Just so ya'll know for those who don't my hubby has deployed a month ago. I wish I can go a year ago and be happy and loving again with my hubby. These games are going to have to STOP:vent:vent:vent OMG. Why does he have to take things out on me?? He is trying to install a mircophone onto the laptop and he has been working on it for like 10 minutes, the whole time I see him making faces and throwing his hands up cause he is aggravated and it's not working. See he can hear me but I can't hear him and he is trying to set up the mircphone so we both can talk to each other. He really really wanted us to be able to have normal conversation without typing. So he get's mad and is like I am going to sleep, don't bother talking to me. I didn't say anything to make him mad. He has been getting upset over the smallest things and he takes it out on me. I am sooo trying to get through this deployment. It's soooo hard, especially when he logs off and he doesn't say I love you or nothing. I am waiting on him to see if he is going to log back on. It's like oh well I am mad soo what if it effects her. What have I done. I just wish we were back a year ago and he was right here with me. :sigh:sigh:sigh I love him, but why is he treating me this way. I figured he would at least say good nite and I love you. I Love him but it hurts soooo much when he acts like this with me Please help.

Deployment stress effects everyone differently. It sounds to me like he loves and misses you so very much that not being able to do even the little simplest thing so he can reach out and feel really "with" you is setting him off. He may be feeling guilty and thinking that you are disappointed or upset with him. Just reassure him that everything is OK and that you will work it out soon. I know its hard to put your feelings on the the back burner but just try to be patient and he will even out. The first 3 months are the hardest as they adjust.

Deployment takes awhile for both of you to adjust - just keep being there for him and support him.