Dh is afraid to have sex. It is driving me crazy!!!! I asked him today what he is afraid of and he wont tell me. I have told him he wont hurt the baby, but I think he is just freaked out.

I understood his fear through the first trimester and I was too sick anyway, but oh man.... I need to get laid....

any ideas?

hmmm... well, you could always walk around nakie.... or jump him!

hmmm... well, you could always walk around nakie.... or jump him!

tried that, :( both actually, didnt work. he said no and told me i need to respect him not being in the mood...:sigh he is such a girl..lol

you can do what we did and put a blanket over your stomach so he isn't directly touching it. my hubby had an issue with touching my belly while i was pregnant so we put a blanket over it and that seemed to work for awhile until i just got so huge, there was no avoiding it. haha.

umm.... hmmm... :gaah MEN!

I don't know... maybe talk to him about how you are feeling, and tell him he needs to tell you why he is scared.

Jump him in the middle of the night, he'll be half asleep he won't know whats going on! :giggle

:lol i'm sorry but this reminded me of that scene in Knocked Up.
Hope you can find a way to get what you need :wink

what's he afraid of, that the baby will grab his junk and start beat-boxing into like a microphone? seriously, he CAN'T be that long!

what's he afraid of, that the baby will grab his junk and start beat-boxing into like a microphone? seriously, he CAN'T be that long!

:lmao I dont know what he is afraid of... it doesnt make sense to me.

wake him up :sex



or you could always start taking care of yourself and tormetn him that way, lol

I would give him his space for now (because trying to FORCE him to have sex, such as waking him up in the middle of the night ON him when you know he doesnt want to is RAPE) and let him know that you truly want to know WHY he doesn't want to... if it has to do with your being pregnant or if there is something else going on.

let him know that you are here for him to talk to, and that you just want to understand what he is having a problem with because you might be able to help... if nothing else, you can be an ear to listen and a shoulder to lean on.

He might not want to tell you because he feels embarrassed or because he thinks that once you know you'll give a solution and just try to jump him anyway. let him know that whatever his fear is, it IS legitimate, and that you both can come to a solution together... even if it means no sex until the baby comes (sorry, but you DO need to respect that)

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and in the mean time, you can take care of yourself :) because there isn't anything wrong with that! :D

We can switch....
(totally kidding..)

But DH gets turned on by the belly thing so he wants it every morning and night.. he thinks i make up the morning sickness sometimes to avoid it... men... never a happy medium :no

I don't know how to help... My husband has NO problem having sex while I'm pregnant :lol He'll have sex anytime, anywhere if I want it :lmao

Like jennifer said, start taking care of yourself.. in front of him :teehee

Get him drunk and take advantage of him. hehehe. If he still wont give it up, you might have to break out the toys. Good luck.