My DH and I found out at the beginning of this week that we are going to have a baby :woohoo We are very excited, HOWEVER......

I have been trying my hardest to get an appointment to see a doctor. Never had a baby before, I have had what I call an "unconfirmed" miscarraige before because it was not confirmed by a doctor. (I didn't have insurance and it was not long after I got pregnant so I never went) I also have other girly issues that make me worry.
WELL... BACH (the hospital here) wouldn't let me make an appointment because the appointment lady does not believe I am far enough along. (She believes that it's not possible for me to be more then a month and I need to be at least six weeks before they will see me... She also said that once I make an appointment *in two weeks* I have to go to an hour orientation and get blood work so I won't even see anyone then)
SO, I went to the walk in clinic here to try and get a pee test so maybe I could get in through that way (being sneaky.... probably should have done that in the first place) The advice nurse "ordered" the test.
Then I drove TO the hospital and waited for twenty minutes and the order NEVER showed up in the system. (I guess that's what I get for being sneaky?? Darn it...) Well, I gave up and just left.
I don't know what I thought would happen, I guess I just assumed that if you're pregnant they would want to get you on vitamins/blood work/information when you find out. I understand I am still at risk in my first trimester but I wouldn't think that would be any reason to blow me off? Well... I got so frustrated so we went to the Tricare office and filled out a waiver form to be seen off post by a doctor, they said it would be through by yesterday. Well it's not showing up in Tricare's system OR in BACH's system. I don't know what to do anymore!
My hubby is worried because this is our first (I am worried as well considering past experiences...) and I think once I see someone his anxiety AND my anxiety will go away. I just keep worrying that the baby is going to "disappear".... :tears Plus I'm cramping but not NEAR as bad as I was with my miscarriage. (I almost called an ambulance the cramping was so bad that time, I knew I wouldn't be able to drive) It still worries me, though. AND my DH will NOT calm down, I keep telling him lets just wait a little while longer but he gets all excited and worried so I get all excited and worried.
Anyway, maybe this should have been in venting, I am just SO LOST and I don't know what to do. I don't even know if this makes any sense.... :hehe

:hugs I am sorry that they are giving you a hard time. I hate that they wont start seeing you early.

Here they dont see you even for the nurse visit til you are almost 10 weeks and then you see the dr at 12 weeks.

**ETA :congrats on the pregnancy!

I just don't understand that? Why is it that way? Because they are so over-booked?

And thank you =)

:hugs I hope everything works out and you get to see somebody soon sweety !!

They did that with me too, and when I told them that I'd been termed as "high-risk" by other doctors, due to miscarriages, they set up an appointment for me right away. Of course, this was a civilian doctor's office.

First, Congratulations!!!!! Second, I can understand your fears I had a miscarriage during my second pregnancy, but then had a beautiful and healthy boy next time. It is pretty common for a doctor to not see you right away. Actually, mine wouldn't even see me until i was 12 weeks! You can by prenatal vitamins OTC or the dr can call in a script for you while you're waiting.

Congrats!

I think part of it is overbooking and part is because there's larger percentage of pregnancies that result in miscarriages in the first trimester than in the second and third...I know here they usually make you wait until 10 or 12 weeks, once you've made it through most of the first.

considering you truly can not heart the heartbeat until closer to 6 weeks, there is no reason for a sooner appointment. They usually only do one ultersound and that is at 20 weeks UNLESS you are high risk. While I understand your upset it is how the military and a lot of civilian doctors work. Miscarriages are actually very common (most women think they are just having a heavy period) so they may not see you as high risk.

Just hang in there! Another 2 weeks will be here before you know it. *hugs*

I'm sorry :hugs
They wouldn't ever see me till 12 weeks. You can go to Wal-Mart (any grocery store) to get pre-natal vitamins....Remember to take them W/food (very important)...I'm sorry it is hard. I hope everything goes smoothly this time :)
:congrats

Yes, on post especially, they do not see you until you're further along. Generally at around 10-12 weeks. I haven't even had this pregnancy confirmed with them yet since all they'll do is take blood, get me vitamins, and make me sit through some stupid class (actually I'm not sure about that class, it depends on the post - I'm hoping they don't have it here) anyway...

You can get the vitamins without a prescription. Do you have a GNC near you? I bought mine there.

Some places off post will take you in earlier (I remember being seen at 6 weeks with my first at a civilian doctor), but I've never had that experience at a military facility.

Congratulations!

Thanks everyone. Sorry it took so long to respond, my computer at home is broken and has been for the past month so if I can squeeze in time at work that's when I get the chance to be on here! Well, at least this is not abnormal. It was really bugging the crap out of me and stressing both of us out!!
I was talking to a friend of mine that was in the military and they wouldn't see her until she was five months. And she had to go to her commander to get that appointment!! They kept jerking her around because she was getting out of the military. I think that is just nuts. She didn't even know she was preggo until she was three months along. I would just think that would be all the more reason to see her. :no
Anyway, thanks again for helping me out!! I really do appreciate it. Oh yes and thank you for the congrats!! :P We are really excited!!!!!

First of all, congratulations! Luckily when I found out I was pregnant I was still on my parents' insurance and didn't have to deal with all of this. However, they wouldn't see me at my OB's office until I was at least 6 weeks, and all my family doctor could do was confirm it through blood tests and tell me to get on prenatals. It was so hard to wait for that first appointment, I was so nervous - and I've never had a miscarriage. But they can't tell you if you're going to miscarry, and this early on there's nothing they could do to stop it. I won't tell you not to worry, because I know you will - and it will continue through the entire pregnancy. I still get nervous before every doctor's appointment, and I'm a week away from my 3rd trimester. I hope you can figure out a sneaky way that works to get in and ease your mind!

Ohh!!! Congrats!!

That's how they are here, too. it sucks. I had to wait six weeks after I found out, and then I only saw a practitioner, not even a real nurse.