I didnt honestly think I would get here but here I am. My DB and I are going to part ways. Its been great to have all the support and talk with all you great ladies.

As far as he and I go I have no clue what other option I have then to leave. I am constantly covering how I feel just so not to cause a fight. its not at all right and its not fare to me. Its to the point now that I am getting sick over it cause I fake it when we talk and say nothing is wrong but then when I do bring it up nothing changes. The situation is really complicated and its been going down hill for a while. I am just now finally tired of trying to fake it. Its not making me happy and its not healthy while pregnant. Its time to put baby first and thats just what I plan to do.

Thanks again girls for everything. i think I may take a few days at least away from here just to colect my self and try to start feeling better.

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i'm so sorry sweetie. we understand. take your time and when you're ready we are most definetly here for you if you need to talk. :yes

good luck and you know what is best so don't let anyone tell you differently.

Aww hon! You do NOT need to leave, we would love for you to stay here! I am sorry that it came to this... :hugs

Just because you are parting ways doesn't mean you have to go! :hugs

It hurts like hell and I love him a lot I just cant keep doing this anymore. Thank you so much girls.

It hurts like hell and I love him a lot I just cant keep doing this anymore. Thank you so much girls.

I know it's complicated and maybe I missed something but what is the cause of you parting ways?

I'm sorry hun. I'm glad that you're thinking of you and baby's health first. That's always the most important. You're always welcome to stay, when you're ready come back. :hugs

no don't go..stay...................i'm going to cry...if i can find the smiley that does it.

I'm sorry.

Up until a month ago we had great communication. Then no matter what I brought up we would fight about it. It sucked and nothing ever changed. He really struggles not to be on the defence cause of what has happened with his ex wife and there fights. I am not her but it doesnt change anything. He tends to brush things off that are inportant to me and really matter. He expects the world yet wont give it back at all. I have bent over backwards for him time and time again never asking for anything in return and still we cant seem to make this work. He is deployed So I have spent days on end not saying things about what i want just to not disturb the waters.

I really want to get intoa house since I have a daughter on the way and he has pushed hard for her to be his own. I let it go and for a while he was going to do all the papers when he got home on leave so she was his.

Ok the details are he is divorced but they still talked a lot. He pushed off his divorce for a while to allow her to have the benefits of military wife and helped her out for a while. I had been on him for months to get going on it please and nothing.... So about a month ago I get this FRANTIC call he is really flustered. Not crying but really upest. She is pregnant with some other guys kid. mind you they tried to have kids while they were together and it never happened. So now she is and he freaked about it. I was like why do you even care you guys not together and have not been for quite a while. Well after that he has not been the same with me. he Never talks about our future and kinda off and on talks about my daughter like she is his but doesnt want to adopt and doesnt really know what he wants.

I let it all go for a while but its got to the point that no matter what I say its a fight and I cant keep faking like nothing is wrong. My life is on hold right now cause he is gone and thats ok but dont string me along when you dont know what you want. I dont honestly think he does know what he wants. I will also be hell bent before I stick my daughter in the middle of that shit with him and dealing with her cause she still lives out where he is stationed when he gets home from Iraq.

There is a little more to it but it boils right down to he wants me to give him the world and I do try but even when I have a bad day do you think he ever asks me about it. NO! I cant keep pretending that I am ok with it all and that none of it bothers me. Its being fake and only makes our relationship a lie cause its not really me.

I'm sorry hun...but you dont need to go!!!

I have also sat many times and poured my heart out and told him how much I care. HE NEVER even says a word about it. Its like it never happened and I know he reads them. It hurts and you can only do so much then it has to be two sided. A one sided relationship cant work.

yea definitely dont leave!! :) (L)(L) take a few days off to collect your thoughts and get to feeling better and then you come back to us! :)..ok well take as much time as u need..im not gonna push ya here..hah (L)(L)(L)(L)(L)

youre amazingggg!! just from you even helping me out youve been so wonderful

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im sorry and dont go.i hope you find what makes you happy.

Aww hon! You do NOT need to leave, we would love for you to stay here! I am sorry that it came to this... :hugs

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I'm so sorry hun, I'll say a prayer for you and your daughter.

So I thought a lot about us today and I thought for sure he would try to call so that we could talk about it but nothing today! No letters or calls at all. I should have known better then to think he cared enough to try to call. I know he can I just talked to his buddy and the phones and everything are working just fine. This sucks and part of me just wants to say its life so whatever.

i'm so sorry hun...you're going to be an amazing mother and i'm glad you're doing what you need to do for your baby and yourself right now...we're always here if you need us...:hugs

The military may have brought us all together but it's friendships that keep us together! Whenever you're ready please please please come back and let us help and support you in any way we can!

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im so sorry. you are trying to do what is best for your daughter. you already are a great mother!!

UPDATE on me and DB! We are still together at this moment. I am not sure that will last but who knows I am going to give it till R&R and the see how we do. I was away for a day and I was very much so missing it. I will be around with or without him. thanks girls

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i am so sorry...but i am glad you are doing what you think is right for you and the baby...:)