Would you be mad if your SO took another girl, that you didn't know, out to dinner?

Would it make a difference if it was dinner or lunch?
Would the type of restaurant make a difference?
:dunno


DB and I had this problem last year
when he and an old flame went out to dinner as friends to check in with each other...
it pissed me off...:grumpy
I'd have felt better if it was lunch at some random cafe
instead of sushi at a nice restaurant...
yada min?
Does it make a difference to you?:confused

Yes, I would be VERY upset. I know that DH would never ever do that to me though.

I agree
I think dinner = more formal = more date like
ya know?
just over all not cool

Honestly, I wouldn't care whether it was breakfast, lunch or dinner. I trust my DH and the times that he has dined out with other women I have not had an issue with it. Some have been co-workers, some friends and sometimes it was for "work" while he was recruiting :dunno

Lunch..dinner....I don't give a damn! why in the hell is he taking some girl when he should be taking, oh i don't know, ME!!??? I am the one who puts up with him and his kids all the freaking time....if he wants to chat with some girl, friend or not, do it at work or she can come here WHEN I AM AT HOME. Or better yet, we will find a babysitter and all of us can go out. That shouldnt' be a problem if it is just friends doing stuff.

i expect that if my dh wanted to take anyone to dinner or lunch, he would check in with me first. of course if i know her, most likely i won't care what or where they are eating. if i don't know her, we'd have to come to some agreement about comfort level. i know he has gone out to nice dinners with an ex, but we are all very close and i have no problem with him taking her to dinner or vice versa.

i trust dh but i would not want him to be in a position where things could get out of hand such as another woman hitting on him

I wouldn't be happy about it.

I'm very territorial, and one on one eating moments are mine. lol

I guess I wouldn't care if it was business.... but that's about it. Unless I know the woman, its not happening.

woops again.

Like I said in the other thread DB did just go to dinner with a girl I don't know. I could care less. They are friends and they wanted to go out and catch up. I have gone out to dinner with guys too. Dinner does is not them sleeping together it is them sitting at a table eating food and talking. If I was around I would have been invited, but I'm not so they went alone. No big deal man.

He better not be taking anyone out to eat any meal without my knowledge.

Aye, I would NOT like that at all....ugh just the thought of that happening makes my stomach turn! No matter where at or what time of day, being alone with another female outside of work is a NO-NO! To me atleast, haha!

lol dont even ask why i reposted.

There're a few no no's we've in this relationship:
1. not telling the other 1 about things we do or where we're going!
2. no dinner/lunch or hook ups with complete strangers, exes, anybody that has other intensions or who's into either him or me and if dinners than the both of us'll go!
3. certain places/restaurants're just for us to go to on our kids free evenings/weekends and going there with others's disrespecting the relationship and him and me!
4. exes and everything that happened in the past stays in the past!
5. if contact from exes/to exes's made it's via email and for a good reason/important reason other than that it's the same like 4.!

So therefore since we got those no no's what your bf did, won't happen at all and we both got too much respect for each other!
1 of my exes wanted me to go to dinner with him so he could explain to me why he treated me the way he did and also to apologize for his actions, but I told him I only meet him if my man can join and since he didn't agree to it, it never happened - not that I would've cared to go for dinner with him anyways, but I live by the no no's just as much as my man does and nobody or anything can change that!
Regards and much love!

Nah. He's an amazing man, and faithful and doting almost to a fault...I have zero reason to mistrust. The girls he hangs out with are mutual friends of ours or coworkers. No big deal:shrug

I would like to SAY I wouldn't have a problem.. but I know I would... even if I didn't tell him.

I completely trust him... I doubt he would even go out to dinner at a nice place with another chick.... but if he DID... I would probably have a problem.. but try to keep it to myself because it is just my OWN insecurities.. and nothing to do with him. not fair to make him suffer for MY faults.

I wouldn't be angry with him. He is a big boy and can make his own decisions. I trust him, enough to know that this will never be an issue with us, and if he did end up having dinner with someone else I know it would be innocent. At least on his part it would. Other women though... other women I don't trust. Luckily my husband is a giant dork and has noooooo idea when a woman is hitting on him, and even if he did realize it he would have NO idea what to do about it. :lol I love him to death, but the boy has NO game. :rofl

I wouldn't be angry with him. He is a big boy and can make his own decisions. I trust him, enough to know that this will never be an issue with us, and if he did end up having dinner with someone else I know it would be innocent. At least on his part it would. Other women though... other women I don't trust. Luckily my husband is a giant dork and has noooooo idea when a woman is hitting on him, and even if he did realize it he would have NO idea what to do about it. :lol I love him to death, but the boy has NO game. :rofl

hahaha.. better than Andrew where EVERYONE wants him.... he's just about gotten numbers from waitresses WITH ME SITTING THERE! haha... he is a HUGE flirt! ... just doesn't realize that what he is doing is flirting... thank GOD he is VERY VERY set against cheating so I don't have to worry about him ;)

because seriously... EVERYONE loves him!

hahaha.. better than Andrew where EVERYONE wants him.... he's just about gotten numbers from waitresses WITH ME SITTING THERE! haha... he is a HUGE flirt! ... just doesn't realize that what he is doing is flirting... thank GOD he is VERY VERY set against cheating so I don't have to worry about him ;)

because seriously... EVERYONE loves him!

Adam has gotten flirted with in front of me before... it always cracks me up. The best time was when a girl that Adam worked with kept inviting him to lunch... OBVIOUSLY trying to spend time alone with him. I thought it was kinda funny and teased him about it and he kept telling me that it wasn't like that and they just ended up working the same shifts a lot so they have the same lunch hour. Totally oblivious of course. :lol

Well, we went through her line (she was a cashier) at the store they worked at one day and she asked him if I was his sister (yeah, that's not at ALL obvious... :rolleyes) and he told her I was his wife...

Wouldn't you know the next day she was telling Adam's actual sister, Gretta (who also worked there), how disappointed she was that he was married and that she was going to keep trying to get him hoping that he was unhappy with me. :rofl She had NO IDEA that she was talking to Adam's SISTER. Idiot! :lol Gretta told her that Adam was her brother and I was her best friend and she better back off and that was the end of it, but OMG it was SO FUNNY. I wanted to smack her and laugh in her face at the same time. I teased Adam about that girl for MONTHS until she finally stopped working there.

Of course, being the giant goober he is, he still had no idea that she was flirting with him at all until Gretta told him what she said. Then all of a sudden a bell went off. He is such a nerd. :lol

I think there are a lot of women out there that mistake being friendly for flirting, which is honestly kinda sad, don't you think? Give them a tiny bit of attention and they assume they are being hit on.

Adam has gotten flirted with in front of me before... it always cracks me up. The best time was when a girl that Adam worked with kept inviting him to lunch... OBVIOUSLY trying to spend time alone with him. I thought it was kinda funny and teased him about it and he kept telling me that it wasn't like that and they just ended up working the same shifts a lot so they have the same lunch hour. Totally oblivious of course. :lol

Well, we went through her line (she was a cashier) at the store they worked at one day and she asked him if I was his sister (yeah, that's not at ALL obvious... :rolleyes) and he told her I was his wife...

Wouldn't you know the next day she was telling Adam's actual sister, Gretta (who also worked there), how disappointed she was that he was married and that she was going to keep trying to get him hoping that he was unhappy with me. :rofl She had NO IDEA that she was talking to Adam's SISTER. Idiot! :lol Gretta told her that Adam was her brother and I was her best friend and she better back off and that was the end of it, but OMG it was SO FUNNY. I wanted to smack her and laugh in her face at the same time. I teased Adam about that girl for MONTHS until she finally stopped working there.

Of course, being the giant goober he is, he still had no idea that she was flirting with him at all until Gretta told him what she said. Then all of a sudden a bell went off. He is such a nerd. :lol

I think there are a lot of women out there that mistake being friendly for flirting, which is honestly kinda sad, don't you think? Give them a tiny bit of attention and they assume they are being hit on.

ahhahahaha!! that is hilarious!!! Andrew rarely knows when he is being hit on... but KNOWS that he could basically get ANYONE if he wanted...

yeah... he really is just being nice.. I am the same way.. nice where people think i'm flirting... i guess it is just the jokes we make? but it is still sad that people prefer to think we are flirting..

then again... if we WERE flirting and they thought we were just being nice... they'd be made fun of :giggle its a lose lose! :D

ahhahahaha!! that is hilarious!!! Andrew rarely knows when he is being hit on... but KNOWS that he could basically get ANYONE if he wanted...

yeah... he really is just being nice.. I am the same way.. nice where people think i'm flirting... i guess it is just the jokes we make? but it is still sad that people prefer to think we are flirting..

then again... if we WERE flirting and they thought we were just being nice... they'd be made fun of :giggle its a lose lose! :D

:giggle Only a loss for them. You and Andrew are winners cuz you have each other. Who cares what everyone else thinks right? At least, that's what I tell myself. :P

I think you are over reacting. What ever happened to trusting our men?

I hear ya, Bryanna...Michael is a smooth talker and the ladies seriously just fall all over themselves. He's WAY too innocent to realize they are, though. :lol I practically had to scream in his face to get him to realize I was indeed asking him out, and he hasn't gotten any less dense in that department since then. :rofl

:giggle Only a loss for them. You and Andrew are winners cuz you have each other. Who cares what everyone else thinks right? At least, that's what I tell myself. :P

hahahaha... exactly! :D

I hear ya, Bryanna...Michael is a smooth talker and the ladies seriously just fall all over themselves. He's WAY too innocent to realize they are, though. :lol I practically had to scream in his face to get him to realize I was indeed asking him out, and he hasn't gotten any less dense in that department since then. :rofl

oh man... I think it took about.... 7-8 months for andrew and I to start dating AFTER we BOTH said we WANTED to... take out a couple months where it wasn't SMART for me to start dating.. and we were STILL absolutely PATHETIC! haha

Yes

Hell effing YES I'd be PISSED!

Oh HELL YEAH I would be pissed.

I agree
I think dinner = more formal = more date like
ya know?
just over all not cool

that's what i was thinking!

BUT, i would be pissed if he went out by himself, with another girl, to dinner, PERIOD!

I would like to SAY I wouldn't have a problem.. but I know I would... even if I didn't tell him.

I completely trust him... I doubt he would even go out to dinner at a nice place with another chick.... but if he DID... I would probably have a problem.. but try to keep it to myself because it is just my OWN insecurities.. and nothing to do with him. not fair to make him suffer for MY faults.

i can relate to you to the T on this one!

Yes, but only because it's pretty much impossible for us to go to dinner. If he went with someone else (male or female), I'd be ticked.

OP

Yep - indeed I would be pissed.
NOT That I'd think my hubby would cheat, etc - but that he shouldn't be spending ANY time with anyone other than me in that way.

My ex (boyfriend) did that - when I was working late night I found out that he use to meet up with his old flame from highschool and eventhough they both had their own interests and lives the fact that he was deciding to spend his time with someone other than me was a stab in the back.

That's ok, though, I found a better man :)

If he was taking someone I didn't know I would be a bit upset.. If it was an old flame I would be hurt that he actually wanted to do it.. That being said dh has gone to lunch with friends of ours and I have no problems. I guess not knowing what the other person's intentions are would bother me the most