So I have been sick for 2 days with a horrible stomach flu and it hasn't been pretty. Well, it's only been 4 days since my DF left to BT and time has been going sooo slow. I have been getting our wedding situated and it seems to be going ok. Well, I had just a few questions..

1. I got his address the day after he arrived at BT, and I have been writing him since I received his address...When do you think he will receive my letters? and when can I expect a letter from him?

2. As soon as I find out his graduation date, should I start booking flights and hotels?

3. I only received one call from him when he arrived and sadly...I missed it, when do you think he will have a chance to call?

I have also been feeling insecure and worrisome about him. Our relationship has been long distance for about 2 years. I was able to see him for about 1 week and he told me that he promises he will never leave me. That he knew I was the one he wanted to marry when he first met me. He was the one who wanted to marry me before bootcamp but I said I rather get married during his A-School. The bad thing is, during our relationship last year I made a mistake and cheated on him and he forgave me and still wanted to be with me, but now that hangs over my head like damn, maybe he's going to get me back and just a bunch of stuff is all over my mind. I have been reading some post that the Navy changes the guy and that worries me. I'm scared he's going to change his mind and be like I don't want to be with you anymore. I'm also scared he's going to leave me for some Navy chick...but he kept telling me over and over he wouldn't leave me for no one. He gave me the permission to go ahead and plan the wedding.... Theirs so much more, but how can I stop thinking the way I am? It's so hard.... :sigh

heyyy. my df is in basic too. almost done actually! i hope these answers help...

1. i started writing df as soon as i got his adress as well. i think it was about 5 to 7 days til i got a letter back. but it really depends on how much personal time they are letting him have. they can only write during that time.

2.when you find out his date wait just a bit to make sure that will be the final date. it can change. when your sure it will be that date then book your flights and hotels.

3.im sorry you missed his call when he got there. honestly honey it could be a while before you hear from him again. i know that is upsetting. it just depends on his drill sargeants and if they choose to let them have a phone call. just keep your phone close!

i know its so hard to not have these thoughts that you have. everyone goes thru it. if he forgave you for cheating on him you need to let that go. he forgave you so dont let it bother you anymore. it will only stress you out more. if he says he loves you and your the one for him then he means it! trust me,you will be the only thing he is thinking about during his training. its gonna be tough for him so he needs you to be strong and be there for him. go ahead and plan that wedding and make it perfect!! he loves you and only you and when you see him again it will be so amazing. this is a wonderful site. you will find tons of helpful ladies here. be strong,we're all here for you. feel free to pm me if you need to. :)

:hugs I am sorry this is hard on you. Just remember he forgave you, loves you and wants to be with you! :)

Sorry you're having a bad time. I hope time goes by fast for you!

Thanks for your responses. It helps alot to know that I have people who know what it's like to go through these type of feelings. My mom has this feeling that he is going to stick with me. Only reason why he joined the Navy was so that he can marry me. My parents wouldn't approve him to marry me any other way aside from him joining the military because he had no schooling. So that shows...he does love me. I just hope he doesn't change his mind.