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My husband of six years left me for his 18-year-old girlfriend while I was seven months pregnant with his baby in November. Shortly after the birth of my second son, I started dating a friend of mine from school whom I had known for over a year---an ex-marine. We have now been dating for six months and we live together, but we are struggling to make ends meet since my ex left me with a bunch of bills and hasn't been paying me child support. After much deliberation, we have decided that he should re enlist in the Marine Corps. He got out originally because he broke his leg on duty. He loved the Corps and has always wanted to go back---if they'll let him in. Of course, this entails us getting married. I was really excited about making some drastic changes in my life. I think a new start is exactly what I need. However, of the few people I have talked to about it (we don't want to tell very many people until we know if they will let him back in), they all tell me I'm making a mistake and moving too fast. We love each other very much and I am happier than I have been in a long time. My kids adore him and he loves them more than their father ever did. I just really want SOMEONE to be happy for me!

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welcome to sos!! you will find so much support here!!

:hi Welcome.

I think as long as you and your kids are happy that's all that matters. Follow your heart and don't let anybody tell you what's right or wrong or if you are going too fast or too slow.

Hey, welcome to the board- if you wanna talk in message you can message me sometime, as I am new as well.

Well, do you think you are moving too fast? by the way you sound it seems like you feel like you are. Do you wanna get married? He obviously loves you to death, otherwise he wouldn't be re-enlisting into the marines.
Having a s/o that is in the military is hard, and you will need a lot of support.

well, my hubby and i got married after only knowing each other and dating for 5 1/2 weeks. we have been married for over 2 1/2 years. so basically, you are the only one that knows what's right for you. no one else can predict your future. i think if you're happy with him and you want to spend the rest of your life with him, then no matter how long you guys have known each other or how long you have dated plays a factor in it.

oh, and welcome! i'm here if you wanna talk. :D

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Like others said, as long as you are happy and feel right about your decision, then it is fine.

Welcome!

That sure is a lot of changes for you guys! I am sorry you have endured everything thus far! I think honestly, only you can decide what is best for you & your family. It is going to be scary no matter what you chose, so don't let fear hinder you! Good luck in your decision & good luck to your SO if he is able to reenlist & does so! :hugs

Thanks, Ladies!! I do feel like it is the right decision for us. I am trying to not let the bad vibes get to me, but it's hard to feel like everyone is so dissapointed in me. Ultimately it is my decision and I can't let anyone else make it for me. I feel better knowing there are people out there who don't think I'm completely nuts. I know it is going to be difficult being a military wife. It's something I've never really had to deal with before. But, I know the consequences and am prepared for them. Thanks for your support!!!!

:welcome If you love him and he loves you like it seems then as long as you don't have any doubts go ahead and get married. Everyone can say that it might or might not work, but only you and him are in the relationship.

I just wan to say I think your ex sounds like a jackass. If you love your man then that is all that matters. If you think him re-enlisting is the best thing for both of you, then why not. PM me if you wanna chat sweetie.
By the way :weldust

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Welcome to SOS!

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I`m Mia
You are the only one that can make that decission. You sound happy ,so does he. You can be together for years and still not know what will be around the corner. Sometimes we just have to take the opportunity when the time feels right.
I`m very happy for you if he makes you feel safe ,happy and fulfilled .
Good luck :hugs

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:hi and welcome to SOS!

Oh honey - love has no time limit!
If he makes you truely happy.. GO FOR IT GIRL!!!
BTW.. Welcome.. You'll love it here.. and get tons of support!!! :)

:welcome Hi I'm Katie

:weldust I'm Sam...you are the only one who knows the right decision for you, if marrying him is what you know in your heart is best for you and your children that thats what is right for you...dont let others get you down. Im here to talk if u need or want to

I'll be happy for you because I know what it feels like to think you are making the best decision for YOU while everyone else butts their heads in selfishly. :)

:heythere You have quite a story and I hope we can be of comfort to you here!

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Dont listen to other people follow your heart and I will be happy for you!nothing like being a Marines wife! good luck! and oooorrrrahhhhh!

Welcome!

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My husband of six years left me for his 18-year-old girlfriend while I was seven months pregnant with his baby in November. Shortly after the birth of my second son, I started dating a friend of mine from school whom I had known for over a year---an ex-marine. We have now been dating for six months and we live together, but we are struggling to make ends meet since my ex left me with a bunch of bills and hasn't been paying me child support. After much deliberation, we have decided that he should re enlist in the Marine Corps. He got out originally because he broke his leg on duty. He loved the Corps and has always wanted to go back---if they'll let him in. Of course, this entails us getting married. I was really excited about making some drastic changes in my life. I think a new start is exactly what I need. However, of the few people I have talked to about it (we don't want to tell very many people until we know if they will let him back in), they all tell me I'm making a mistake and moving too fast. We love each other very much and I am happier than I have been in a long time. My kids adore him and he loves them more than their father ever did. I just really want SOMEONE to be happy for me!

if you think you are doing the right thing, then dont let other influence your decisions. make yourself and your kids happy before you listen to others.
good luck
if you ever need anything pm me :hehe

Savanna

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My husband of six years left me for his 18-year-old girlfriend while I was seven months pregnant with his baby in November. Shortly after the birth of my second son, I started dating a friend of mine from school whom I had known for over a year---an ex-marine. We have now been dating for six months and we live together, but we are struggling to make ends meet since my ex left me with a bunch of bills and hasn't been paying me child support. After much deliberation, we have decided that he should re enlist in the Marine Corps. He got out originally because he broke his leg on duty. He loved the Corps and has always wanted to go back---if they'll let him in. Of course, this entails us getting married. I was really excited about making some drastic changes in my life. I think a new start is exactly what I need. However, of the few people I have talked to about it (we don't want to tell very many people until we know if they will let him back in), they all tell me I'm making a mistake and moving too fast. We love each other very much and I am happier than I have been in a long time. My kids adore him and he loves them more than their father ever did. I just really want SOMEONE to be happy for me!



welcome...dont do what makes others happy do what makes YOU happy

hi and welcome! If you want to get married, then get married! :) Don't worry about what others think... DH and i got married after dating for 6mos and here we are 8 years and 4 kids later. We had a lot of eyebrows raised too, but i don't care - we are happy and that is all that matters. life is short - do what makes you happy. :)

Welcome to the SOS.

i agree with the gals, if you feel its right then go for it... me and dh where only dating for like two/three months when we started talking about settling down, there were alot of things in common. dec 06 he gave me promise ring, apr 07 found out we were expecting, aug 07 got married, dec 08 had our first child.

i knew he was the one, and when you got that feeling act on it. best of luck to you both!!

:heythere and Welcome! Sorry about your ex but congrats on your current love, I wish you the best! :) :hugs

Hello and welcome from another newbie!
Regards and much love!

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