Seriously.
yesterday my df told me he got his orders and he's going overseas for 2 effin years:vent The thing is he's barely in A school so we weren't expecting him to leave so soon and so far away...GUAM! I mean atleast it's not the middle east but I can't imagine 2 years without him. How do you girls do it? I know stay busy...believe me I AM! I go to university full time...like 18 credits per semester full time...and have a job. Should I be mad, happy? what? I don't know.

im sorry honey, thats really tough!! just know that as hard as it gets it wil make you a stronger couple!!

and just know you are not alone!! you have us here!!!

im sorry honey, thats really tough!! just know that as hard as it gets it wil make you a stronger couple!!

and just know you are not alone!! you have us here!!!

yes..that's why i wanted to hear it from you ladies:)
It really stinks cus we were going to start planning a wedding
and who knows what will happen with that now

you just take each day as it comes. if you look at the big picture you will get too down about it because it seems so long.

you just take each day as it comes. if you look at the big picture you will get too down about it because it seems so long.

it really does. really really long. 2 effin years is a long time. especially when such good things are coming up. Not even including the anniversarys and birthdays we'll miss but my graduation...his...everything. We were supposed to get married in about a year and a half to 2 but now who knows

wow I was sitting here feeling sorry for myself when I read that some people only have 6 month deployments and DB's is 15 months! Ouch on 2 years! you know, after the initial saying goodbye and being depressed for a month... it really goes by fast. A lot faster than you could ever imagine because the first month is going to feel like a year. As long as you get on a schedule you'll be fine. which seems with work and school you'll be busy busy. Remember that God gives you only what you can handle... so be strong! It'll all be worth it in the end.

Any way to move up the wedding? This way you'd be a spouse, he'd get extra pay for housing allowance which could afford you the means to visit a few times. (I see you are a student and not sure when you graduate?).

You make it through by convincing yourself "It's ONLY two years"
NO BIG DEAL.

You might have to brainwash yourself at first but soon it'll be second nature to think this way :teehee

You make it through by convincing yourself "It's ONLY two years"
NO BIG DEAL.

You might have to brainwash yourself at first but soon it'll be second nature to think this way :teehee

:agree brainwashing is the best way to go :D

How do you girls do it?

I can identify with the work load a bit, although I'm only taking 15 hrs and work part-time.

Though I admit, I was a little shocked to see a "deployment preparation" board, because in my opinion no amount of preparation can really "prepare" you for all that comes with having a loved one overseas. (if only i had known this site existed before my bf left..?!)

Personally, I think a lot has to do with not only keeping busy, but also making time to connect with those who know your situation. Because let's face it, no one really knows what it's about like another military significant other/family member.

Wow. I am sorry. I to was sitting here the past few days crying about a future depolyment that will last 6 to 7 months. I never knew they left for two years. I am a newbie to this. I just wanted give you a hug. You both will be ok and stronger in the end. I think brainwashing sounds like a real good plan. I think when the time comes for me I will brainwash myself.
I think talking to like minded people and venting when needed will help. Also talking to him in any type of communication that workd will help bridge the distance.

:bigsadhug

Any way to move up the wedding? This way you'd be a spouse, he'd get extra pay for housing allowance which could afford you the means to visit a few times. (I see you are a student and not sure when you graduate?).

He wants to move it up but I really can't see myself getting married at a courthouse. We were thinking of driving to cali (4 hrs away) and getting married on the beach but I dunno it all seems so sudden. And yea I'm a freshmen...I'm graduating early so I'll be done in 2 years.

I am so sorry I know it is going to be hard.. But just stay busy but make sure you take some time for you to... We are here if you need to talk..

Getting married on the beach sounds like a wonderful idea. You should think about that one! :) I totally understand what you are going through! Db is currently in Iraq (a 12 month deployment) and he got orders yesterday to go to Germany for 2 years! So...I guess I "feel your pain." Pm me if you need to talk. :)

Although it might seem impossible now, you definitely can do this!! School helped me get through the deployment. While some parts seemed slow, now looking back on it, I can't believe how fast it flew by!! Good luck and you should definitely consider a beach wedding :) Sounds beautiful to me!