just curious to know what you ladies think.


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I personally say it is. Like personally if I did it and not with my husband...then yes I would say I cheated...if my DH did it with someone else then yes...it would be and I wouldn't be with him any longer! But thats just me.

It sure is.... definitely....

I personally say it is. Like personally if I did it and not with my husband...then yes I would say I cheated...if my DH did it with someone else then yes...it would be and I wouldn't be with him any longer! But thats just me.

:agree

umm...yes!

Absolutely.

yes...

Yes its cheating because you are being intimate with that person even though you are not physically in the same place.

ooo definitely!! i'd be just as pissed as if it happened with body to body contact

:yes

:yes I really think it is. You shouldn't even talk to someone else like that that isn't your SO.

most definately... id be royally pissed.

YES!!!
Went through that with DB
he did it over a year ago
i didnt find out till recently
he realises how bad he screwed up
and how much he has hurt me
DB is working hard to earn my trust back
i love him, but i wont tolerate this if it ever happens again that's for sure
it hurts just as bad as if he had physically cheated....
i love him he has a lot of work ahead of him

oh and I would like to add that if he can make a phone call then why isnt it to me?!?! Especially one like that lol

YES

YES

Are you sure Ellen? I mean I think you may need to be a little more emphatic to get your point across.

I find it as a form of betrayal even if he isn't physically with the other person, it would still hurt me emotionally

uh that would still be having an intimate moment and thoughts and fantasies with someone else. Yes i would def consider it cheating

oh and I would like to add that if he can make a phone call then why isnt it to me?!?! Especially one like that lol

I Know right!

doesnt it say SEX in the title?


ANYTHING intimate, may it be physical, emotional... whatever... that ISN'T with your significant other is CHEATING.

to think that it ISN'T cheating, in MY opinion, is absolutely ridiculous. you don't have PHYSICAL sex with another person... THEREFOR you don't MASTURBATE while another person tells you what they WOULD do if you were having physical sex OVER THE PHONE.

Hell yes it is!

For me, it is the thought that counts. Are you thinking about it? Well then you might as well be doing it. lol

Effin right it is.

I dont think it is. There is no contact... plus fantasising(sp) about another person is normal, hell every time I masterbate, I make up someone.....

plus I would rather DH do that then cheat on me.

hell yes

in my eyes, yes it is cheating

yes, it would be a huge problem if i ever found out dh had phone sex with someone else.

ooo definitely!! i'd be just as pissed as if it happened with body to body contact

:yes

EXACTLY, maybe even moreso. Phone sex, computer sex, all take time and thought. It's not like you got drunk and there happened to be a hot chick[guy] there and you fell into fleeting temptation,only to feel guity afterwards. Not that ANY cheating is better, but i've alays been of the mindset that i'd be more hurt if i was ever cheated on and it was an emotional affair w/ feelings attatched.

Yes it's and I wouldn't tolerate or accept it at all if my man was doing that!
Why would some 1 do that in the 1st place anyways instead of doing phone sex with the better half?
If my man and I would've a open relationship, things would be different though!
Regards and much love!

Yes, it is IMO

:yes

100%...no doubt...YES...it is Cheating!!!

no doubt about it

most defiantly is..

if you don't think it is.. then do you not consider when you and your SO do [if you do], then is it "real"?

absolutely! that is SUCH a betrayal.

UMM yes i do think it is.

:yes I would have to say :yes

definitly...if he wanted to have phone sex why couldnt he just call me...its definilty a form of cheating because its being intimate with another person. i would :slap db so hard if he ever did that. but he wouldnt and i love him :wub

It is defenitely cheating. Anything intimate, whether there is actual physcial contact or not, is cheating.

I feel that anything your SO wouldn't approve of is cheating. If you wouldn't do it in front of him then yes its cheating :carryon

I personally believe that It is cheating, but in order to say for a relationship I think the man and woman should actually talk about it. some people feel it is okay, others dont. If you let your partner know you feel it is not okay, then there will be no doubt about it.

:yes it definitely is!

FOR.SURE

I dont think it is. There is no contact... plus fantasising(sp) about another person is normal, hell every time I masterbate, I make up someone.....

plus I would rather DH do that then cheat on me.

phone sex isn't JUST masturbating while thinking of another person.... that happens...

phone sex is masturbating WHILE TALKING TO ANOTHER PERSON ABOUT HAVING SEX WITH THAT OTHER PERSON.

would you HONESTLY want to hear your husband over the phone with another girl telling her what he is 'doing' to her body while she does the same to him? would you HONESTLY want to see your husband masturbate to the sound of another girls voice?

Hell yes that's cheating!

phone sex isn't JUST masturbating while thinking of another person.... that happens...

phone sex is masturbating WHILE TALKING TO ANOTHER PERSON ABOUT HAVING SEX WITH THAT OTHER PERSON.

would you HONESTLY want to hear your husband over the phone with another girl telling her what he is 'doing' to her body while she does the same to him? would you HONESTLY want to see your husband masturbate to the sound of another girls voice?


It really wouldnt bother me. DH and I just have that kind of relationship. I even asked his opinion on this and he agrees with me. We are both completely comfortable in our relationship that it wouldnt bother either of us.

yes, so is cyber sex

i feel it is a form of cheating.

it depends.

if it's a phone sex hotline, then no.
if it's with a woman he personally knows, then yes.

uh...yeah 100 %

deal breaker for sure

Yes its cheating because you are being intimate with that person even though you are not physically in the same place.

:agree
well said

Yea DUH!

In my marriage it would be. Other people can decide that for themselves without me telling them what is and isn't cheating though.

Yes its cheating because you are being intimate with that person even though you are not physically in the same place.


yep

:yes I really think it is. You shouldn't even talk to someone else like that that isn't your SO.

:yes

it is totally cheating

I think the whole thing with cheating is you have to think would you be mad if your SO was doing this with someone else. I would be pissed if my DB was having phone sex with someone else. YES its cheating for me

Yes.

I do think phone sex is, but I do not think cyber sex is in all cases. Phone sex is intimate with someone you know well enough to call. Cyber can be anonymous, with a screen name you just made up, with someone you will never talk to again, kwim?

you bet. :yes

NM Im a dork.

yes it is

No. I liken it to a phone sex line.

I would feel so guilty if I were ever to have phone sex. Mostly because I know DH would be hurt if he knew I did....It would bother me...Just like I would never do that to him because I know it would bother him. So...yes, I think it's cheating

Any intimate anything with someone other than your SO is cheating. Its you having feelings towards someone else that you probably should not be having...so what seems like even the smallest thing...like phone sex....is cheating. :myop

YES

it depends.

if it's a phone sex hotline, then no.
if it's with a woman he personally knows, then yes.

TO ME, that's like saying, "If he fucks a prostitute, it's not cheating, but if he fucks my best friend, it is."

Cheating is cheating, IMO. In fact, in some ways I think a phone sex line is WORSE than with someone he knows, becuase with someone he knows it could have been that casual jokes went too far, but you actually have to seek out a sex hotline with the actual intent of getting off with someone who isn't your S/O, not to mention you're PAYING to be dishonest, because it's almost guaranteed not to have consequences.

I only phone sex with my DH. He's the only one who needs to hear my voice and I'm the only voice he needs to hear and mess around with. Anything else is cheating.