I'm still kinda new to being an Army girlfriend and since I have no one to compare to (I live in DB's hometown not where he was based), I'm not always sure what is normal.

Is it normal for SO's to go through... mood swings... while they are on deployment?

:bump sorry i had to since i :edit ed the question. and i'm curious...

i dont live near a post either... but what i do is i try to think about is objectively

he is in a strange country with no family or comfortable free time. and probably SUPER tired. its probably pretty normal to have mood swings.

and if you read around these boards you'll see it totally is. they are under a HUGE amount of stress while deployed. and they tend to take it out on those close to them.

:welcome and yes!!! Mood swings are always normal during deployments.

absolutely normal :hugs

He'll go through mood swings, you'll go through mood swings. Yes completely normal.

Yuppers, just make sure they dont get super nuts

Yes, it is normal. He is in a combat zone, away from everyone who loves and cares for him. It grates on them and as a result they can lash out. But you also should not put up with constant anger from him.

Everyone has bad days though so try to give him the benefit of the doubt.

Yes, my dh is super tired right now from his schedule. He def is in a mood every day. We briefly talk and I tell him that if I need to take a break from talking to him so that he can get more sleep then that is what needs to happen. I am also pretty moody because my pregnancy is making me that way. Uhh.... The life of the military couple.

absolutely normal....i hate mood swings...they get me even more grumpy. its completely natural to go through a million emtions at once.

i also dont live on post i live in his hometown.

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don't worry you can totally get through this

i hope they're normal because my df sure is moody, i swear the past two times we've talked he's gone from happy to pissed to happy again in a matter of thirty minutes

Definitely! My DB is really mellow and soft spoken, but he gets them as bad as the next guy, and like someone else, you'll have them too, it comes from the separation, but just remember that while things are hard for you, you are only away from ONE person that you love and care about, he is away from his entire support system in a place that he is unfamiliar with! However, constant anger should certainly be a no go!

I'm still kinda new to being an Army girlfriend and since I have no one to compare to (I live in DB's hometown not where he was based), I'm not always sure what is normal.

Is it normal for SO's to go through... mood swings... while they are on deployment?


Yes it is very very very very normal. And they don't go away as soon as they come home either!

Yes, it is normal. He is in a combat zone, away from everyone who loves and cares for him. It grates on them and as a result they can lash out. But you also should not put up with constant anger from him.

Everyone has bad days though so try to give him the benefit of the doubt.

:yes and I go through the mood swings, too, over here.

Yes it is normal but there are boundaries he still needs to respect so make sure he is not angry all the time and insult you or put you down :hugs

DF can go from lovey dovey to angry in a matter of seconds and the next day he is like nothing happened.

Totally normal.

One day he will be fine and laughing and cutting up the entire time we get to talk then the next time he will be a pain in the a**. You will learn how to deal with it and not to take it to heart. But like BrittanyJo said dont put up with him being constantly angry. Sometimes you will have to just get over worrying about if you will upset him and let him know what he is doing

Sure! Try and put yourself in his position...imagine being so far away from home...without any comforts...would you be moody?

Just keep telling him you are going to be there for him through thick and thin...give him time to adjust...he will fall into a routine...and so will you...things will be better!!

Yes it is normal but there are boundaries he still needs to respect so make sure he is not angry all the time and insult you or put you down :hugs

DF can go from lovey dovey to angry in a matter of seconds and the next day he is like nothing happened.

Don't worry. Even when he is in the worst mood, DB still reminds me that he loves me and that I am, his words, not mine, "perfect".

It just surprised me how quickly his mood can change but I also know that I don't understand his situation so there is no way that I can understand his moods. Plus, since we talked, things have gotten much better.

:thanks Knowing other people are experiencing the same things is so helpful.

So normal. He's up he's down. You're up, you're down. It's a rollercoaster of emotions. But keep coming to this site to vent, for advice, to share the good things, and to celebrate his homecoming. We're here for ya!

:welcome

Yes its normal! Stick around here for a little while and you will see just how normal he is ;)

Deployment is PMS for men it is normal good luck sweety stand by his side always

:hugs