Ladies help me out. My BF and I have been dating for almost a year. We met on line and feel in love. We met for the first time last month. Our time was limited but we had a wonderful time. A week after we spend time together, he get's orders to deploy to Iraq next month.

He has never been one to talk on the phone much or text alot, but I am feeling lonely now that he is so busy. I dont know it is is ok to keep texting and emailing him and sending him letters? I dont want to seem pushy or needy? But I do want him to know that I care about him. He sent a text the other day that said " I hope when I return you'll be waiting!" That's the most of an emotional response I have gotten from him since he found out he was leaving.

Just continue to be yourself don't change something that you would have normally done... but at the same time if you find yourself saying is this too much then it might be :giggle

Ofcourse it's okay to send letters and e-mails. You won't seem pushy, if anything it'll make him happy and show him that you're constantly thinking about him

Goodluck! :hugs

continue to write letters and e-mails and texts he will appreciate it!! I do suggest NOT nagging in those letters and such..or asking why he has not called or texted or e-mailed since he is busy... Just sweet messages, letters and e-mails will make him feel good!

I am being sweet and funny in my communications with him. No nagging or as he would call it "tripping".

It shows you support him!!!!!!!

I would definetly keep sending those letters and text.It will show how supportive your being. And definetly send letters and care packages if you plan too while he is deployed.Care packages keep there spirit up.Well thats what my db says. Pm if you ever need anything! I can get you info for sending packages.

DB always says that he hopes I'll wait for him, which is kinda weird because it's like he doesn't think I will.
(Of course I will!)

I wouldn't see why texting, calling, or emailing him would bug him, but I get where you're coming from; this is why I never call guys lol. I always have them either tell me a time to call, or they call me.
and for texting, I just text him at the same time everyday (while I'm at lunch because he's at lunch the same time) and he'll text or call me after he gets out of class.

Just try to be as caring as possible without thinking your suffocating him. If you think it's too much, maybe it is. Just ask. If you would rather talk more, either keep it the same or try to get more time in.

I don't have any good advice... I have a little of the same fears. On the underways, DB has only been emailing once or twice a week. I don't know how he feels about it, if I flood his email. I've been trying to be patient and just wait for his responses... every once in a while I send one extra email in between his replies. I don't know... I'm going to ask him about it soon. :thinking

Just continue to be yourself don't change something that you would have normally done... but at the same time if you find yourself saying is this too much then it might be :giggle

:agree

Just do what you feels right, personally if i was him id feel lucky someone cared enough to show me so much support :)

Dawn
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I am taking everyones advise and relaxing. I am sending text so he will know that he is in my thoughts. He has texted back so that's good.