So I know we talk a lot about how we are coping with our honeys being gone, but I just wanted to know how everyone's SOs were handling it on their end?

my db is handling it very very well...it shocking how well he is handling it...im so proud of him

I think DH is handling it really well, I know it is hard for him to miss things, so I keep him very informed. He is staying busy and staying positive - I am impressed at how they do it!

Df has his good days and bad...the last few have been bad. He is really looking forward to r&r and is hoping that it will help the rest go by alot better

DB has good days and bad days. Lately, with the death of his dog it has been rough. He just wants to see me and his family. For the most part he is very strong and doing well. How about your SO?

Good days and bad days here too. I know the past week has been hard because he missed the twins' birthday, and at their age they just grow so much, so quickly. And he's missing so much of it.. :(

DH is wonderful :cloud9 Although he has bad days like everyone it never over flows into our phone calls and I (L) him for that. I also (L) the Marines for working him like they do...they keep them that busy for a reason :wink

How is your hunny taking it? Everything ok?

He's excited right now, since he just got there, but he's been worked to the bone. I know he can't wait to catch up on sleep and open up those care packages I sent him :) He always sounds a bit sad on the phone, too, which breaks my heart. :unlove

DB is handling it very well for the most part. He tells me when he is having a rough time, which I appreciate. I can't imagine what it must be like to be in his shoes....

DB has good days and bad days. Lately, with the death of his dog it has been rough. He just wants to see me and his family. For the most part he is very strong and doing well. How about your SO?


Just like several of you, it really depends on the day. In the beginning I felt like I had to be his cheerleader, but I've realized just talking to me or family makes his time there better. He tells me I should always talk to him about what bothers me even though he can't tell me about stuff that happens there that bothers him. He's really old fashioned and thinks that I should talk about things because I'm a girl and he should not because he's a man lol, and any other time I would give him the rundown of the importance of talking about things in general, but under the circumstances it helps him not to talk to me about it and it makes him feel like he's actively helping me if I tell him about my petty rough times.

Sometimes though I can tell he has anger and I worry about that.

For the most part, Joe is handling it very good. Lately though he has been having a hard time it seems

DF is very strong so he is not letting it get to him, but he just got there 2 weeks ago so who knows how it will be later. But last night we talked and he said that he was sad because he missed me so much and my heart just broke and I felt so helpless. So I guess for my sanity it is good that he is so laid back about it:D

Db is handling everything great. He's gone through some slumps but he always snaps out of it pretty quickly. He's very tired now though. Its been a long year and now that he knows its almost over he's getting tired.

My db has good days and bad, like all of yours seem to be. I feel bad though, he's done this twice before, but this is the first time he's left a girlfriend behind. He said its made this deployment harder, because he misses me. He can't wait to come home and everytime we talk, he tells me how homesick he is and how much he just can't wait to be back home. I know these deployments are tough on us, but I know they are tough on are guys to! :(

Db has good days and bad days. He is so strong it amazes me.

My DH is usually pretty upbeat, but he does have his bad days. People at work who have been through deployments tell me that after awhile over there its like the movie groundhog day, where it seems like you are just living the same day over and over and it gets frustrating. But he's doing pretty goood. We all have very strong men I think.

DH handles it pretty well, but as everyone says, has his good and bad days. He'll talk to me about what's bothering him though, which I appreciate. He is just at the point where he's sick of doing the same thing over and over again and just wants to come home and get back into the swing of things here. More or less, I think he misses his family and I and is dying to be able to catch up with sports and finally have our wedding.

DB is ready to be state side. His mind is gone, he is very open about that, this is his third, and although he seems ok on the phone when I ask him how he is mentally he says "to tell you the truth babe, I don't know anymore...:sigh I wish there was something I could do to make it better.

In the beginning it was pretty easy because we were able to talk everyday. Now that he moved locations he's been taking it rough. :worry We can only talk about once a week or even once every other week-even through e-mails. He sounds really sad when we talk and says he just wants to get the hell out of there. All I can do is reassure him that we'll be together soon and that I'll always be by his side...he's just had it really bad for the past month or two. :pout

DF is doing well, he does not get as emotional as I do.

db is okay... but he doesn't like the unit he's deployed with (it's not his "home unit"). he really wants to come home, and he really misses me. with everything that's been going on, he just really feels like he doesn't have anyone there he can talk to, and i think it's getting to him. it HAS opened him up to talking to me more, which is nice, but it still breaks my heart that he's this unhappy.

He's excited right now, since he just got there, but he's been worked to the bone. I know he can't wait to catch up on sleep and open up those care packages I sent him :) He always sounds a bit sad on the phone, too, which breaks my heart. :unlove

Maybe since he's worked do hard he is just exhausted!

He's doing good....he has his times when he feels really burnt out but other than that he's doing pretty well. He can't wait to come back though...6.5 months left! :)

Dh is a very positive person, he has some hard days when he misses me and the kids, but he never lets it get to him .I wish I had his strength.

MY DB seems to be having a hard time. Some days are worse than others. This is his first deployment and his first time being away for a long period of time since basic and AIT (which was 5 years ago). He was still living with his parents when he left so he misses his family a lot, but says he misses me the most. It is hard to hear him so sad. :worry

I think he's alright. I know it eats at his mind that he misses so much of his daughter's life and mine. I do my best to keep him informed so it doesn't feel like he misses anything. This is our first long deployment and he's not far into it though...but remember that real love is stronger and lasts longer than any time or distance. :-)

As an aside...does anyone have any advice about dealing with mental and physical stress with your SO once they get back from deployment...That seems to be my SO's biggest concern, the state of mind he will be in when he gets back. Anyone?

DB is DB... calm, cool, and relaxed, no matter what. It could totally be a front, but only once has he even hinted that something got under his skin. This is his 5th deployment (at least), so he's pretty adept at handling the stress and getting the job done. Besides, he likes the adrenaline high he gets when playing Army. Like so many others have said, I wish I was as strong and chill as DB is.

Greg is so positive, it amazes me. His theory is that he has to be there for the next year regardless, so he might as well be positive about it. He's honestly more bored than anything else. Which is good for me, I LOVE when he's bored!

My hubby has always wanted to go over there. I think he is having a fun time over there. I know me misses me and his family though. But, I do believe this is a once and a life time opportunity. He agrees that we are strong but this also has made us very stronger. He is handling things very well. He wants to know about me and my life, hear about my troubles. I think it keeps his mind of things for the time being. Anything I can do to help :)

I forgot to mention that I am just so floored of what he is doing, how strong he is, and how supportive he is of us. He amazes me every single day.