If you have experienced a loss did you name your angel?
I have read that it helps with the grieving process if you name your angel.
I was at a bad stage when I lost my baby because at 14 weeks the baby is a baby but we did not know the sex. If the OB had done pathology testing we would have known but he didn't. So, we are very heartbroken we will never know if our angel was a boy or girl. :sadeyes
We have been looking into unisex names and have decided to name our angel "Skylar" it has really helped to give a name to our angel. So, we can talk about the baby in the future without saying "it" because it was a baby and it did have a sex we just were never told what that was. I have a feeling the baby was a girl but we didn't want to insult our angel so decided to go with an unisex name.
With my 1st angel I lost at 5 weeks and only knew I was pregnant for 3 days and it was heartbreaking but nothing like carrying a baby, feeling the baby flutter, see the baby grow and move and bounce around and then the baby is just gone. :tears
Well, I was wondering what others have done in this situation. Did you name your angel?

My mom lost a baby between my big sister and I. She named her Alicia Marie..We still celebrate her "birthday" and stuff. It's always a really sad day for my mom. She always buys these little figurines and things like that and always gets on in our birthstones and Alicias too. We bought her a mother necklace and a mother ring and used her birthstone too. Cool little fact is that my sisters birthstone it yellow, mine is red and Alicia's is Green heh... :hugehug

I'm so glad it's helping you to name your angel. :hugs

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Oh Stacey :tears
You are so sweet for doing that! I love you girl :hugs

No. I didn't name her.

Skylar is a beautiful name, Cori...I'm glad you're finding ways to remember Skylar in your daily lives! :hugehug

Oh Stacey :tears
You are so sweet for doing that! I love you girl :hugs

You are very welcome sweetie I was glad to do it. :hugs

When we found out we were pregnant I just knew it was a boy and we had already decided his name was going to be Noah. I also went out and built him a build a bear the day it was confirmed that I was pregnant. I still have the bear and he also has a baby book. I don't talk abut it anymore but if I get sad and miss him. I just hold his little bear. I was eight weeks but I was still his mommy and he was still my baby.

I have not yet. I pondered the idea for the first 2 years. I don't like to think about it. It still hurts.

Danica is the only one that has a name.

The end of Feb. I lost a baby.. (well 2, I was carrying twins!)... I was 15 weeks. I was beside myself with grief. Df couldn't do anything but cry. We had found out they were both girls!.... It broke my heart. Still does. We never gave them names, but, when we do bring it up, we call them "babygirls".... its like our code word. I never told anyone on here.. I coudln't bring myself to do it.... but when I heard you lost your baby Cori.. I cried for you. Long and hard. Because I .. Had just gone through that... All alone... My mother didn't know... nobody in my family knew..... nobody... I was all alone.... :sadeyes

We only named the one baby that was a late loss Grace, because the doctors did the pathology. All the rest are just our angels. You may want to look at the book Grieving the Child I Never Knew, it's really poignant, and helps you through the grieving process :hug

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I think i broke this earlier today!!! :sadeyes

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The end of Feb. I lost a baby.. (well 2, I was carrying twins!)... I was 15 weeks. I was beside myself with grief. Df couldn't do anything but cry. We had found out they were both girls!.... It broke my heart. Still does. We never gave them names, but, when we do bring it up, we call them "babygirls".... its like our code word. I never told anyone on here.. I coudln't bring myself to do it.... but when I heard you lost your baby Cori.. I cried for you. Long and hard. Because I .. Had just gone through that... All alone... My mother didn't know... nobody in my family knew..... nobody... I was all alone.... :sadeyes

Oh Sweetie, Im so sorry about you baby girl! :tears
The pain is hard to deal with. Im here if you want to talk. :hugs

We only named the one baby that was a late loss Grace, because the doctors did the pathology. All the rest are just our angels. You may want to look at the book Grieving the Child I Never Knew, it's really poignant, and helps you through the grieving process :hug

Thank You Tina :hugs
I will look into that book on Amazon now. I have been trying to find one to read.

http://www.amazon.com/Empty-Cradle-Broken-Heart-Surviving/dp/1555913024

Cori, this book helped me as well. :hugs

Thank You Donna :hugs

:Hugehug tnx Cori

I never even though of naming my child.
I guess it might help me feel better...
I just hate the though of even thinking about it.

The end of Feb. I lost a baby.. (well 2, I was carrying twins!)... I was 15 weeks. I was beside myself with grief. Df couldn't do anything but cry. We had found out they were both girls!.... It broke my heart. Still does. We never gave them names, but, when we do bring it up, we call them "babygirls".... its like our code word. I never told anyone on here.. I coudln't bring myself to do it.... but when I heard you lost your baby Cori.. I cried for you. Long and hard. Because I .. Had just gone through that... All alone... My mother didn't know... nobody in my family knew..... nobody... I was all alone.... :sadeyes

Ohh hunny I had a similar experience.
I did not have twins, but I was the only one who knew. Well, the father of my baby knew, but he did not care what so ever.
After my baby should have been born, he came back and demanded to see his child. I pointed him to the cemetery.
I was 16 weeks when I lost my baby.
My amazing babyboy

Yes.

I lost my little girl Taegan Alexandria at 15 weeks..Taegan became my little angel on August 13, 1997..She has a brother who is 11 and a sister who is 8 that know about her & are proud to know their sister is watching over them.

To all of you ladies :hugehug :tears

I lost my baby at 9 weeks when I was 19, back in '92. I never found out, but I just "knew" she was a girl. She would have been born in July, so I would get depressed every year around that time. Fast forward, Rhi was born in July, so I don't get as sad, but I still miss what could have been KWIM?? The name Madeleine always comes to mind when I think about that.

we just called it peanut, i wasnt that far along but we loved that baby.

Cori, I think naming your angel is a wonderful idea. Something personal that will always keep you close to her/him. I love the name by the way :hugs

My mom carried her first child, Karen Michelle, to full term but she only lived a few hours after she was born. We still celebrate her birthday by letting a "Happy Birthday" balloon go into the sky (when we were little my mom told us it would reach her) and leaving flowers at her grave. It's always a rough day for my mom but I think it has helped everyone for her to have been named. I love the name Skylar and hope it brings you peace. :hugs

I lost my first baby Nov 30th, 2004 at 19.5 wks. His name is Ethan Michael. I will never forget his little face, little fingers and tiny feet. I talk about him and his sister and brother will know who he is once they are older.

We lost our 2nd baby in June 2000 at 13 1/2 wks. I named him (I always thought it was a boy though not confirmed) because that helped me grieve. I don't think I've ever told my husband I named him because during that time the loss really shook our marriage.

Fast forward one year later my youngest DD was born on the same day we lost our 2nd baby. Her name has a significant meaning that ties in all three of my pregnancies.

I think about the baby we lost from time to time and sometimes I cry. I always wonder what he would have looked like, what kind of personality we'd have. Is he more like Mama or Daddy?

My DDs don't know about the baby, I don't know if I'll ever tell them either but we'll see what happens as they get older.

I had a still born baby boy at 5 months, I named him Bryan Paul

No I was 12 weeks along with the first M/C and less with the two that followed. I had not felt them move or anything like that and while it was traumatic and the losses hurt very much I didn't think to name them.

I have had two losses and named them both. Micheal Gabrial was born on April 15th, 2001. He was 20 weeks old. It was also an easter sunday when i had him, so that is how he got his name. My second, Trey Allen, was born on Jan 11,2002 and passed away Jan 12, 2002. He was a 24 weeker. I have gone to groups and talked about it to many other people. I have incompetant cervix and had an abdominal cerclage placed when I was 12 weeks pregnant with DS. I have taken him to the cemetary many a times and will definately let him know about his brothers as he grows older. They helped me to have my DS. You do what you feel you need to do to make it. I think that Skylar is a beautiful name. I even have memorial books for my sons. They have letters from me and poems that i wrote while going through my grieving process. I still cry to this day sometimes. I just think that Micheal would have been 7 this year and Trey would have been 6. But it really helped me to talk about it to other people who knew what I had been through. Just want to give you a great big hug!

We named our little boy after his daddy, so he would have been Charles David. we found out at our 19 week ultrasound but the doctors said he passed at 16.5 weeks. He had a severe spinal problem, his spinal column wasn't developing properly and the cord got around his neck. He would have been due on my Dad's birthday. His birthday is 04-05-05, so I get really depressed around those 2 days. Since Charles is making the Navy his career and our family is a beach family, we decided that burial at sea would be the best decision for his final resting place. Everytime to this day we are at the beach, I send up a balloon to him to "play" with. There was much controversy over the fact of should we tell Breanna about her baby brother (she was almost 2 when he passed) and ultimately we decided when she is able to comprehend that he's in Heaven then that will be the time we tell her about her angel.

:hugehug to everyone. I know my little angel is up in heaven looking down at all of us. I think of her when the wind blows really hard. I just picture she's up there jumping clouds with her daddy and great aunt heather.