he admitted to it today...

i was right all along and our fights were really all his fault but he blamed it on me and lied to me everyday

im crushed

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oh sweetie i'm so sorry. i know the feeling so PLEASE pm me if you need to talk. i've been through it and i'm going through something somewhat similar right now, too.

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awww I'm so sorry :hugehug I've been cheated on many times.. not by my current DB but ya. PM me anytime if you want/need to

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I'm so sorry. What a jerk

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I am sooo sorry you are having to go through this... we are here for you... I will pray that you will be ok.. :pray

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:hugs sorry you are going through this :( :bigsadhug

ewww, what an ass! you are so much better than that hun. So sorry he did that to you.

I'm so sorry! I've been there too. I know that nothing I say can make you feel better. All I can do is say that I'm sorry you're having to go through this, and if you ever need to talk, just let me know.

Wow, I am so sorry...that is one of the most horrible feelings in the world. I've been through it too. :no

You are so beautiful and you can be STRONG! There are tons of guys who KNOW how to treat a girl....I hope you can be strong and move on from this (if that's what you want)

I hope he realizes what a HUGE mistake he has made....what a jerk :no :no :no

:hugehug I am so sorry Lauren, you deserve so much better than that.

Why are guys such idiots???

:hugs I'm sorry

:hug im sooo sorry hun, you deserve way better

That sucks :bigsadhug I am sorry to hear that

What a jerk!I'm so sorry hun :hugs.

i dont know what to do..

he WAS different...he was such a sweetheart....last person i would ever have thought to do this.

i wanted to marry him.

i dont know what to do.

part of me wants to forgive him but ill just be miserable and worried allthe time if hes cheating

That is so sad, I am so sorry!

are you effing kidding me right now? I want to kick him in the nuts. I am so sorry sweetie! What are you going to do?

Only you can make the decision if you will forgive him or not based on his behavior. I am sorry he did this to you! :hugs

Wow, I am so sorry...that is one of the most horrible feelings in the world. I've been through it too. :no

You are so beautiful and you can be STRONG! There are tons of guys who KNOW how to treat a girl....I hope you can be strong and move on from this (if that's what you want)

I hope he realizes what a HUGE mistake he has made....what a jerk :no :no :no

:agree I've been through it too, it's like a dagger to your heart. :hugs I'm sorry :( If you need anything, just ask.

My best suggestion would be to take a step back and give yourself time to grieve. Losing trust in a relationship is so very hard. Try to find your inner strength,. You are a beautiful young woman and there are alot of opportunities out there for you. But first you need to quiet your inner self and find peace in your heart.

I'll say a little :pray tonight that you're guardian angel helps you find the right path to take.

thank you all so much.

i really thought he was the one and i really want him to be.

i jst cant see myself trusting him when hes out there.

What a prick!

Sorry you have to go through this. It is an awful feeling and really effs with your head. Please know that you are wonderful and deserve to be treated sooo much better. :bigsadhug

ewww, what an ass! you are so much better than that hun. So sorry he did that to you.

This I agree with. You are better than that, don't hang around and let it happen over and over again. I am sorry if I sound harsh I just hate being cheated on or hearing about others being cheated on. :hugs *10000000 chica

:hugs I am so sorry you are going through this!! I have been in a situation similar and did forgive and I have to tell you its easy to forgive but forgetting is the hard part...if you do decide to take him back you have to forgive and forget otherwise it will tear you both apart...I hope that you can make the right decision for you!

I do think it would be smart to take some time to yourself and decide after you have had some time to cool off!!

Again I am so sorry you are dealing with this! You are a smart beautiful woman and just remember everything will be okay!!

You will get through this, I've been there and time will heal you. Stay strong beautiful!!!!!

My best suggestion would be to take a step back and give yourself time to grieve. Losing trust in a relationship is so very hard. Try to find your inner strength,. You are a beautiful young woman and there are alot of opportunities out there for you. But first you need to quiet your inner self and find peace in your heart.

I'll say a little :pray tonight that you're guardian angel helps you find the right path to take.

That's great advice.

Just know that you are beautiful (really!), smart, sweet and deserve to be treated with respect.

he had the nerve to tell me ididnt support him enough,,

ok what were all the cards and things i made for him. or all the packages i spent hours and money on

or the stickers all over my car saying i love my soldier, and support the troops...

and im not supportive?

My best suggestion would be to take a step back and give yourself time to grieve. Losing trust in a relationship is so very hard. Try to find your inner strength,. You are a beautiful young woman and there are alot of opportunities out there for you. But first you need to quiet your inner self and find peace in your heart.

I'll say a little :pray tonight that you're guardian angel helps you find the right path to take.

ITA This is great advice!!! Sorry he treated you like poop. You deserve better!!

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I'm so sorry!
While in Iraq? :depressed
Stay Strong

he had the nerve to tell me ididnt support him enough,,

ok what were all the cards and things i made for him. or all the packages i spent hours and money on

or the stickers all over my car saying i love my soldier, and support the troops...

and im not supportive?

what a boner. You have got to be kidding me

what a boner. You have got to be kidding me

:agree that is effing ridiculous for him to say that to you. you have NO BLAME in this. i can't believe he's trying to say since you didn't support him, he cheated. :rolleyes what a jackass.

I am so sorry. :hugs

I'm so sorry hun. I hope you know you are not to blame at all. No matter if you two were having issues or not (I'm not saying you were. I really don't know) that doesn't give him the right to stray. I wish you all the luck and best no matter what you decide; to stay with him and try to work it out or to move on. :hugehug

he had the nerve to tell me ididnt support him enough,,

ok what were all the cards and things i made for him. or all the packages i spent hours and money on

or the stickers all over my car saying i love my soldier, and support the troops...

and im not supportive?

Remember what I said before, about emotional abuse? He's blaming YOU for HIS cheating? What an extremely vicious and cruel thing to do? He's turning this around on you and not taking any ownership or accountability for what he's done and that's CRAP!

"Does your partner frequently criticize you, humiliate you, or undermine your self-esteem?"

That's what he's doing....PLEASE GET THIS A$$WIPE OUT OF YOUR PSYCHIC SPHERE! This relationship is crushing your spirit and he's NOT worth this agony!!!

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i'm so sorry to hear that.. the same thing just happened to my friend whose fiance is in the navy.. they were living together.. and he stopped coming home at night and started physically hurting her.. then he kicked her out. turns out he was cheating on her with some navy girl. some guys are just unbelievable

I don;t understand WHO these guys cheat with over there. Civilians? Isn't that a huge security issue? If it's fellow military people...I'm damn sure there is or should be some sort of punishment on the books for that. :no

I am so so sorry. :hugs

he had the nerve to tell me ididnt support him enough,,

ok what were all the cards and things i made for him. or all the packages i spent hours and money on

or the stickers all over my car saying i love my soldier, and support the troops...

and im not supportive?

He screwed up and he is trying to place the blame ANYWHERE but on himself...I would think long and hard about forgiving this guy...he can't even come to the conclusion that it was HE who screwed up and that it was HIS fault!!!

OMG...I am sooo sorry! I hope you are ok! I'm glad you found out though!

:( That's so horrible of him. I'm sorry hun :hugs

I am so very sorry. :hugs :hugs He doesn't deserve you and you deserve much better than to be treated like that. :hugs

Lauren...Im so glad you found out that he is a douchebag now than later, when you are married and its too late...

Look at you...you are effing BEAUTIFUL...you deserve more than an ass hole douche...man I wanna kick his ass

I am sorry to hear that. I know how bad you are hurting right now.

thanks everyone!!! your responses really mean alot! i talked to his mom about it and im sure she already told the whole family...i feel kinda bad his family loves me and are probably gonna give him crap about it.

oh well


thanks again! i really love having all you for support!

thanks everyone!!! your responses really mean alot! i talked to his mom about it and im sure she already told the whole family...i feel kinda bad his family loves me and are probably gonna give him crap about it.

oh well


thanks again! i really love having all you for support!

:hugs how did his mom take it?!

:hugs how did his mom take it?!

she was really disappointed in him. i thnk she was shocked more than anything.

he really is the LAST person you would think would ever do something like this.

ive gotten flowers maybe like 8 times in the past 6 months and a few days ago he sent me a giant fortune cookie with a personalizd fortune in it from him.

i now realize this is all probbaly because he was guilty.

but before he left...and before the cheating, he bought me a beautiful promise ring and for my bday and christmas a diamond necklace.

well today i yanked the necklace off and made sure he saw it on skype.

anywho.

i know his parents are gonna be really disappointded in him.

along with his friends that know me who are in iraq with him

she was really disappointed in him. i thnk she was shocked more than anything.

he really is the LAST person you would think would ever do something like this.

ive gotten flowers maybe like 8 times in the past 6 months and a few days ago he sent me a giant fortune cookie with a personalizd fortune in it from him.

i now realize this is all probbaly because he was guilty.

but before he left...and before the cheating, he bought me a beautiful promise ring and for my bday and christmas a diamond necklace.

well today i yanked the necklace off and made sure see saw it on skype.

anywho.

i know his parents are gonna be really disappointded in him.

along with his friends that know me who are in iraq with him

made sure he or she/mom saw it? good. i think i would have made sure he saw it, too.

and you know what? he deserves for everyone to be disappointed in him.

I am so sorry!! What an ass! I know how painful going through this is. As some of the other ladies have said, you will eventually be okay. And he's is a total douche for blaming you! It is his fault!! He can say whatever he wants to make himself feel better but he's an ass! You did nothing to deserve this.

Lauren...Im so glad you found out that he is a douchebag now than later, when you are married and its too late...

Look at you...you are effing BEAUTIFUL...you deserve more than an ass hole douche...man I wanna kick his ass

Seriously, she definitely said it best. Ugh, it makes me angry for you that he did that. What an ass.

I am sorry hun! what is it with guys being jerks right now! Sorry and I hope you feel better soon. Do you plan to stay with him?

I am so sorry. I hope you know we are all here for you. If you need anything even someone to vent to please PM me, I'll give you my phone number again.

made sure he or she/mom saw it? good. i think i would have made sure he saw it, too.

and you know what? he deserves for everyone to be disappointed in him.

oops made sure *he saw it. sorry!



and for everyone else really thank you all SOO much i cant say it enough.

im already feeling a little better. i just need to get out of the house!

oops made sure *he saw it. sorry!



and for everyone else really thank you all SOO much i cant say it enough.

im already feeling a little better. i just need to get out of the house!

glad you're feeling better :hugs yeah go do something for you! massage, mani/pedi, anything!

oh sweetie I am sooo sorry :hugs

Oh man I'm so sorry. :hugs I'm sorry.

That is horrible :( You DO NOT deserve that. I'm so sorry girl... :( HUGS!

Oh my goodness..... I am so sorry. :bigsadhug You have a lot of girls here supporting you with whatever you may need.

i love you so much lauren. and you're such a beautiful amazing strong girl, and i knowww you will get through this. you don't deserve to be treated like anything less than a beautiful woman.. keep your head up, im always here for you!! im saving up money, flying to cleveland this summer and we're partying! im serious!! love ya girl

I'm so sorry sweetie.. I know that your heart is breaking right now, but you deserve SO much better.

If you need anyone to talk to, I'm here for ya.. :bigsadhug

oh no. :( I am so sorry! :hugs

Really sorry you are going through this.

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this!! *HUGS*

i cant imagine the pain you are in right now. I know none of us are a lot of help but just know we all care about you. Make the decision that will make you the happiest..in the end that is all that matters

:hugehug I'm so sorry :( :hugs

not sure if i replied to this yet but if i did then heres another :hugehug

what a fucking asshole!!!

the only credit i do give him is the fact he confessed, because honestly how would have you found out otherwise?

My ex boyfriend cheated on me with 5 girls and told me about it all on one night!!! I had NOOO CLUE. I took him back and never forgave him and the following 2 years was speant just trying to get back at him for what he did...

it is hard to forgive, really really hard. especially when you open up to someone on such a deep level.

i am so sorry lauren, If you need anything ANYTHING, pm me.

do not let him blame this on you.

i hope you have lots of friends close to where you live to get you out of the house

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WHAT A BASTARD! I'm so sorry girl :(

:hugs I am sooo sorry that is horrible :hugs