I'm a girlfriend and my boyfriend is in the Navy. We are talking about marriage and I couldn't be happier. However, I'm wondering if the military life is something I can handle. I grew up in the military (my dad was in the Army) so I know what it's like to move. I moved to Pensacola, FL in August to be with my boyfriend while he goes through flight school. I have my own apartment, a good job teaching 6th grade but have found it hard to make friends. I haven't met anyone I "click" with and am worried that this trend will continue if I keep moving.

I love my boyfriend and am so blessed to have him in my life. I have no doubts in my mind that he is "the one". However, I am lonely in Florida. I miss my family and friends. I've tried making friends down here but haven't found people that share the same interests, etc. Am I being too picky and worrisome? I want to make sure that my life doesn't depend on my boyfriend but I don't want to give up being with him and moving wherever the Navy sends him. It's a catch-22 and I don't know what to do.

Any advice?

THanks so much!

Not sure that I have any REALLY good advice for you because I've only been a military wife for 6 months, but I will say that I have felt like you do sometimes. I had never lived anywhere but home and now I live out here with a bunch of people that I "don't really click with" kinda just like you feel. I think it's best to just try to put your best self out there and attempt to make friends. I know not everyone will be your best buddy but there's a lot of good opportunities as far as community events, etc. to get to know people even if they don't click as well as you'd like them to. This site is a good place to start to find people in your area, and if you don't then it's just a good site over all to find people to talk to... I know it doesn't compare to a REAL person but I will admit the companionship on here really does help. Good luck! :D

I think there are always times when you are going to feel a bit overwhelmed. I'm sure you are more than capable of handling the military life especially since you have previous experience. As far as making friends goes, sometimes it's easier than others. I bet you are absolutely darling and will make friends soon. Just remember that despite the ups and downs your man is worth it :) You could always try posting a thread on this site looking for other ladies in your area... it worked for me. Let me know if you ever need anything, I'm always here for you girl! You'll be just fine I know it :hugs

Military life is definetly hard, but it also has so many rewards. If you honestly think he is THE ONE then it will be worth the sacrafices. If you still have a hard time thinking of giving up certain aspects of your life or future, then it might be wise to wait a little longer before deciding to take the plunge of marriage. It is only fair to him and to you.

Best of luck. :hugs