Hi all...so my husband just left for his deployment and I feel like I'm going crazy.This is the first time I've ever been through this and already I'm having a hard time emotionally. I am so sad and I'm feeling all of these emotions that seem overwhelming. I feel like I'm missing my best friend and the thought of him being over there makes me physically sick. We're stationed overseas and I don't have kids and I feel so alone...I miss him so much...anybody have any advice on what makes the deployment a little easier, things to do, positive ways of thinking that will make this smoother? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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Find things to keep you occupied and busy.

Do you work?

Do you have any hobbies?

STAY busy is #1 and a close second is do not make this deployment your LIFE! Do other things with your life..go out...do things...get hobbies...spend time with friends and loved ones...

the time goes faster than you think, and if you follow all of the above it will be a breeze I PROMISE!

if you have any questions let me know!

STAY busy is #1 and a close second is do not make this deployment your LIFE! Do other things with your life..go out...do things...get hobbies...spend time with friends and loved ones...

the time goes faster than you think, and if you follow all of the above it will be a breeze I PROMISE!

if you have any questions let me know!

:agree It does get better. You are learning to adjust right now though so it will be a little rough right now but you will get through it.

Hey there!

This is my first too (I have other issues with my hubbys state at the moment so it makes my scenario diff) but just wanted to say it does get easier to cope without them. First week i just wanted to curl up and sleep away 15 months now i realise this experience is what i make of it. Yes its crappy he isnt here and that im losing 15 months of our time together but i dont want to look back and realise i wasted 15 months of MY life.

I cant work here as im not a US citizen so finding ways to keep busy is challenging but im trying to lol. Things im doing are:

Finding new hobbies ... Ive become a gym freak!

Make new friends, ive made so many since he left and its fab! Gives me a reason to get up and go somewhere everyday. I know it can be hard to find friends but you know how i did it? Myspace lol i did a search on certain radius where i lived, picked military wives and mailed them. Ive made some great friends that i now go hang out with it from it! This is the best time to make friends and everyone is feeling the same way

Classes .. go to ACS or look online for those in your area, most are free and its another fun way to meet people and just socialise!

Well take care and if you want to chat im here, the Ladies here have been a great support to me so far. Thats they key of this whole experience, support each other.

Right after DB left, I went through the a phase where I thought I was going a little crazy too - especially when I would burst out crying at random moments day or night. Remember that it's normal - in a way, you are grieving the loss of your husband. Just remember that he will come back, and as the ladies here already said, keep busy and don't forget to live your life too. I found that making care packages was really theraputic so did (and still do) that on a regular basis. You can do this!

Thanks everyone who has responded...it really does help talking to people who have been or are going through this. I think I am going to try and keep myself as busy as possible.

Britgirl- I'm in the same situation with you about the job thing...it sucks so I was thinking I'm going to engulf myself in the gym as well. Hopefully when he comes home I'll be about 10 or 15 pounds lighter lol. If you ever want to talk don't hesitate to message me.

Thanks again everyone!

Lol the gym is addictive be warned!!! Where are you from in the world?

England...so it's a plus that there's no language barrier here, but it's still worlds away from the states lol.

I wonder how much working out is to much lol...there's not a lot to do over here. Where are you from?

Lol no language barrier but i dont know if like me you find cultural differences everyday? Im from Staines near Heathrow and currently living in Germany where my hubby is Stationed (He is a Cali boy). You?

Lol the working out thing ... well ive been doing 2 hours a day 5 days a week and apparent as a novice its too much! But im not sure!

Dawn
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Yea there are definitely a lot of cultural differences, some of them I like, other's make me miss the states. I'm from Texas and my hubby is from the west coast like yours! Cali's weather is the best! So did you grow up in England? How did you guys meet?

Yes only left England in Feb and came straight here to Germany after we married in Cali. Lol he and I met through friends on Myspace just under 2 years ago! Cali is great, we will move back there eventually, well thats the plan. Where in UK are you? Oh i miss home!

Hi all...so my husband just left for his deployment and I feel like I'm going crazy.This is the first time I've ever been through this and already I'm having a hard time emotionally. I am so sad and I'm feeling all of these emotions that seem overwhelming. I feel like I'm missing my best friend and the thought of him being over there makes me physically sick. We're stationed overseas and I don't have kids and I feel so alone...I miss him so much...anybody have any advice on what makes the deployment a little easier, things to do, positive ways of thinking that will make this smoother? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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Jessica[/FONT]

Help passing the time... well, you can take some classes. If you don't have your Degree yet, maybe now might be a good time to look into it, there are many online programs available now. If you already have your degree, maybe you can do a masters.

you can get a job, maybe even two! It depends how busy you want to be. :)

travel a little, learn a new hobby, join a club or two or three, start going to the gym... oh I can go on.

Try to look at things in a positive light, this is time apart now that you have to do some of the things that you have always wanted to do. Strengthen yourself, improve yourself...

the first month is a little rough, but eventually you will get into a routine where you will get used to him not being there and after about the second or third month you will be in your own groove and time will start to go by a little faster.