WHy do I just keep nitpicking at dh? He is an amazing husband. He is great, perfect, does everything i need. Yet, I keep picking on him. MAybe i have issues. I made a big deal about him having his leave all planned out, so we know who is spending time with him when. And i let him know that i want as much time as possible, alone, with him, since for 2 weeks we get to act like a normal married couple.

Then tonight i'm riding his ass about not telling me who he talked to. I told him it bugs me when i ask about his day and his repsonse is ok, worked, came home, showered, went to bed. Then the next day it comes up that he had talked to his cousin for a few hours. Its like wtf....why dont you tell me that when i ask about your day? I tod him it kinda makes me wonder what else I dont know. I realize its not fiar to expect him to tell me 100% of what he does at all times.

I'm starting to think that some of my issues from the past are creeping back into my brain.

I think you just miss him a lot. And when you do live with someone it's different right? You just really want to know what he does.

I'm guilty of being nitpicky too haha. Like last night DH and I argued because I was looking at the cell phone bill and I saw he had been on the phone for an hour the night before, about two hours after we talked. Plus he said he was tired and sleepy. It kinda irritated me because he's always complaining how tired he is, and he's not even overseas yet (still in KS training).

But yeah, sorry I'm rambling, that's when I started asking questions. It might be a little of your past creeping up on you too. But, I really think it's missing him and not knowing what's going on that makes us worried yanno?

Hopefully everything turns out better as time passes. For the meantime, try not to overanalyze what he doesn't tell you. As long as he calls home, just be happy with those moments. It's hard to do, but I also need to learn that too.

Men don't deal in details like we do. They talk in the general and, by him saying he worked, showered, and other mundane things, that IS him sharing. And the less we try to pull information out of a man, the more they're willing to share.

Ha! You sound just like me. Welcome to marriage... One thing I try to remember is that men just don't think the same as women. When they ask us about our day, we tell them about how we were planning on wearing the blue shirt, but it was missing a button, so we opted for the red one... Then I made coffee, but it wasn't very good, so I stopped at Starbucks on the way to work. When I got to work, my fax machine was broken, so I called that guy, Rick, You know, the one who's wife just had a baby?... That's how we are. When we ask them, Honey, How was your day? They respond.. "Fine". UGH! So irritating, isn't it? One thing I have learned from my husband is that if you want answers, your have to ask specific questions. It's like talking to a little kid. If you ask simple questions, you get simple answers. I ask my husband questions like, "Did you talk to anyone interesting today? Did you go anywhere besides work?" Just more specific questions to get him talking..

For me I start nitpicking Trav when things are going too good for me.

Good points ladies! I guess its just one of the many joys of being a woman!