cameron_ambers
04-25-2008, 05:48 PM
So I took my daughter to the Dr. today (she had her first appt with the Neurologist today). Her Ped. sent the referral because she is worried that since she is 8 months (will be 9m on the 5th but at the time of this appt. she had just turned 8m) she wasn't able to sit on her own and she wasn't wanting to stand, and when put up in the standing position she would pull her legs up to her chest so that her butt hung further down. So she set forth the paperwork (got to love the military and paper trails) to see if there was something not (lack of better words) firing right in her brain. Well 3 weeks went by and we finally saw the Neurologist. He checked her out and had some concerns about her limbs. He said that they were slightly rigid and he was also concerned about the fact that she curls her toes, and when she got excited she fisted her hands (apparently you can do this too much when you are a baby). He wants to have her seen by a Physical Therapist to see if that will correct everything. But at the same time he wasn't ruling out mild cerebral palsy. Well that just crushed me there.
Back story, my daughter was conceived on Birth Control which i cont. to take for 1 month not knowing. So we knew there could be side effects because of that.
Well DH is over in Kuwait, this is are first child together, he has two previous 1 he never saw but maybe once a month and that was for a weekend, and the other he has never seen (not by his choice but that is another topic). So really he goes with this is his first child he has been able to be a father too. So I told him, just because I wouldn't want him to keep this from me if we were reversed. And it crushed him. He blames himself for not being here, not being able to choke/yell/scream at the Dr. and make him rethink his words. I told him over and over it wasn't his fault but still he won't listen to reasoning. I also tried telling him, that if PT works than there is nothing wrong, that she is just slower physically because she was sick for so long (basically from 4-5 months she was sick they don't know with what). I just don't know what to do. I don't know how to make him understand its not his fault and that everything will be ok.
Today has just been a really shity day. And I really hate the Navy for him being so far away just because im selfish and want him here to hold me.
*edit* the Dr's all agree she is above average on small motor skills and verbal. And the neurologist said that he didn't think there was anything that he could see wrong with her brain developmentally (granted he was just looking at her and examining her)
Back story, my daughter was conceived on Birth Control which i cont. to take for 1 month not knowing. So we knew there could be side effects because of that.
Well DH is over in Kuwait, this is are first child together, he has two previous 1 he never saw but maybe once a month and that was for a weekend, and the other he has never seen (not by his choice but that is another topic). So really he goes with this is his first child he has been able to be a father too. So I told him, just because I wouldn't want him to keep this from me if we were reversed. And it crushed him. He blames himself for not being here, not being able to choke/yell/scream at the Dr. and make him rethink his words. I told him over and over it wasn't his fault but still he won't listen to reasoning. I also tried telling him, that if PT works than there is nothing wrong, that she is just slower physically because she was sick for so long (basically from 4-5 months she was sick they don't know with what). I just don't know what to do. I don't know how to make him understand its not his fault and that everything will be ok.
Today has just been a really shity day. And I really hate the Navy for him being so far away just because im selfish and want him here to hold me.
*edit* the Dr's all agree she is above average on small motor skills and verbal. And the neurologist said that he didn't think there was anything that he could see wrong with her brain developmentally (granted he was just looking at her and examining her)