well...DB IMed me today on AIM saying...hey baby i love you

like nothing happened.


we talked and straigtend somethings out

but still i cant believe he can just be a complete asshole one day then act like nothing happend the next...i told him we cant let this keep happening...we BOTH have to change somethings about how we communicate.

and then he sent me flowers.

seriously i still have the ones he sent me weeks ago, so now i got this little collection of flowers goin on!!

so things are better now!!

thanks all of you for being so supportive and helpful!!!

I am glad that you were able to talk.

yay!!! im so so sooo happy for you!!!!! =) i knew he'd come around! i know how you feel, me and mike fought yesterday, i called him today to let him know my phones shut off again, and he kept telling me he loves me and its okay, then got online before he went to bed, best conversation in a week!! yay!! funny how we're arguing and getting along at the same times hehe!

While I'm glad YOU are feeling better, I am uncomfortable with the "I hate you/I love you" behavior he is displaying (according to your posts).

It seems borderline abusive. One of the questions that you should ask yourself when determining if you're in an emotionally abusive relationship is "Does your relationship swing back and forth between a lot of emotional distance and being very close?"

I speak this way because I was in one...and this behavior is waaaay too familiar and too close to what I experienced firsthand...

How fair is that to you? You've spent days oscillating between feelings and now, he sends flowers and says I love you and things are just fine? Forgive me, but I'm a little unsettled...:oogle. I'm only saying this because I care, not to criticize.

Just....PLEASE be careful. I know our loved ones are under a myriad pressures...that still DOES NOT give them the right to play hackeysack with our hearts and emotions. :depressed

hmmmI wonder why hes being so wishy washy???? Im glad you both talked tho...and I hope everything continues to be ok!

While I'm glad YOU are feeling better, I am uncomfortable with the "I hate you/I love you" behavior he is displaying (according to your posts).

It seems borderline abusive. One of the questions that you should ask yourself when determining if you're in an emotionally abusive relationship is "Does your relationship swing back and forth between a lot of emotional distance and being very close?"

I speak this way because I was in one...and this behavior is waaaay too familiar and too close to what I experienced firsthand...

How fair is that to you? You've spent days oscillating between feelings and now, he sends flowers and says I love you and things are just fine? Forgive me, but I'm a little unsettled...:oogle. I'm onily saying this because I care, not to criticize.

Just....PLEASE be careful. I know our loved ones are under a myriad pressures...that still DOES NOT give them the right to play hackeysack with our hearts and emotions. :depressed


yes i understand what you are saying!

we only tend to fight alot like this when we are both dealing with alot of stress....ive noticed i can take things out on him, and i have to work on changing that

and he understands how i feel about the whole one day being completely mean and rude, then the next all sweet.

we both agreed on what we each need to do and now we just have to put it in play and see what happens!!!

i will look out for this if things continue to keep up!!

thank you for informing me because i never really looked at it like that!

:hugs i'm glad you talked about it. joe is EXACTLY the same as your db! :vent but :swoon

:lol

:goodluck

what a relief! I'm so glad he got the stick out of his butt and realized how amazing you are! I knew this would happen. :yay

I'm glad you talked and worked everything out. I think the important thing is realizing where the breakdown is and trying to work on repairing it, which it sounds like you're doing. Good luck and keep us posted!

I'm so happy things are looking up for you two and you were able to talk about it.