So last nite my DB calls me from the ship he has been gone 1 week for his deployment, he called me last night and he was complaining about how hot it was on the ship and what crap the phone card people gave him. Then he called me again today and sounded irritated to tell me that he would not be able to talk to me until later but I asked him what was wrong and he almost bit my head off :dunno he said I am trying to hurry cause my calling card is almost up. It just felt like he was upset at his situation and took it out on me. I did not complain to him because I know he has enough going on at work but it pisses me off that I get chewed out cause I am trying to be supportive and loving to him.:arg

Yeah, unfortunately for us they do tend to sometimes take frustrations out. I had something go on this morning w/ DH that made me wanna fly to Iraq and smack whoever got him in the pissy mood b/c he sure as heck took it out on me! But then I just have to try to remember what it must be like for him and try to give him the "get out of jail free card". So just hang in there! :hugs

get used to it!!! It happens a lot. But they really really really dont mean it. You're probably the only one from home he talks to on a regular basis so you're gonna get the stress. Just ask him not to chew you out when he's had a bad day and just let him realize that he's doing it, because I'm sure those are not his intentions.

I'm sorry. It really sucks when your day is all fine and dandy and they call upset. All you can think is what did I do? Then your day is a little down just knowing that he's upset. Just keep giving him the love and support, Im sure it will all blow over. I bet if he sits and reflects on it, he feels bad eventhough he may not say it. Im sure you know he loves you.

So last nite my DB calls me from the ship he has been gone 1 week for his deployment, he called me last night and he was complaining about how hot it was on the ship and what crap the phone card people gave him. Then he called me again today and sounded irritated to tell me that he would not be able to talk to me until later but I asked him what was wrong and he almost bit my head off :dunno he said I am trying to hurry cause my calling card is almost up. It just felt like he was upset at his situation and took it out on me. I did not complain to him because I know he has enough going on at work but it pisses me off that I get chewed out cause I am trying to be supportive and loving to him.:arg
So this is an update. My DB and I conversated via email last night and he apologized he did have some issues with his program buthe was sweet enough to apologize. I love him so much I can't wait to be back in his arms. Thank y'all for your advice.

Okay I'm glad I'm not alone in this. I don't know about your situation but it is NOT like my man to be abrupt or snappy with me. DB deployed to Bahrain last week with the Coast Guard and I've been lucky to talk to him several times since he left, since he hadn't really started working yet and had time to call while getting settled...but I don't know, he's just seemed not himself. I have a feeling that hes just going through a really scary adjustment and he just don't know what to say. I hate when we talk for just two minutes because I feel like I don't have enough time to say anything! I just have to have faith that when he gets home all of that chemistry and our tendency to chat each others ears off will come right back. Because right now I feel a little distant. Grrrr. =(

:hugs my dh is always complaining to me on the phone. i just listen...or act like i'm listening. :teehe

haha yeah you're gonna have to get used to it and just suck it up.. i deal with it more than i'd like but i just remember, oh hes stressed, at work, tired, missing me and home.. so at first id yell back and later realize, BIG mistake, now i just do my typical "im sorry hunnie i love you if you need anything let me know" and later leave him the sweetest myspace comments or emails lol. the things deployments do to them =[

My fiance is in Iraq right now and he has taken a lot out on me. But I do it to him as well..even when he's not deployed. We usually acknowledge it during the next phone call, work it out and laugh about it.

Hang in there :hugs

men! can't live with em, can't live without em.