my submariner is leaving in may on deployment. i want to give him something special to have with him that will remind him of me. i have no clue as to what to get. what do guys even like?

I gave my DB an Ipod shuffle(since its super little) loaded with songs that mean something to us or that would remind him of me. He listens to it every night as he falls alseep and its going when he wakes up :P

That sounds like a great idea! Maybe you could ask him to make a list of somethings that he really wants.And you could pick something from the list.Or just ask him in general is there something that he has had his eye on.And go get that.



I may have to do this for DB.When he deploys this fall.Let me know how it goes...

My guy is leaving soon too. I was thinking about getting one of those accordion looking plastic picture holders (the ones people keep in their wallets). I'm only putting one or two pictures in it at first, and then every month he's gone I'm gonna send him another picture... of us, of me, of his parents, of his niece and nephew, etc. etc. That way he's not just looking at the same old pics all the time.

Also, whenever you send stuff, make sure you spray your perfume or dab your lotion on something (a card, a stuffed animal, etc). My BF said he actually really missed "girly smells" while he was gone last time.

that sounds good. but being that hes on a submarine i doubt i can send him things. so itd have to be something i can get ready now before he leaves. unless im mistaken which i mite be.

My guy is leaving soon too. I was thinking about getting one of those accordion looking plastic picture holders (the ones people keep in their wallets). I'm only putting one or two pictures in it at first, and then every month he's gone I'm gonna send him another picture... of us, of me, of his parents, of his niece and nephew, etc. etc. That way he's not just looking at the same old pics all the time.

Also, whenever you send stuff, make sure you spray your perfume or dab your lotion on something (a card, a stuffed animal, etc). My BF said he actually really missed "girly smells" while he was gone last time.


Thats a good idea with the perfume lotion etc.Also maybe you could get like a pillow case-a new one or one of yours and sleep on it for a week.So it smells like you.And place it in a ziploc bag so it preserves your sent.

Another idea which I wish I would have given him before he left but instead put it in his 1st care package:duh---I got a pillow case made with my picture on it and sprayed it with my perfume so its almost like I'm sleeping next to him. I have one with him on it too that he got made for me. I got it done thru wallgreens.com it was pretty cheap too. I know other guys in his unit make fun of it but none of them get to sleep with their girls every night and like he told me today it puts him in a good mood when I'm the first thing he sees in the morning...yes he is that sweet all the time :P

I gave my husband an alarm clock with a picture frame in it that you can record a voice message on when he was on his first deployment and he loved it. He played it every morning and every night, and he was sure to always get up on time for duty. Plus, the bonus was the picture of us in it.

I gave my husband an alarm clock with a picture frame in it that you can record a voice message on when he was on his first deployment and he loved it. He played it every morning and every night, and he was sure to always get up on time for duty. Plus, the bonus was the picture of us in it.

Im curious where did you get your alarm clock?

Hate to be the one to be a bad vibe here. But DH was on subs for 8 years... and he would tell me stories about the hot racking, so you can't put pics up in your rack as there will be 3-4 other guy's (depending upon the size of sub dh was on the Newport News) sleeping in the same bed (hince the hot racking nick name it gets). So pictures aren't safe, they can get torn, taken, thrown away. And then he would tell me about people getting their stuff STOLEN! Yeah they would find it after they had to do a complete search bow to stern. They would break locks if they knew there was a laptop, or hand held video game system, anything of value. I would not suggest sending any "pictures, videos" ;) as they get stolen alot and you don't want some creepy pervy guy looking at you.

Food will go missing. But then if he's anything like my DH well, he will just give food out to friends and anyone who ask so that wasn't a problem for him.

Send stuff he can keep on person!

This is just a suggestion.I think its a neat idea.Maybe you could go to the international star registry.And have a star named after him.And so that when its night time.You two could be looking at that same star.I think its kind of romantic.

Ok...so I just posted a thread about this actually lol, but I was planning on giving it to my DB for christmas

I was gunna go to a boudoir studio and make him a naughty calender to take with him


I dunno how much it costs, I'm thinking it isn't too cheap....

And I dunno if you're comfortable with that or not, but I thought I'd suggest it =)

i dont know what he would be able to keep with him tho. he already has a zune that he takes with him that has music pics and video. i only have a week or so left to get this all in order. im trying not to think about this.

argh i cant take this any more. i cant i wont. i dont know what to do with myself until he leaves. hes in mass. right now on leave with his fam. he said he mite be seeing me this weekend but he also mite be going to georgia to see his brother.

and then i told him to tell me if im being to clingy or what ever cuz i have a bad habbit with doing that. he said that im not and to just remember that having some space is good. wtf what does that mean. does that mean im being too clingy or not? i cant help it its my first deployment.

If your SO is on a boomer, then a lot of the guys have a SO make a halfway box. I take an empty shoe box and fill it with things for my hubby to enjoy. The guys really look forward to them. I usually put candy, gum, pens, a book, movies, games, and pictures in it. If your SO is on a fast attack, space is very limited. In that case I would suggest send a few pictures you don't mind others seeing and maybe a few greeting cards with special messages in them. You can write dates on the envelope so he knows when you want him to open it.

My dh is on a sub too. I do what the person above me said...send a bunch of cards with different dates on them so he has one to open every once in a while. Of course pictures too that I put in a small photo album.

Also, in a previous post you said you weren't sure if you could send him things in the mail since he's on a sub. You can :-) Sometimes it takes them a while to get it but you can definitely send stuff.

thats good to hear. i want to send him pics from my bootcamp graduation but he will be gone by then. that and some from my school graduation 2. how do i know where to send them and all that. will he know?

I went to www.usmcgals.com and under custom orders I saw all the type of work this woman did. I sent her a pic of me and DB. She made me throw pillow with that pic and a quote I had written. I sent it to DB on Valentines. He sleep with it everynight and has our photo close to him...just an idea...

i get the feeling that my DB is pushing me away. he just seems really i dunno less loving that usual. im hoping this is just because hes deploying in a week or so. on a normal day he would do anything to see me because we dont live together so the weekends are precious as they are now. and these past few days since he went on leave and went home he has been very distant and hasnt really seemed like he wants to see me before he leaves. which i can understand that saying goodbye is going to be hard and he wants to prolong the enevitable. but damn it i need this time with him. selfish of me i know

i found out last nite that his actual deployment date isnt until sometime in june. which gives me more time to be with him. at the same time he is going to be gone alot with doing all his mechanical duties on the sub as they are preparing to leave.

Those are some good ideas!

major news that isnt the good kind. i found out today that my db is now going to cali for some sort of school. he is leaving tomorrow morning so i dont get to say goodbye or nething. he doesnt know whats going to happen with us:unlove so i told him that i can handle him being out there and me being here on the other coast i just cant handle him leaving me. at this point deployment looks better id at least get to say goodbye

:hang:bigsadhug It will all work out. This is all in the price we pay loving our military men.....We are all here for you

:hang:bigsadhug It will all work out. This is all in the price we pay loving our military men.....We are all here for you

thanks. it means alot to me to have all of you girls here to talk to.it just sucks i almost rather he be deployed. but i guess ill just go see him when i get 2 weeks off for christmas.

i got my hubby a dogtag engraved at things remembered and it read:

Psalm 91:11

For He will give His angels charge concerning you, to guard you in all your ways.

what is a rad health program? and what does it mean for my db?:confuzzle

someone help me pls. i dont know what to do with myself and what to do to help my db with this. im trying really hard to not text him every time i think of him which is every minute or so. im counting days till i go to boot camp and here he is on the other side of the country. i hate the military already.:unlove id rather he be deployed