Will there be, or have there been, homicide charges brought against the driver that killed your family?

Will there be, or have there been, homicide charges brought against the driver that killed your family?

I think the driver that caused the accident also passed.

I think the driver that caused the accident also passed.
yup she died that night as well.

I'm sorry :oops I didn't know.

Yes, she passed as well as Josh and Madison. Its amazing how most times the drunks walk away with nothing but a scratch or a bruise. This bitch got what she deserved. I'm sorry that sounds heartless but you don't fucking get behind the wheel of a car with a BAC of a 2. something.. I told my mom that bitch is lucky she's dead or I would of killed her myself (along with my whole list of friends and family that would of joined me).

As far as the homicide charges are concerned they were going to but there wasn't enough evidence or something to that effect but there is a civial case still in the process.

wow you have my continued :prayers

but there is a civial case still in the process.

I was wondering that too... I don't blame you a bit for feeling vengeful. :no She destroyed your life :dunno I would feel the same way.:sigh

As far as the homicide charges are concerned they were going to but there wasn't enough evidence or something to that effect but there is a civial case still in the process.

Just curious but how does that work if she is not around? Do you sue her estate? I have no idea how that works. And I would want to kill her too.

Just curious but how does that work if she is not around? Do you sue her estate? I have no idea how that works. And I would want to kill her too.

Yep pretty much and the restaurant that was serving her and let her leave fucking drunk off her ass..

Yep pretty much and the restaurant that was serving her and let her leave fucking drunk off her ass..

Good! Well I hope that you get something out of that hon. The fact that his parents didn't give you anything still makes me shake my head.

Oh God don't bring that up.. I'm trying to get in a HAPPY mood.. I start talking about that I'll be going back up to Wally World to buy booze and LOTS of it :lol

Oh God don't bring that up.. I'm trying to get in a HAPPY mood.. I start talking about that I'll be going back up to Wally World to buy booze and LOTS of it :lol

SORRY!!!! Didn't want to bring you down. But I think you are entitled to lots of booze!

SORRY!!!! Didn't want to bring you down. But I think you are entitled to lots of booze!

Yes, I agree with you but no one here to go get me some. I'm home alone and can't drive and it just occured to me I left my bottle of Scope up there!! I knew that bag felt to light :lol. Oh well I have the reciept I'll go back up there tomorrow.. OOPS

Yes, I agree with you but no one here to go get me some. I'm home alone and can't drive and it just occured to me I left my bottle of Scope up there!! I knew that bag felt to light :lol. Oh well I have the reciept I'll go back up there tomorrow.. OOPS

Well, I hope you get your Scope!

Well, I hope you get your Scope!

Yeah massive blonde moment and I'm CLEARLY not a blonde.. I wish Mike would figure that out already. He's convinced I am :lol

:hugs I just don't know what else to say. :no :bigsadhug

WHAT!!!! You can buy booze at Walmart??????? That's fucked up.:no

I swear, this state is run by fuggin Nazis...

Yeah massive blonde moment and I'm CLEARLY not a blonde.. I wish Mike would figure that out already. He's convinced I am :lol

:lol

WHAT!!!! You can buy booze at Walmart??????? That's fucked up.:no

I swear, this state is run by fuggin Nazis...

Yeahhhhh... They have a whole alcohol section :lol

:hugs I just don't know what else to say. :no :bigsadhug

Becca,

The whole situation is just fucked up. I alot of times don't even know what to say or think so I can imagine how people feel when they want to say something to me. There are times where people say stuff to me and I just laugh in my head and I'm like "okkkkk... whatever you say"... mainly the ones that are like "omg your so strong.. or omg how do you do it?? or.... omg I couldn't even imagine..." Its definately one of those things in life you'd have no idea what it felt like til you had gone through it. I had another girl from a message board tell me "Well if it were me I'd never move on if I lost my husband." She kept bringing it up and basically making me feel like shit cause i'm moving on with Mike. I finally sent her a message and told her to fuck off and that until she's in my situation she'll never know how it feels. You'll never know what you'd TRULY do in that situation til your in it. After it happened I had no idea what the hell I was going to do. I honestly have days where I wish I would of just died in that car. I mean that's sad to say but at least I wouldn't be dealing with half the shit I'm dealing with. But then when I get down like that Mike is very quick to remind me "If you would of died you'd of never met me and you wouldn't be happy right now." Then I usually calm down and I'm okay.

=( That's awful....I have a big problem with drunk driving...my brother's best friend (who was also like a brother to me) was hit by a drunk driver years ago. He wasn't even in a car, my brother was there, saw it happen, even tried to "put him back together" ....then the idiot crashed into a brick wall and my brother and the other guys there kicked his ass. They should've killed him

Becca,

The whole situation is just fucked up. I alot of times don't even know what to say or think so I can imagine how people feel when they want to say something to me. There are times where people say stuff to me and I just laugh in my head and I'm like "okkkkk... whatever you say"... mainly the ones that are like "omg your so strong.. or omg how do you do it?? or.... omg I couldn't even imagine..." Its definately one of those things in life you'd have no idea what it felt like til you had gone through it. I had another girl from a message board tell me "Well if it were me I'd never move on if I lost my husband." She kept bringing it up and basically making me feel like shit cause i'm moving on with Mike. I finally sent her a message and told her to fuck off and that until she's in my situation she'll never know how it feels. You'll never know what you'd TRULY do in that situation til your in it. After it happened I had no idea what the hell I was going to do. I honestly have days where I wish I would of just died in that car. I mean that's sad to say but at least I wouldn't be dealing with half the shit I'm dealing with. But then when I get down like that Mike is very quick to remind me "If you would of died you'd of never met me and you wouldn't be happy right now." Then I usually calm down and I'm okay.


You've gotta do what you've gotta do. Everyone is different. They handle life differently. Part of me admires you for moving on at all. All I know is, my family is my LIFE. If I lost my husband and my beautiful children in an instant, it would destroy me, as I'm sure it has you. To go from having a family to being completely and utterly alone would just push me closer to the point of no return. You need someone. SOMEONE. Not to take Josh's place, noone will ever do that, but to help your heart heal and to start to help you put it back together. Something tells me Josh would want you happy. I don't believe that he would want you to spend the rest of your life alone, living in solitude. You've gotta do what you've gotta do.

:bigsadhug

I totally just rambled. I do that when I don't know what to say. I'm glad you understand.

You've gotta do what you've gotta do. Everyone is different. They handle life differently. Part of me admires you for moving on at all. All I know is, my family is my LIFE. If I lost my husband and my beautiful children in an instant, it would destroy me, as I'm sure it has you. To go from having a family to being completely and utterly alone would just push me closer to the point of no return. You need someone. SOMEONE. Not to take Josh's place, noone will ever do that, but to help your heart heal and to start to help you put it back together. Something tells me Josh would want you happy. I don't believe that he would want you to spend the rest of your life alone, living in solitude. You've gotta do what you've gotta do.

:bigsadhug

I totally just rambled. I do that when I don't know what to say. I'm glad you understand.

No, I understand you and your the millionth person that has told me that and I agree with every person that tells me that. Yes, I may upset some people by the choices I make in this situation but honestly I don't care what anyone thinks (family or not family). Its my life and even though its hard for people to understand why I'm going about life the way I am then that's their own problem. I know in my heart my husband wants me to be happy and I know that things happen for a reason. Yes, that's hard to believe at times because I miss my husband and daughter more then anything in this world. But I also trust Josh and his judgement of people and I know for a fact Josh brought Mike into my life. There are just a lot of weird things that have happened these past few months that lead me to believe Josh had a lot to do with it. Its like he's slapping me in the face telling me to wake up and realize I've got happiness right in front of me and not to run away from it. So I'm not budging and I'm going to be happy no matter what anyone thinks, says, or does. Its my life to live.. no one else's.

:tears

Good for you :hugs

No, I understand you and your the millionth person that has told me that and I agree with every person that tells me that. Yes, I may upset some people by the choices I make in this situation but honestly I don't care what anyone thinks (family or not family). Its my life and even though its hard for people to understand why I'm going about life the way I am then that's their own problem. I know in my heart my husband wants me to be happy and I know that things happen for a reason. Yes, that's hard to believe at times because I miss my husband and daughter more then anything in this world. But I also trust Josh and his judgement of people and I know for a fact Josh brought Mike into my life. There are just a lot of weird things that have happened these past few months that lead me to believe Josh had a lot to do with it. Its like he's slapping me in the face telling me to wake up and realize I've got happiness right in front of me and not to run away from it. So I'm not budging and I'm going to be happy no matter what anyone thinks, says, or does. Its my life to live.. no one else's.

And with that, I wish you all the happiness and good fortune in the world.

And with that, I wish you all the happiness and good fortune in the world.

Thank you hon...

No one can tell you what will make you happy, you, only you know what does makes you happy and if you have found happiness, if Mike makes you smile again and have hopes then you have been Blessed. No one can tell you otherwise :hugs

all i can say is that you are definitely in my prayers....

I was wondering that too... I don't blame you a bit for feeling vengeful. :no She destroyed your life :dunno I would feel the same way.:sigh

Absolutely

I think if it was opposite you would have wanted Josh to move on too and not be misreable for the rest of his life.....and call me crazy..but maybe Josh send Mike to make you happy.

I think if it was opposite you would have wanted Josh to move on too and not be misreable for the rest of his life.....and call me crazy..but maybe Josh send Mike to make you happy.

You should go back and read what she was talking about with me - on page 3 I think :)

You should go back and read what she was talking about with me - on page 3 I think :)

spank me silly..but i totally skip over that part...i just wrote what came into my head especially about the situation...i didn't even realize she already had a feeling that josh send mike over...

I just wanted to say I would have been RIGHT there to kill that bitch too. Heartless? No, my heart would be RIGHT there on my sleeve for everything that happened and that IS the right place for it. Judge me if you want for that statement, but damnit, they took 2 perfectly healthy people from the earth SUDDENLY. Sorry I have built up anger towards this person. I know she is dead and got what she deserved for drinking and driving, but still.

Kristina I love you and I am homeless. Literally. I am staying at Kathy's until tuesday everything is in my car, and my trunk is my wardrobe. so If you need to talk to me, text/call because thats the ONLY thing I really have. sad I know I just wanted to tell you I miss you and I love you!

I feel compelled to say that I don't think there is ANYTHING wrong with feeling the way you do about the woman who hit you guys. Drunk driving is one thing that gets me all up in a rage so I don't blame you a bit! I hope that restaurant and her estate have to give you SOMETHING for everything you have gone through. It won't bring them back, but people should have to pay for their mistakes.

I don't blame you a bit for moving on with your life. In fact, I commend you for it. There is NOTHING wrong with wanting to find some happiness. None of this is your fault, you didn't ask for it, and I know that if you could have it your way it would have never happened. If anyone deserves to be happy it's you. Fuck anyone who says anything differently. ;) Having something horrible happen to you is not, and shouldn't be, a life sentence to misery and grief.

I feel compelled to say that I don't think there is ANYTHING wrong with feeling the way you do about the woman who hit you guys. Drunk driving is one thing that gets me all up in a rage so I don't blame you a bit! I hope that restaurant and her estate have to give you SOMETHING for everything you have gone through. It won't bring them back, but people should have to pay for their mistakes.

I don't blame you a bit for moving on with your life. In fact, I commend you for it. There is NOTHING wrong with wanting to find some happiness. None of this is your fault, you didn't ask for it, and I know that if you could have it your way it would have never happened. If anyone deserves to be happy it's you. Fuck anyone who says anything differently. ;) Having something horrible happen to you is not, and shouldn't be, a life sentence to misery and grief.


Thank you hon. I'm moving on the best way I know how. I've completely taken people out of my life because they've voiced how they felt about the situation and just caused drama. Drama is the LAST thing I need in my life right now. I have enough to worry about that actually matters.

Mike and I have had conversations about anything and everything. I've thrown everything at him (not literally) that I could think of because I want to know if he's being honest and genuine. He's not faltered at all and he genuinely cares.

I told him from the very get go that if he couldn't accept this in my life, if he couldn't accept I was going to have good days and bad days, that I was going to have days during the year that I do nothing but fall apart then there was no way this was going to work. He told me he understood and that there is nothing wrong with falling apart that its expected. He told me "You fall apart or fall period I'll be there to pick you up and make you feel better."

I was talking to him online yesterday morning around 2am and I was listening to "Here Without You" by 3 Doors Down. I was talking to him but was going down memory lane in my head at the same time. I had my webcam on (so did he) and I got up for a second. I came back with Josh's flag in my lap. It was the first time since the funeral that I had removed it from its case. I reached into the flag to find the casings to the bullets and Mike just sat there and watched. I took the casings out and held them up to the camera so he could see what I was doing. I just sat there and stared at them and the longer I stared at them the more the tears started welling up in my eyes and before i knew it I started to cry. I just sat there with my head in my hands and just bawled. I looked up for a split second and had tears rolling down my face and Mike typed "I wish I was there to wipe your tears away." That made me just lose it that much more. Yes, I'm falling in love with him. Yes, people may think I'm nuts for that but I don't care. I felt so alone that night between Josh being in heaven and Mike being in Iraq. It just seems like everytime I have a moment like that and I lose it bawling no one is around when I need them. :sigh

okay sad vent over for the night.. had to get this off my chest..

I just wanted to say I would have been RIGHT there to kill that bitch too. Heartless? No, my heart would be RIGHT there on my sleeve for everything that happened and that IS the right place for it. Judge me if you want for that statement, but damnit, they took 2 perfectly healthy people from the earth SUDDENLY. Sorry I have built up anger towards this person. I know she is dead and got what she deserved for drinking and driving, but still.

Kristina I love you and I am homeless. Literally. I am staying at Kathy's until tuesday everything is in my car, and my trunk is my wardrobe. so If you need to talk to me, text/call because thats the ONLY thing I really have. sad I know I just wanted to tell you I miss you and I love you!

:hugehug I'll give you a call later on in the day. Its 5am here and I'm wide awake.

:hugehug I'll give you a call later on in the day. Its 5am here and I'm wide awake.

damn woman GO TO GET SOME MORE REST!!!!!:wow
You are crazy!!!!!

Yes, I'm crazy but you still love me. Its 10 to 8am here and i'm getting ready to shoewr and go eat something. I've been up since 3am.

lol Yes I still love your crazy ass. But then I don't know which is crazier you or me.

lol Yes I still love your crazy ass. But then I don't know which is crazier you or me.



I dunno either.. hmmmmm...
I know!!
Let's ask Mike.. OR...
MY MOM :lol