Man.

I noticed a pattern with my 3yr old. Everytime he would talk to daddy he'd act out. Well I think last night really affected him for some reason. He wouldnt go to bed. Said he was scared. Said he didnt want me to leave him. I left him in his room and he screamed mama please come back dont leave me over and over and over again. I finally went in there and he curled in a ball on my lap whimpering.

I took him into my bed because I was so tired and he slept pretty much on me. When I tried to move him he'd wake and say STOP! Please dont leave me. And I would ask him to scoot over and he'd cry and say he didnt wanna fall off my bed. My heart was breaking.

I think from now on I wont let him talk to daddy. The deployment is winding down so I think maybe it might be better if he doesnt. Yesterday really affected him and he has NEVER acted like that before that bad and thats the only thing different about yesterday was daddy called

Awww poor little guy! That is so sad.

Aww....I hope He Feels Better.

Poor E :( I'm sorry Kristi, that sounds absolutely heartbreaking. :hugs

It was heartbreaking. It tore my heart in 2. I dont normally let him sleep with me unless he is throwing up, really really sick etc. But I didnt know what else to do and he was in such hysterics. His normal bedtime is 730-8 and he didnt fall asleep until darn near 10pm in my bed.

I really think its been long enough that the deployment is affecting him. He can see daddys pics, talk to daddy but he cant physically see him and although I have explained he is at work on a ship in the sea he doesnt fully comprehend that

I'm sorry....it sounds like it's just been super long for him, he doesn't know how to process it anymore. :sadeyes My kids have night's like that every once in a while. We usually make sure to make a card/picture for Daddy or something to send him to tell him how they feel. At 3 that mght just be a lot of hard scribbles on paper but it lets them put their emotions somewhere. I'm sorry, hope he feels better soon. :sadeyes

Poor little Ethan... :tears It sounds like you're handling everything okay though, right? Maybe not letting them talk is prolly best.. :hugs

I wouldn't let him either. It is so hard sometimes. Hang in there girl we are almost done with this one.

I am so sorry that he is having a hard time. :depressed My DS is doing the same thing. I hope that it gets better soon. Oh, also on a side note, I really enjoyed meeting you in person.:D

:sadeyes I can't imagine :tears

that totally made me tear up!!

give your little boy a huge hug from me!!!!!!!!! and can i just say i think you are amazingly strong !!!!!!!!!!!

Ethan is a smart lil boy for 3. We make cards and he can write his name and draw cars and little stick figures with big shoes LOL. So we do that alot. Yesterday was just hard. All was a normal day until bedtime. And thats when his meltdown started. It was awful.

I am hanging in there ok and doing the best I can for him. I feel bad because my 15 month old requires a tad more attention then him but I try to space it out, keep them both occupied, I have Ethan in soccer, he is on the prescool list, I am signing him up for teeball when that starts as well.

Once it gets within days of daddy getting home we'll start talking about it but for now I try not to because he doesnt comprehend time like that

Sunday we are going to seaworld and having mothers day brunch with shamu so that should help take his mind off things. I got us memberships to seaworld, the zoo etc to help and it has

aww poor guy. I bet hes thinking if daddy left him you might too. Thats just heart breaking. :hugehug to both of you.

aww poor guy. I bet hes thinking if daddy left him you might too. Thats just heart breaking. :hugehug to both of you.

That was kinda my thought which is why I ended up letting him in my bed. And let me tell you.. ALL night long he gripped me. If I moved he would move closer to put his arm around me and over me. I was sleeping literally on the edge of the bed. Here is my 3 year old who is a mere 34lbs and I had less room last night with him in bed then I do with my 6' husband :rofl

poor little guy! My Eli has been my shadow since DH left. They dont understand that Daddy will be back. This is what I hate the most..my babies missing their daddy.

Poor little guy. That would break my heart. I have more repect for you ladies that are doing this with kids than anyone else. Hang in there!

Poor little guy. (L)

He's doing it again. For whatever reason he doesnt want to go to bed anymore. He procrastinates, farts around and then throws a tantrum when I leave the room after reading. I know I need to just let him go but I swear he is gonna wake Ash, I am running on no sleep as it is... I dunno what to do anymore. Obviously something went south since he all of a sudden wont go to bed anymore. He is upstairs screaming at the top of his lungs and banging his head into the wall

:sadeyes That is so heartbreaking.

My daughter went through similar issues when my husband was deployed.

:tears Poor Ethan! I'm so sorry this is affecting him so much Kristi!!! :hugs

I think you are probably right that it would be best to not let him talk to him for the last little bit of this deployment. It's damn near over now THANK THE LORD! I'm sick of them being gone!!! I hope Ethan is ok for these last weeks. We're ALMOST THERE!!!!!

ok Day 3 of not going to sleep and up there screaming. Is he regressing or something??

He could be. Mine still go through cycles of not wanting to sleep, nap, eat, etc. Some is probably b/c of the deployment, some is probably because of the age, some might be because of his sibling needing more attention. It's hard, I know. I get really upset with the older two when they're in there screaming and carrying on, then end up waking up Hunter b/c Hunter is a MONSTER if he's woken up and won't usually go back to sleep without a lot of coercing (which he doesn't really need the first time you put him down). I don't really have a lot of advice for you except try to stay consistent with him. I can relate though, my three all go through very complicated cycles like that also.

Turns out he apparently is scared of the dark event ho he has a nightlight. So he has a flashlight he sleeps with now and all is well