Ok so reading the thread http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=172461 I was getting curious.

If you and your SO decide to have a 3some, would that be cheating in your eyes?

no. i don't think it would be.

If both partners are involved, then it's not an extracirricular activity. Therfore, it would not be cheating.

I believe it depends on what the situation is. For example, an ex and I wanted to go to a swingers club to check things out. He'd also talked about wanting to have a 3 some and I was okay with it. My current DB and I...I just can't imagine ever doing it. I would become jealous, probably feel betrayed. Now if I were bi-sexual, I think it would be cheating, trying to get the best of both worlds.

If they both agreed to it, I'd say that was swinging... not cheating LOL

I would kill someone if she touched my man in front of me...so yes to me a 3-some is cheating...and I couldn't handle seeing Db with anyone else...ugh!

But I suppose if both people consented and that was the lifestyle they chose then I could see where that wouldn't be cheating...but I would NOT be okay with it!

No.......
That's not cheating!!!!

Nope.

I don't see how a 3 some would be cheating when BOTH parties would be aware of what was going on and consent to it...

Now if the wife/gf or husband/bf sleeps with the 3rd person unaware to his/her SO, then THAT would be cheating..

Not if you both agree with it.

No if all parties agree to it it is not cheating it is swinging.

if it was planned and you went into it knowingly and in good mind then no its not cheating IMO.

No if all parties agree to it it is not cheating it is swinging.

BINGO!!!

I don't think it would be cheating.

Not if all parties agree to it. Some people swing that way. No pun intended?

Not as long as both parties agree on it

No, not if both agree. If both don't agree, it would be rape, not an affair...unless the disagree-er wasn't participating.

No, not if both agree. If both don't agree, it would be rape, not an affair...unless the disagree-er wasn't participating.

When I said both, I meant partner and partner agreeing/disagreeing to the 3rd person.

If both parties agree to it, then it's not cheating.

Not at all, because both people in the relationship are open, and know about it. To me, cheating describes something in which the cheater is being dishonest with the other person in the relationship about what they are doing, and doing something they would definitely not be okay with. The situation you presented, is definitely not cheating if all parties involved know exactly what is going on, and agree with it.

If he picked some girl that he really wanted to have sex with and then "conned" me into the 3some, then it would be cheating. And he would suck for doing that and I wouldn't want him around anyway.

But if we both agreed with everything out in the open, then it wouldn't be cheating, IMO.

I would kill someone if she touched my man in front of me...so yes to me a 3-some is cheating...and I couldn't handle seeing Db with anyone else...ugh!

But I suppose if both people consented and that was the lifestyle they chose then I could see where that wouldn't be cheating...but I would NOT be okay with it!



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No i don't think its cheating. But I still wouldn't want to do it! I'm too jealous and wouldn't want him touching anyone else

I'm sure most of us will agree that if us and our SOs DECIDE as in...discuss and come to a choice together...then its absolutely not cheating! :thumbsup

if both are ok with it then i don't see it as cheating.. i personally wouldn't be ok with it but thats just me!

no

If all people involved are 100% on board with having the threesome.. and NO people involved take it ANY FURTHER than that sex session, then no, it is not cheating.

it would be cheating if say DH started seeing a girl we had a threesome with on the side. because I didn't consent.. and because he is being intimate with a girl that isn't me. (or me with a guy or girl we add.. whatever)

I don't see how a 3 some would be cheating when BOTH parties would be aware of what was going on and consent to it...

Now if the wife/gf or husband/bf sleeps with the 3rd person unaware to his/her SO, then THAT would be cheating..


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If both partners are involved, then it's not an extracirricular activity. Therfore, it would not be cheating.

Couldn't have said it better ;)

If they both agreed to it, I'd say that was swinging... not cheating LOL

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It may destroy relationships!!!!!!!!!!! But it both parties are in agreement then no it's not cheating!!!!!!!!!

well, if we agreed to do a 3some, i'd think that it wasn't cheating. i think my hubby with anyone else but me is cheating so i would never agree to that. so let's say if some girl just came into the bedroom all willy nilly...yeah, i'd freak out and that'd be cheating.

As long as both people in the couple are agreeing to it, I don't see it as cheating. However, I could never do it, the thought of having to share DH at all makes me want to tear my hair out or punch something!

If BOTH people agree to it, then no it is not cheating