So yesterday I was at work and my co-worker sends me a link and I checked it out and it was a dating site with a picture of my boyfriend (also with 2 of his friends) of 3yrs and 2months picture on it!!!! Stating that he's single and looking for a relationship or just intimacy with woman!!! I started crying and I finally got my act together to ask him about it.. First off I asked him if he has ever heard of the site and he said no, And then I said sure and he said yeah, why? And I told him what my co-worker came across and thought she'd be a good friend and send it to me. And he said we'll I still dont know what your talking about and he kept denying it.. All I know is that I saw his picture saying he wanted intimacy with other girls. He asked if I believed him and I said my gut feeling says not to believe you.. And he flipped out saying that it must of been one of his damn roomies because the other day he caught his friend watching porn on his computer and he also said the night before he got a text message from a yahoo id, saying that a girl wanted to get to know him better... He said that he was going to get to the buttom of it. and he went to muster and then texted me that his friend had confessed that he made it and was sorry but he said that his friend doesnt remember the password so he cant go on it anymore. He said that he was done with it but I still honestly think it was Jose.. It had his sign (Scopio) which means they would of known his birthday and they put he was from Hollister (where we live) and also put Jose's email address! He keeps saying it wasnt him. And if I dont believe him that he wants to end our relationship for me not trusting him. i dont know girls.. I need advice! What would you do?

has he ever given you a reason not to trust him before? guys do stupid stuff like that all the time to their buddies:dunno i dunno its a judgement call i know lots of my friends emails bdays and where they live so it would be pretty easy if i wanted to do it kwim?

I think you're going to have to look at his past behavior and possible warning signs to figure out what's going on. Guys do that kinda stuff to there friends but some guys aren't faithful too. Why does your gut say that he's lying?

Sorry girl. :hugs

I had the same thing happen also! His roomate set up an account on plenty of fish and he never knew about it until I sent him the link! Go with your heart! PM me if you want more details.

Dunno...it could really go either way. It *could* be just his friends being stupid, pulling a prank or it could just be that he's one of those guys. If you sit back and take a good long hard look at his actions in the past, can you see any warning signs that you may have missed? Either way, good luck!!

I agree with the other ladies. Look at his past and think if he would really do this.

he's only lied to me once.. it was back in Aug. he denied staying at a party where there was drunk girls... besides that he no. he hates whenever guys hug me. and i've always seen him push girls off and have been told my girl friends of mine that they have seen him do so.. also but jr year some guy got my yahoo id and started sending me gross ims all the time and Jose got all sad, cause he thought I was replying and i didnt tell him about it till way later.. he said intrenet relationships are sick

When ever it comes to these things its so easy for them just to say " oh it was my room mate" honestly I have a hard time ever beleiving that. Of course if he goes to his buddy he can just have him lie about it any ways. I would follow your gut. Maybe tell him you need a break to think about it. And then take the time to think about it.

and just my luck.. his roomie is grad today

jose also got a werid text message from someone monday night... KACHENBACH89/ Hey, i got your number from a friend of mine, but I bet you cant guess who I am! My username is KACHENBACHEN89 if you.. What the hell?

:no

i guess i would trust him unless he has given you a real reason not to...internet can be anyone...not a great reason to end things, IMO

also yahoo im sends alot fo scam msgs....

he's only lied to me once.. it was back in Aug. he denied staying at a party where there was drunk girls... besides that he no. he hates whenever guys hug me. and i've always seen him push girls off and have been told my girl friends of mine that they have seen him do so.. also but jr year some guy got my yahoo id and started sending me gross ims all the time and Jose got all sad, cause he thought I was replying and i didnt tell him about it till way later.. he said intrenet relationships are sick

doesn't sound like he has given you any reason to believe that he is lying about his friend making it. i don't know your relationship of course so you need to decide for yourself. but from an outsiders POV, it sounds like he is telling the truth.

its AIM im, i added the person but they havent been online

i dont' have any advise, but wanted to say that i hope everything works out for you!! hugs!!!

I really think you should listen to him. Take a breath and relax. My DH's one buddy did something similar to me before. I was oing through what you are. Luckily I didn't believe the SOB. My DH gave him the boot, and we are doing better than ever now.

:( I cant give you advice, DH and I just settle everything by :boxing (without visable marks:lmao )

I noticed that we both gave up IM, Myspace and other stuff. We only text eachother and could trust our friends.

We've seen eachother and done things to oneanother that would piss off people in a normal relationship...talk it out and follow your gut!

I won't give you the advice the other women are because my DH hadn't given me any reason not to trust him and he cheated on me and lied his ass off to cover it up. I will say to tread softly. If you're very concerned, you can make an account on the sight with a fake name and try talking to him and see what happens. I don't know...it's an idea. There will come a point that you will have to decide you can trust him or you can't. From what you've said, I wouldn't trust him, but take what I have to say with a grain of salt. After all, I've been cheated on. At the same time, don't be too trusting or ignore the signs. No matter what you think of my advice, please remember that there will come a time when you will have to decide whether to trust him or to not trust him.

When ever it comes to these things its so easy for them just to say " oh it was my room mate" honestly I have a hard time ever beleiving that. Of course if he goes to his buddy he can just have him lie about it any ways. I would follow your gut. Maybe tell him you need a break to think about it. And then take the time to think about it.


I hate to say it but I agree... I mean seriously, what type of person would waste their time "signing their friend up" for an account like that, and then maintaining it.... I dont buy it :no.. But it is your relationship. You have to do what you have to do. I hope you can figure things out and make a decision that you can live with.

I hate to say it but I agree... I mean seriously, what type of person would waste their time "signing their friend up" for an account like that, and then maintaining it.... I dont buy it :no.. But it is your relationship. You have to do what you have to do. I hope you can figure things out and make a decision that you can live with.

I agree. Maybe check around some other sites? Was your friend just browsing for her our interests when she found it?

my co-worker told me that her younger cousin has signed up on the site, so she was looking for him and she did a search and during the search she came up on jose's profile. but we talked about it all day and there hasnt been any log in since the 31st and when he gets home. i'm gonna get him drunk & ask him about it! haha

:dunno its hard but the gut thing really is a good way to go about it... and not what you WANT your gut to say, but really what you feel deep down. In the past i knew my gut was saying the guy was a dirtbag but i didnt to believe it and "give the benifit of the doubt".. :no bad choice on my part! I do hope you figure it out and it works out though, no relationship can last on lies/untrust

definitely look further in to this..

It sounds similar to me finding out about my mans facebook account.
Where he had pics of him shirtless, saying he was single and looking. there had not been a login in a couple weeks, I asked him about it and he deleted it the next day saying he did not even know how to use it!! lol I hope it works out.

i actually had a similar situation myself where my guy was writing to random craiglist postings to see what would happen. not that he wanted to actually do something, just out of curiosity, boredom or whatever. that is until he thought what if someone really replies and is a psycho. cut that short-lived thrill out in about 30 min! anyway point is like everyone else has already said go with ya gut but remember that guys act idiotic sometimes for no good reason