So...as of yesterday I am a college graduate. I catch myself having to remind me that I no longer have to go to college. Makes me sad and extremely sad at the same time. I was so sad that hubby couldnt be here. I guess it has gotten me kind of down. Since hubby is deployed, it kind of puts me in a rock and hard place with finding a good job. (I cant find a really good job where he lives and thats where I went to school) So for now I will be staying in his apartment and finding a job to save money and then move together when he comes home. My parents love me, and they dont like me "putting my life on hold for him" I know I am adult and can make my own decesions, but it doesnt make life any easier on me with dealing with this stupid deployment.

I guess I am just an odd ball in the family. I just wish they would understand me.:dunno They dont get that I dont want to put my life on hold. But for him, just for a little bit he IS worth it. I won't be in the small town for the rest of my life. He has PROMISED me that.

I guess I needs words of encouragement. I dont know what i need. I am just down. I just want to talk to him :( Shit, now I am crying.:duh

When I graduated college I got very emotional. You work your entire life to graduate college and when it ends it throws you into emotional turmoil. Dealing with a deployment on top of that only magnifies your already sensitive situation.

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It just sucks. :depressed

I want my family to support me. THey say hurtful things about hubby it doesnt help the situation. Me and my roomate had a big falling out this semester because she is frankly a bitch. :vent So, that sucks too.

I just need him right now. I need him to tell me everything will be okay.

Maybe it will be better when I move in his apartment and have some income rolling in.

I just dont know. I feel so lost.

I need some more support ladies. Please :(

You will hear from him soon and it will put all of your fears to rest. You just have to block out the nagtivity and focus on what is important, yourself and your hubby!

:congrats to your degree

That still sounds so weird-my degree. Man I really did graduate. WOW

:yay for the graduation.... hope everything works out!!

:bighug congrats girl!! its so great to hear that you graduated after you were struggling there for a little bit! as far as "putting your life on hold" the way i look at it is (i dont remember how long yours is gone for but...) df is gone for 7 months...7 lousy months out of the LIFE TIME that we want to spend together, think about how long 7 months is in terms of 50+ years and it seems insignificant!! :dunno thats just my outlook on it good luck finding a job, im here for ya if you need anything!!!

Aww Kara. First off, congrats! College is a lot of work and you are done now. Secondly, your family will come around. They'll understand eventually that you really aren't putting your life on hold. The job thing will come, just keep looking. It took me a while after I graduated to find a decent job and until then, I worked two retail jobs. Hell, one of the guys that graduated with me still works at Best Buy in the mall (I hope he's going to grad school). You'll be fine. Keep your chin up and smile. He's worth it and your a graduate!

:hugs congrats on your graduation! Like BrittanyJo said, this time is just a huge turning point and very emotional, so it's totally normal to need support. I did something similar, my DH commissioned the same time I graduated and left for 6 months before we got married... so I ended up working back in NH for 6 months before I moved down here and my parents weren't happy about that either. They got over it, though.

I'm so impressed.......you are a college graduate! Please don't let your current situation overshadow all your hard work!! Be proud!! So.......what is your degree in???

It's too bad that your family doesn't understand the military lifestyle but that's ok.......they don't have to live it. Maybe ask them to keep their negative comments to themselves since it hurts your feelings. Be honest, really let them know it's hurting you......they may not realize just how much.

Look at the big picture....you just have to find a job for "the time being" until your dh returns and you can move and get settled in. It's not forever!

Best of luck to you!

Thank you. Its just so nice hearing postive things :)

It's like they have a certain plan for me and they want me to follow that path. They dont understand you have to change your plan for the man you love for just a shortwhile. Doesnt mean I am losing myself.

My degree is in wellness and therapeutic sciences (outdoor recreation). :):):):) GO ME!

CONGRATS!!!! Its a great feeling to be a college grad!!! But don't worry, that feeling of missing school will go away!!! I grad 5 years ago....your life will only get better!!!Good luck with finding a job!!

Congratulations!!!! Graduating college is a great accomplishment. Just think, now you won't have to worry about studying all the time and soon you will be making MONEY!!!! I just graduated in December and I miss some things about college, but the working world is not so bad.

About your parents, I'm sure they just want what's best for you, and they may think they know that better than you do. But you are an adult now, although that may be hard for them to see because their your parents, and you have to do what YOU think is best for your life right now. It sounds like you are, and they will come around. Good luck with everything!!!!

I'm so impressed.......you are a college graduate! Please don't let your current situation overshadow all your hard work!! Be proud!! So.......what is your degree in???

It's too bad that your family doesn't understand the military lifestyle but that's ok.......they don't have to live it. Maybe ask them to keep their negative comments to themselves since it hurts your feelings. Be honest, really let them know it's hurting you......they may not realize just how much.

Look at the big picture....you just have to find a job for "the time being" until your dh returns and you can move and get settled in. It's not forever!

Best of luck to you!

I agree completely, just talk to your family. :)

:congrats Its such a HUGE accomplishment to graduate college!!

I gradated in December and it was a bittersweet day...I was thrilled to be finished with school...sad to be leaving my friends at school...excited to celebrate but sad DB couldn't be here with me!!

Congrats girl!!

Yay!! Congrats on your graduation! Good luck with everything :)

Thanks girls. I talked to my hubby this morning! I told him what all happened, but I stood my ground for us. He was and will always be proud of me. Made me feel so much better now that I talked to him :) THanks for the encouraging words. I appreciate it.

YAY!!!!! :yay :fetti :congrats Congrats Kara!!!! Finally no more school! Sorry I haven't been around much. I have been trying to stay busy. Take care of yourself and stay positive!

(L) you girl!!

Like I told you last night...you're a grown woman with your own life now. They need to let go a little and let you be an adult. They should trust in the decisions you make and trust in the job they did in raising you to make good decisions.

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I just graduated from college this past weekend myself. I had gone straight through at the same college and got my masters. I've been crying for two days. And db graduated from undergrad and commissioned into the Army at the same time. And then packed up and left the next day because he started active duty today. I miss him so much. I'll still be able to visit him a few times before he actually leaves for training/his unit, but it just sucks. So I know how you are feeling. Life as you know it has completely changed. Plus my parents are supportive but also think that I do way way too much for him. Which drives me nuts when they say that! Hang in there hun! I know exactly what you are going through - feel free to message me anytime!

Congratulations on graduating! That's an awesome accomplishment...good luck finding a job you can be happy with and continue on being successful!

Congrats to you sweetie and you certainly have my support!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!