throw little fits and play baby games like deleting you from his MySpace (and IMing to TELL you so). You deserve to be with someone who respects you and himself. :dunno

I really hope you feel better soon, I know this is so hard, but please keep in mind that things happen for a reason (even when we can't SEE that reason at the time) and that you are destined for great things. Focus on how wonderful you are, never lose sight of that!

smokeyrose21

04-05-2008, 06:03 AM

:hugs

rachelelizabeth

06-11-2008, 05:54 PM

Gosh, I'm very sorry. If he's hurting you like this you at least owe it to yourself to keep busy and try to have fun while he's figuring out what the hell he's doing.

I had a horrible dream just like this a few nights ago and I can safetly say that I know the emotions you're having and it's just a really hard thing to go through. If my dream made me as upset as I was then I can only imagine how you're feeling. But you are a very pretty girl and from what I can see you have a beautiful personality.. you definitely deserve the best treatment and if he cannot provide that for you then it would be in your best personal interest to find somebody who can.

I hope everything goes well for you and that you can find the answers you are looking for.
Feel free to PM me anytime. :hugs

semperkiss

06-11-2008, 06:45 PM

i'm so sorry hun!!! :bigsadhug:bigsadhug:bigsadhug

we're all here for you!!! :hugs

I agree

machinmj

06-13-2008, 01:23 AM

LovingMyMarine22

06-13-2008, 01:33 AM

I'm sooo sorry I really am...I wish I could make things better for you but all I can really say is I hope things work out and just remember if they don't they weren't meant to be. I know that's the last thing you want to hear but its the truth. Stay strong hun he'll come around it's just a matter of time, I would quit trying to talk to him and just wait it out until he starts talking to you I know that sucks but I think it's best.
And just know I'm here if you ever need to talk feel free to pm me. I hope you feel better soon you don't deserve this! :bigsadhug

hey :hugs thanks so much for all that (L) means alot
well this was a little while ago soo theres been some craziness!! haha Carlos and i have talked for a while since this and we had some big fights but a week ago he told me he wanted to see me wen he came home and that hopefully something good came of that and that he thinks we're "meant to be" cuz we talk no matter what and all that. Things are crazy right now between us and i dont know which way anything is gonna go and its hard to not know...cuz its like he'll IM me cuz he wants that connection between us...but..he wont really talk...idkk its craziness right now. It really has been Japan that has affected him so we'll see. I miss him like crazy still.
but i appreciate everything so much :hugs thank you (L)(L)(L)

LovingMyMarine22

06-13-2008, 01:35 AM