DH is deploying soon. It will be our first one.
The main 'bummer' is that he will miss the birth of our son in August.
We are fairly new here to base and I have met a few people, but I am so nervous about giving birth without him.
My parents are planning on coming out to help for a week or so, and I hope they will get here in time for the birth (but you never know!)
We also have an 18mo old daughter and I worry about who will take her if I go into labor early or in the middle of the night.

Any advice or help? I'm really sad that he will miss it. (I know that women do it all the time.)

Thanks!

I'm sorry I don't have any advice to give you, but here's a :hugs

I had dd#3 while dh was deployed, in August too!
It worked out just fine. I had a great support system through the family group and great friends that helped me take care of my older two girls. You need to work out some kind of plan with friends or family so you wont have to worry about it. Also make sure that your command knows that you will be giving birth while he is away :hugs

Also, you can look into the duola program in your area. Most of them offer free assistance for the military.

I have a three year old, and wil lbe giving birth in November, DH deploys before then. I have no advice, just wanted to let you know we are in the same boat. I have no friends here, either. Hopefully someone from home will be able to come stay with me for a few days!

so hard....here is a :hugehug
you're going to be ok... i know there will be lots of help from other ladies on the base! and if they don't offer to help then the rest of us will hunt them down ;)

Meghann just had her daughter 2 weeks ago. Her husband is deployed. Maybe she can give you some advice.

I had my #2 while dh was deployed and was on bedrest with a 6 yr old..who had to be at the bus stop etc..

Get to know some of the other moms in your command.. I am a phone call away from my ombudsman to call if there is a mom in need when they are gone.. Esp. since I have a 15 yr old now and the little one is now 9..

My mom got there 5 days before I had my son at the day of 36 weeks... and I had a neighbor who had a son about my son's age watch him.. I was in the hospital for a week...

But I would be in contact with your command and let them know, and they should be able to step up and help...If you were here near hampton roads, There are lots of us that would help that live here... I know of several moms around here...

Go to wive's meetings, get to know your ombudsman, she should have someone in her arsenal of ladies on the boat that if you are shy to ask, she can talk to them herself...

My dh was never supposed to go on the 6 month, I went into bedrest at 22 weeks, and with an active 6 yr old, how can you lay down all the time....

Good Luck, and see about the mommy and me's at the base as well... since you have an 18 month old, those are perfect and check the yahoo groups, we have several moms of tots here, so they have to have some in CA....

Don't stress, and know that we are here for you to vent your stress of doing it all on your own.... Military wives and girlfriends, are a strong breed, takes a lot to get us down!!!

if the FRG has contacted you then they will come and help you if you need it you might have to contact them to let them know your in the hospital, and you also get a redcross call too

I dont have any advice to give, but I just wanted to say that I am so sorry he is going to miss the birth, I know how you feel, Dh is going to miss the birth of our daughter. Its our first child too. It is so sad. Stay strong!!

:hugs My DH almost missed the birth of our son, but he got back just in the nick of time. I've got two friends who are going through the same thing as you right now.

I had out first child, during our first deployment, only 9.5 months after we were married. It is very hard. I only knew a couple people and it was such a bittersweet time for us because my DH desperately wanted to be apart of the miracle- instead he met his son for the first time 5 weeks later in Hawaii and then came home when our son was 6 weeks old. It was hard and like I said, VERY bittersweet, but you do what you have to do. I sent him photos daily and because of a potential medical problem our son had, thankfully he didn't have it, my husband was able to call home whenever he wanted to check on us. Like I said, you do what you have to do and somehow you make it through it and before you know it he is home.

Aww I've never experienced this and I hope I don't! I'm not sure when he does have to go out to sea but knowing my luck I will get pregnant and he would miss it *sigh* I'm not sure what to say but here :hugehug

DH is deploying soon. It will be our first one.
The main 'bummer' is that he will miss the birth of our son in August.
We are fairly new here to base and I have met a few people, but I am so nervous about giving birth without him.
My parents are planning on coming out to help for a week or so, and I hope they will get here in time for the birth (but you never know!)
We also have an 18mo old daughter and I worry about who will take her if I go into labor early or in the middle of the night.

Any advice or help? I'm really sad that he will miss it. (I know that women do it all the time.)

Thanks!

I did it with mine the last one. DH was gone. Use Operation baby blanket too as a support for you, you will love them!!!
I will admit it was sad and hard but it worked ok. Hang in there.