I did quite a few years ago - about 6 months after my first was born.
I didn't know I was pregnant and we weren't planning on it, either and so it took us by complete surprise.

Since it was unexpected and unplanned it was weird - It was sad (for me) but no one else shared that sadness. In fact, a lot of people seemed "relieved" - I just had a baby, I was a teen-mom and here I was apparently knocked up again without even knowing it.

That hurt - it really did - the "happy about it" view that others took and no one understood why I was upset over it. Not even my husband (now ex). It just left me feeling alone and hollow and very bitter.

And every now and then I think about that baby - boy, girl? Look like me, act like me? Right now that child would be 8 1/2 years old or so - talking and walking, going to school.
Kind of like the child I never got to know and I've always felt bad about it.

And I've never even talked about it, before - but this was on my mind today and there you go, a post.

i have had 4 miscarriages my husband had a vasectomy but there were complications and well those stubborn things came right on through apparently. i was sad even though when it happened we were not expecting it and had no clue.

yeah i got the well you were not trying so you should be relieved speech. and the well you already have 3 kids you need more like you need a hole in the head thing.

i don't talk about mine often either. they all happened within a year and i too sometimes wonder what they would be like now. the last one would have been 7 now nearly 8.

hugs hon sometimes just posting ( talking) about it helps to get it off your mind

yes i did. it was long ago. lets see, about, gosh 26 years ago i guess. i went in for my 8 mth. exam, and they found no heartbeat. about a dozen drs. listened. i prayed with every dr. they would hear something. but no. then they sent me home, said it was at a stage that if they induced labor to pass it i could end up hemoraging, and not have anymore. so the only thing i was told i could do was carry it until my body rejected it. (((that was the worst thing i have or i feel i ever will go through))) but that night, is when modern med. let go, and GOD took over. i went into labor that night. delivered a stillborn the next morning. it took me years to get over that. ever after my 3 kids. my oldest, she is 25 now, says that it had to be a brother, who is her gardian angel, becouse he is playing tricks on her, makeing her fall, etc. she is funny. but yes it would of been my first born. its funny how you really dont know that child growing inside of you, but you have soooo much love for it soon as you find out. i wouldnt wish that part of my life on my worst ememy!!!:tears

Yes. And I wrestled with guilt about it for YEARS because when I found out I was pregnant, I was SO upset. I couldn't believe God would do this to me (that was my mentality) when we had just gotten married, etcetc. I was very young, very selfish, and very naive. I wished it would all just go away.

And then she did.

After a few years, I began to realize that my not wanting the child wasn't what caused the miscarriage. It just wasn't time yet.

Now I can't wait to have a behbeh with DF :wub

Yes. As most know it took 9.5 years to conceive Ethan with fertility medication. 7 years into our TTC journey I was put on clomid for the first time and conceived and lost the baby April 17, 2002. I wasnt far along but it was pretty devasting.

I held myself a memorial to help me cope. I bought a pink and blue balloon and wrote to my angel baby on them and released em into the sky.

I've had 2 of them. Very end of 2003 and then in the beginning of 2007.

2, one when i was really young, and another when I was wanting a second child.

Yes. I was 19. I don't talk about it much, that was a rough time of my life. The pregnancy was unplanned and I didn't know what I was going to do - keep the baby or give it up for adoption - I was so not ready to be a mom. So I prayed alot. And I stressed alot :( And I wound up having a miscarriage before I'd made any decisions. I hadn't even told the babies father yet.

I often wonder what my life would be like if I had a 12 year old (which I would at this point). I know my angel is in heaven, watching over us with love.

I had one in 2004, when I was 19 and dating my now ex-husband. I wasn't very far along and didn't know I was pregnant. After bleeding for two weeks, I went into the doctor and she told me that I was having a miscarriage. I was very sad afterwards, even though I knew that I wasn't prepared to have a child at that point. I was so scared when I was pregnant with ds that I would lose him too.

I have had 2. I have been pregnant twice in the past year and misscarried both the angels. :sadeyes February 19th, 2007 I misscarried at 5 weeks.... I had just found out I was pregnant 3 days before. It was very hard but nothing compared to the pain of losing the next baby. I had a "fetal demise" (despise that word) on April 8, 2008 at 14 weeks. I had to have a D&C to take the baby out which broke me into a million pieces. It was very hard because the baby was just fine one appt moving around, heart beating, they said I had less than a 1% chance of losing after that and well I did. I never thought I would make it to my 2nd trimester and then be dealing with this heartache. The pain is unbearable. I get up, get dressed, put makeup on, push forward but its so fake and so hard. :no
I don't know what is making my body do this but I hope they are able to figure it out since I have PCOS which caues me not to ovulate or have periods so I can't get pregnant without medication or maybe now something more evasive... :(

I had one on January 24. It was a tubal pregnancy that ruptured and I didn't even know I was pregnant. While I was in the ER I actually got excited when they told me I was pregnant :sadeyes I delayed having the surgery that I needed until I knew FOR SURE that there was no baby. It still feels pretty much like a bad dream to me. I had to have my left fallopian tube removed and my remaining right tube is very fragile. If we decide to have another baby my risks of having another tubal are very high. Both dh and I feel like there is another child in our future so we'll just have to see what god has in store for us.

I've had two. One in June of 2000 and the other January 2005. Both were fairly early (6 weeks and 8 weeks) but it was hard. I do wonder, from time to time, about who they would have been.

I have had 2. I have been pregnant twice in the past year and misscarried both the angels. :sadeyes February 19th, 2007 I misscarried at 5 weeks.... I had just found out I was pregnant 3 days before. It was very hard but nothing compared to the pain of losing the next baby. I had a "fetal demise" (despise that word) on April 8, 2008 at 14 weeks. I had to have a D&C to take the baby out which broke me into a million pieces. It was very hard because the baby was just fine one appt moving around, heart beating, they said I had less than a 1% chance of losing after that and well I did. I never thought I would make it to my 2nd trimester and then be dealing with this heartache. The pain is unbearable. I get up, get dressed, put makeup on, push forward but its so fake and so hard. :no
I don't know what is making my body do this but I hope they are able to figure it out since I have PCOS which caues me not to ovulate or have periods so I can't get pregnant without medication or maybe now something more evasive... :(
my second m/c was a second trimester one as well. they are hard to deal with no matter what. :hugehug

I've had several. My ex and I had a few that ended in the 2nd trimester. I was young. 19. We got married VERY quickly after we married (like that week) I started feeling very woozy in April and started spotting. I brushed it off to nothing until the bleeding started to get so heavy I could barely stand. ExDH took me to the ER with my aunt and uncle (my uncle is an RN) and the doctor just said "oh, well you lost it nothing we can do. Better luck next time." and sent me home. two days later I started bleeding so heavily I was barely conscious. Back to the hospital for surgery :(.

We tried to conceive again. And got pregnant later that summer. I went in for a check up and the doctor could no longer locate a viable heartbeat. ex DH and I were distraught. And it affects us still today. After the tests, they could not come up with a reason why I would lose the babies.

After he and I separated, I was able to have my DS in another relationship and my DD.

It is still something I deal with daily. It was very, very rough at times. But I am slowly getting to the point of peace. . . . . . . -sigh- apparently not as close as I thought now that I think about it though :(

Yeah, when I was 14. 1999, christmas eve. I had been living on my own for about six months, and my boyfriend(of years and years...still friends to this day)just held me and cried, too. We didn't even know I was pregnant, but what came out of me was definitely human. There are some days I can't get that sight out of my head, in an old house, the way the wood floor smelled, the blood on the toilet seat, all of it. The way the ER nurses sneered at me like I was some kind of delinquent and should be glad. I was sooo young but so old. Life had other plans for me, but I of course still wonder, and so does he.

I've had 2. The first one was my first time being pregnant and the last one was after my girls.

I have had one. It was in January the year I turned 15. I was four months along. I had just accepted that I was gunna be mommy. It totally tore me up.

Yes. And I feel like I had to grieve alone because DH was the only other person who knew about the pregnancy and he just didn't understand about what a loss it was to me.

I had one July 2002...

I have, its actually been a year ago this week. I was not that far along maybe 8 weeks. DH (well DF at the time) and I were sooo excited, we had started calling it peanut. And he had even gone out to find a crib set, I still have the pic that he sent to me.

I had one in 2004, when I was 19 and dating my now ex-husband. I wasn't very far along and didn't know I was pregnant. After bleeding for two weeks, I went into the doctor and she told me that I was having a miscarriage. I was very sad afterwards, even though I knew that I wasn't prepared to have a child at that point. I was so scared when I was pregnant with ds that I would lose him too.

That is almost exactly what happened to me a couple years ago. The Dr. said the stress in my life was probably the biggest contributing factor. As bad as this may sound it was actually one of the best things that has ever happened to me. I was still in denial about the relationship my then DH was having with another woman- when I told him about it, and that I needed him home that night with me he went to her house. I don't think I've ever cried so hard in my life- all of that in one day. But the next day I called my parents & best friends & moved out that weekend. It finally gave me the courage to walk away from that horrible relationship. I am still heartbroken about the baby but at the same time so thankful that she (don't ask why- I just know it was a girl) saved me.

I had one at 6.5 months. This July will be 6 years sense I lost my son, I miss him every day. The fact that dh and I have been trying for years to have a baby and can't just leaves a huge empty spot in my heart and arms.

Yes, I had one in July 2000, It was unexpected, I was on the DEPO for 11 months after having DS and just figured that was why I had not had a period until the flow came all at once, I went to the ER, layed around for 10 hours until they decided to do an ultrasound and by that time I had lost so much blood and tissue I had to have emergency surgery. At first I was schocked when they said I was pregnant but may be losing it, I thought oh no, my son is only 11 months old I am not ready for another one, and I went thru a period of relief when they told me I had to go to surgery but afterwards it was depressing. I often think about what life would be like had I had that child, but I am a ferm beleiver that God has a plan for us all and everything happens for a reason.

I had one, it was with my ex. He blamed me because my body was not strong enough to carry a baby. I was 4 weeks along and he dumped me after that. I am glad he did now I have my wonderful DF.

Yep, I miscarried 2 weeks after dh deployed and 1 day before his birthday. It shattered me for quite some time.

I remember the nurse telling me that I was stupid for getting pregnant anyway, that I shouldn't have put myself in a trap like that, so young, and with the father in Iraq anyway, cos I could end up being a teen single parent. She said alot more than that, I won't go on- but in some ways, what she said actually hurt me more than losing the baby.

It was such a rough time, and there I was at the hospital getting bullied by a nurse who was taking my blood.

One thing that stuck in my mind was; when I had to go back to the hospital 2 days later cos they thought I needed a DNC- she was there and she's like- "You're back!?!" And I said, "Yeah, I miscarried". And she was like "Yeah, I know, now you are free".

It hurt so fucking bad I was going to sue her... but I was already too emotionally exhausted.

Blah she was a total bitch.

Yes. October 31, 2006. It makes me nervous...my mom miscarried several times before delivering 3 healthy girls. I am not sure if I can handle that. I am trying to get myself in the best health that I can before we TTC. The first time we were not. It was just a blessing. I was devistated...he was devistated even more. And I am sorry if this is TMI I ave never told anyone before but the worse part that I will never forget...when we miscarried we were making love...DH saw everything :depressed

Yes. I have had 3 miscarriages...at 6, 7 & 13 weeks. All were very devastating to me! But I try to stay positive! If I had not miscarried, I would not have the 2 children I do have. And while I would have undoubtedly love those other children, I can't imagine my life without the 2 I have hear on Earth!

I have never had a miscarriage. I was told that I had most likely lost my second son (had heavy bleeding and passed some stuff) but a higher level ultrasound found that to be untrue...he is 16 and healthy.

i just had one, actually i guess technically i'm still having it.
i'm still half numb and in shock.

i had one. I was 19 and dating my dh for less then a month. I mc at 16 weeks and EVERYONE knew. I was finally happy about having a baby when we lost it and I was alone. we ended up in the ER, D&C at 3am, and the pain that still hasn't passed. Its been 3 years 8 months now. I always think about the child I would have had. I never even knew if it was a boy or a girl.

i just had one, actually i guess technically i'm still having it.
i'm still half numb and in shock.

Hey Sweetie, I'm sorry. I didn't know. I hate to think of you in pain. Really, you'll be okay. You will. :hugs

I lost my first baby on my birthday in 2003. I had already named 'him' Alexander, and my ex-H had given me a pair of booties. As difficult as the moment was to lose 'him', I did go on to have two beautiful and healthy children very soon after.

I did right before I got pregnant this last time. I went to the dr at about 2 months pregnant and they did an ultrasound. They could see the placenta and everything looked fine. They tried to hear the heartbeat but never did. The next time I went in they tried to listen again and then the dr finally told us that it's called a "blighted ovum" where you are pregnant without a baby. I was really really upset because I was trying to get pregnant and we really wanted a baby but since there was never a baby inside me I didn't feel like I was losing as much as someone who did lose an actual fetus. I had a d&c and then we kept trying again. That was october 2005 and then in december the same year I was preggo with my daughter now! I feel like I wasn't ready to have a baby a few months before and god wanted me to have the little devil I have now! And I have an amazing little girl so I feel like things worked out for the best.

I had one before I became pregnant with Emily. That was 11 years ago.

Yes. I miscarried our second. I found out I was preggo about 2 months after DD was born. We were shocked and then VERY excited to have another on the way. We went to a family get-together, and AS I was announcing the pregnancy, I got a stabbing pain..

James took me to the bathroom, and there was blood basically gushing. He rushed me to the hospital, and I lost the baby. We both cried and cried and cried some more. We were devastated. It took me some time to get over it, and I never fully did get over, and probably never will. It's a hard thing to go thru.

I have had one it was in early summer of 2004. I was in a car accident with twins and the seatbelt snapped on my belly so they never had a chance. Other then that no I have not had one from natural causes. This is my first to carry to full term.

I misscarried at 9 weeks about 2 months before I got pregnant with my daughter, and again in March 2008, that was a wierd one though, I had 2 positive tests and then the 2 days later I started light bleeding. That was wierd because I hadn't even told dh yet, and I never have.