I feel like I have been ignoring the fact that my DB is in Iraq! He has slowed down on e-mailing, and so have I.....but when I do, it is a loving e-mail....but just not a lot of them! I wouldn't say ignoring....but putting the fear and everything way in the back of my brain so I don't think of it 24/7 (like i did when he first left)! Its so weird. I feel bad for thinking that way! I do get on here everyday to see what everyone else is feeling and doing....and I do think of him everyday.....but I don't know!! I can't wait for this all to be over!

although I never forget where he is, I do put it in the back of my mind...I think sometimes you just HAVE to do that in order not to go crazy...so youre not alone...Im sure most of us do that

Lately I haven't been able to talk to him as much as I did before, because I've been so wrapped up in work. I feel guilty, but he doesn't mind at all.. he's glad I'm out doing stuff and doesn't want me at home revolving my life around him.

I feel that way too!!!!!!!

I def understand and I am so glad that other people feel the same way that I do.

Thanks!!! I'm glad that I'm not the only one! IT's really hard! I love this website. I'm glad that someone invented it! IT makes me feel better that I'm not the only one!

I do the same exact thing. It helps you get through the day. Don't feel bad..i think it might be part of "the process"

I do understand. While I completely get that he is in a war zone, I rarely think of it. If I did I would only be torturing myself.

I felt that way a lot when DB was deployed. We were so loving when we did get to talk, but I feel like I almost ignored the fact that he was gone when I was here. I just didn't want to think about it and get upset. I would get so upset because I couldn't even remember what DB looked like because I hadn't seen him in so long.

Our relationship grew apart, but now we are closer than we have ever been. Deployment really makes you cherish every single ounce of them, all the way down to their toesies :D

I completely understand. What makes it hard for me is that we will go through a period where he will text me every other day and then we will go through a period like we are right now where he only calls once a month, and he does not email. I try to put it in the back of my mind but I get angry too..Thats why I am glad I found this site.

Yup :) Im doin it now after the great advice to, i feel so much better not thinking about it...now my birthday is next month so i cant speak for myself on that day but for yesterday today and tomorrow i'll be good :) cant drive yourself crazy thinking about what he might be doing and stuff like that!

yup! sure do.. i don't know why. i guess part of the reason is because i have a pretty busy life. but sometimes when i start thinkin about it, it really hits me. like this one time DF called me and all of a sudden i heard gun shots in the background and a bunch of yelling. i almost broke down. although there are times we DO have to remember they are in a warzone but that shouldn't stop us from keeping our spirits up and keep their morales up too!

I actually wanna thank you all for being so brave to actually say this because I felt the same way the last time that DB was deployed and felt realllly bad for "ignoring" the fact that he was gone sometimes. Now that he's about to be deployed again, I'm more comfortable with the fact that it's alright to "ignore" it sometimes. :)

I do understand. While I completely get that he is in a war zone, I rarely think of it. If I did I would only be torturing myself.

The way you worded your response was perfect for me. I felt like I should be thinking about what he will be doing there and researching stuff and I felt bad that I know nothing but I just can't do it. I ignore the news, ignore everything about it.
Thanks Britt!!!!

90% of the time I ignore the fact that he is in a war zone. I think about him every hour of every day, just not about the specifics of his situation or his duties. The whole concept of war seems so foreign and unreal to me. I can't touch it, see it, feel it, hear it, or taste it. I know it exists, but it is not a part of my personal experience and reality. It's basically completely outside of my frame of reference. And so it is easy for me (most of the time) to live in my comfortable middle-class world and not think about it.

Sometimes it will hit me, and I will stop dead in my tracks and cry. In those moments, an almost overwhelming sense of fear wells up inside of me. I think about what I have read and seen pictures of in the past (all war-related coverage of any sort is currently banned from my consciousness). But then I pull it together and push those thoughts and feelings aside. I cannot and will not let them rule my life. If I did, I would not be able to function.