Dear All,

Sorry I havent posted past few days, things have been hectic! Today my Husband saw a mental health Doctor who diagnosed him with a personality disorder. He gave him meds and has made another appointment to see him Monday. Just spoke to my Hubby, if it wasnt his voice i wouldnt have recognised who i was talking to. So sad ... he isnt him at all right now. He didnt know anything, couldnt remember what he had done at all today.

Im wondering what they will do Monday ... If I was them if discharge him. I mean honestly he is no use to them and just a liability to the others right now.

Has anyone any experience of this? Any advice greatly appreciated.

Thanks again

Dawn

Hi dawn,

I haven't experienced anything like this sorry. But I wanted to say that I really hope your hubby starts to feel better, i know you are dealing with a lot right now, if you ever need anything please PM me anytime.

Sue Hugzzzzzzzzzz

If he gets discharged he will not get an honorable discharge. He would get a general under honorable conditions. Just thought you would like to know.

Thank you, i realised if they did discharge it wouldnt be honourable but quite honestly it doesnt matter. I mean obviously it isnt great ... but nothing I can do about the fact he isnt in right in the head. He cant suddenly just fix himself sadly. At this stage im just wondering what they will do ...

All i know is they spent 3 hours with him yesterday, diagnosed personality disorder and said he had to come back Monday and should bring an NCO. So I have no clue what they will do and im wondering.

Thank you again

Dawn

:hugs Oh honey--I'm so sorry--I hope he gets better. Your DH didn't tell you anything about what happened?

hugs hon i am sorry you are going through this. i have never been through the process like you are going through it but i can vouch for the memory loss but i have a feeling the reason why mine suffers from and your so suffers from it may be vastly different.

i will keep him and you im my thoughts.

The other thing is you know i miscarried Sunday? Well he was upset so spoke to the Chaplain about that as well and the Chaplain told the chain of command. So at the FRG meeting Thursday I had the male FRL soldier trying to question me about bleeding and whatever in front of other people. I was so upset ... i mean why is it their business? I have no personal life anymore and right now I feel I have no life at all.

I came here from the UK, left everything I know, left people I love and now im here and my hubby is in Kuwait losing it more everyday. It hurts.

He says they told him when he goes for his second appointment Monday he must take an NCO with him. Im wondering what this means, i just wish it was tomorrow already so i actually knew what they were going to do.

Sorry for ranting ... its just i dont have anyone to talk to. My family just keep telling me i should come home and leave him and because i refuse to do that they wont support me.

Dawn

I am sorry:hugs I really have no advice to give you but you are an amazing woman!

I just wanted to say that I am sorry to hear about your husband. I have heard of this happening to people before but have never experienced it myself with someone close to me. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Im so sorry to hear that honey :(
if u wanna talk im here IM me on MSN
i will keep him and you im my thoughts

what? an FRL was questionning your medical health infront of everyone..what the fuck was he thinking. This is a private matter that should be discuss in private not for the whole world to know...was the Commander there? You really should make a complaint..what you experience is not a laughing matter nor should it be treated the way it was...
As for your husband..the reason the NCO is there is to make sure that everything is ok and know what is going on from both the doctor and the patient. So when the NCO has to report to the commander, he would at least know the details from the doctor himself and not from second source..KWIM.
As for your family, am sorry they are not being supportive of you and your husband. Do you have any friends over there that you can talk to? What about talking to a chaplain? Or someone at mental health..it's always good to talk about it and get it out of your chest.
If you need someone to talk to, you can always pm me.

Hi Dawn
I work in a Psychiatric Hospital , At the moment I`m working with Personality disorder patients. There is no way that a personality disorder can be diagnosed in 3 hours. He should not have been put on meds as further testings will now be obscured by medication. It sounds more that they quickly are trying to get rid of him. Do you know if he gets medically discharged under these conditions he will get a code on his DD214 that will effect his prospects of also getting a Civilian job. New prospective employers will get access to this and could look it up and decide that he might not be stable enough.
The NCO might want to accompany him to the next appointment
for support or if they decide to section him and admit him to hospital he will be escorted 24/7 until then.
What medication did they put him on ?

Do you want me to PM or phone you ?
Take care :hugs
Mia

Hi Dawn
I work in a Psychiatric Hospital , At the moment I`m working with Personality disorder patients. There is no way that a personality disorder can be diagnosed in 3 hours. He should not have been put on meds as further testings will now be obscured by medication. It sounds more that they quickly are trying to get rid of him. Do you know if he gets medically discharged under these conditions he will get a code on his DD214 that will effect his prospects of also getting a Civilian job. New prospective employers will get access to this and could look it up and decide that he might not be stable enough.

Do you want me to PM or phone you ?
Take care :hugs
Mia

I AGREE!!

I work at a Psych. Office and I'm training to do testing and diagnosing, but we even say, nothing can be fully determined in a few hour period, it takes numerous sessions.


What type of personality disorder did they diagnose him with?

I'm sure there are a lot of people walking around functioning normally that have personality disorders and you would never even know. (the guy who looks in the mirror a little too often, the girl who likes to make scenes...etc..etc..)

Thank you Ladies! Your support is really appreciated. They have put him onto Zoloft. He never had any medical problems before deployment last time. The nightmares and changes in him started after he came back. They havent said what type of disorder he has, just told him he has a personality one.

Thing is there is a history of depression in his family. Grandfather on his Fathers side committed suicide and his Mothers Father was an alcoholic depressive. His Mum has attempted suicide and been sectioned a few times. I dont know if it has anything to do with his problems though.

Im just wondering whats going to happen tomorrow, im so worried about him, he cant communicate with me right now, he just cant focus properly on anything. He said the thoughts are still in his head and the meds are just making him feel numb but his brain still thinks bad.

I just want him home but im scared they wont send him back

Thanks for listening

Dawn

Sorry Hun!

I am so sorry. I know how difficult it is to deal with a loved one with mental health issues as DH is bipolar and as a second diagnosis has unspecified personality disorder. If you ever need anyone to talk please PM me. :hugs