Ok ladies I'm taking a poll. Should we increase the post count requirement for SS rounds? I'm asking because a lot of people (newer posters) have been flaking in the middle of the rounds and a lot of people are getting left with their feelings hurt. I'm going to take a poll and see what everybody thinks and then I will talk to the admins and see what's best.

Wait for poll!!!

Or Should We Increase the amount of time you've been a member? I wish I had added that option to the poll.

I would vote, but I don't know what is SS... can you tell me?

Thanks!

Secret Sister

I would vote, but I don't know what is SS... can you tell me?

Thanks!

secret sister

Ladies as you vote let me know what your reasons are. I'm trying to find a fair way to do this without people's feelings getting hurt.

I vote to raise the post count and the time that you must have been a member of the site. I know that I am getting ready to do the next round and would be hurt if my ss flaked out.

I've never had a bad experience, in the recent past or before when I was more active. But I don't see anything wrong with upping the post count and membership length.

I think to raise both would be a good idea. ETA I think it would also be good if the people participating are active posters. It is difficult to be SS to someone who hardly posts on here even if they meet the minimum post requirement

I feel bad for newer members but you would not BELIEVE how many times I've had to pull someone in to cover because someone flaked.

I didn't give my reason. Even though the rounds have always been good, I was disappointed to see that the member I had last time had herself banned recently. I like to do SS to get to know people better, so it's kind of boring to get someone who just barely has 250, hardly participates on the boards at all, and then leaves because her friends do.

I know that's a super personal reason that doesn't apply to most situations. And I really did like having her, but I think that a higher post count and longer membership time would make it more likely to help create friendships.

:shrug

Could you raise it for one round and see if it makes a difference? If it doesn't bump it back down or something like that?

I say increase the amount of time you've been a member... I know some people will sign on here and have 500 posts in a week :lol... but others post a few times a day and have been members forever

Or Should We Increase the amount of time you've been a member? I wish I had added that option to the poll.

I vote both. I think you should have to have a higher post count AND have been here a predetermined amount of time. That way the newbies who postwhore still can't until they have been here longer and the lurkers can't just B/c they have been here long..kwim

Also, in light of recent 'awareness' of the board, I would feel ***safer*** if people getting my address, birthday, etc were a little more proven. I know we're still not safe, but it would still be better than nothing.

I fixed the poll, let me know if the options are okay...

I feel bad for newer members but you would not BELIEVE how many times I've had to pull someone in to cover because someone flaked.

I hear ya. Although I "think" the first person that flaked on me was an "oldie," but I am not sure. Either way, it's a crummy position for you to be in Kara, because you feel responsible for finding someone to fill in. I wish it wouldn't happen that way, but it does. I don't know if raising the post count will help or not. How may "oldies" have you had flake?

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Darn now I wish I could change my vote :D but I do vote for both. If you show that they are committed to SOS enough to stick around and make enough posts and stay the time past the "newness time" where the excitement of finding something new and fun wears off, they might stick around for ss

Darn now I wish I could change my vote :D but I do vote for both. If you show that they are committed to SOS enough to stick around and make enough posts and stay the time past the "newness time" where the excitement of finding something new and fun wears off, they might stick around for ss

me too

I fixed the poll, let me know if the options are okay...

Perfect!! Thanks (L) I didn't think about it until it was to late!

I hear ya. Although I "think" the first person that flaked on me was an "oldie," but I am not sure. Either way, it's a crummy position for you to be in Kara, because you feel responsible for finding someone to fill in. I wish it wouldn't happen that way, but it does. I don't know if raising the post count will help or not. How may "oldies" have you had flake?

Only 1

Looks like most of us agree that the rules need to be stricter. Just gotta figure out the best way to do it lol

I have never had a problem with a SS yet so It doesnt matter to me if its uped :)

I say increase the post count to 750 and membership time to 60 days. I know that people will be hurt, but it hurts others more when their SS flakes out on them.

I say increase the post count to 750 and membership time to 60 days. I know that people will be hurt, but it hurts others more when their SS flakes out on them.

Very good point!

I also vote that they have to be an active poster. Last few rounds I noticed that some people just signed up for SS and then didn't log into sos for 2-3 weeks, it's hard to be SS to someone who doesn't log in you know.

I also vote that they have to be an active poster. Last few rounds I noticed that some people just signed up for SS and then didn't log into sos for 2-3 weeks, it's hard to be SS to someone who doesn't log in you know.

I got quite a few PM's about that. Their SS vanished and I checked their regular names and they hadn't even signed on. I always checked first to see if something out of their control had happened but usually it was just to busy.

:bump so others can see it

i still have no idea what or how ss works. i have looked for info, but seem to be either blind, uber retarded, or both. someone, anyone?

i still have no idea what or how ss works. i have looked for info, but seem to be either blind, uber retarded, or both. someone, anyone?

It is like Secret Santa, just lasts longer. It used to last 3 months but has been cut down to 1 month. You are responsible for contacting your assigned Secret Sister, to make her feel good, send out emails, ecards and if your budget allows you can send snail mail or even a small packet. In return someone will be assigned to you and will do those same things for you.

Here are the rukes from the last round
http://www.militarysos.com/forum/showthread.php?t=142761

Ok well it's obvious that we do have to make changes so I'm gonna think it over tonight and make a post tomorrow with the new rules for the next round.

I agree that there should be a higher limit if people are flaking out. I'm trying to get my post count up so that i can feel more like a memeber here. I signed up awhile ago, but forgot that I had, and now I'm left out and behind.

I think the number should be raised....while i have never had a bad secret sister...(in all of my 2 rounds :lol) i do notice on the boards that so many people post for awhile then get what they need and leave...and it's just IMO reasonable to guess that those with higher post counts aren't going to drop and leave unless it truely is an emergency...and even then (god forbid it happens) i'm sure they'll still be on here posting... :D

Crap, I voted wrong, I think BOTH should be increased.

I think the time length and post count should be increased :yes :yes :yes

I agree that there should be a higher limit if people are flaking out. I'm trying to get my post count up so that i can feel more like a memeber here. I signed up awhile ago, but forgot that I had, and now I'm left out and behind.

Don't worry you'll get there. :hugs

I have never done one, but would LOVE to do this one and I say raise the post count and time...I've been screwed during a SS thing on another board (actually my daughter was) and I think it's CRAP!!!!!!if I can't do it because of posts/time on the board I'll wait till I can I think people who stiff others are rude.

Thanks ladies! After talking to the admins we are def gonna have to change the rules. I'll be making a post later this morning with the new ones.

shoot I voted wrong. Post count should be raised along with the amount of time they have been a member