Would you consider having your SO freeze some of his soldiers before leaving, so you could still have his child if something were to happen?

That's a tough one! I might consider it, but I don't know if he would want the same. Honestly, I would consider it more if we were married. But it would be so hard to go ahead and just have the baby if something did happen to him. I don't know if I would be strong enough to have the baby.
Wow, I am even more confused now! :lol

That is just super weird to me....I have no idea.

If we didn't already have kids, yes, we would. No question.

I can understand why some couples do that it doesn't seem odd to me at all.

Freeze his sperm in case something happened, so if he died I could still have a baby by him? Probably not, unless we had been married a long time, I all ready had several kids by him, and never saw myself getting remarried....

Freeze his sperm so that if we wanted to have a baby, but he got exposed to something which would make him sterile, or make our babies sick and have major birth defects... sure.... if he wanted that as well. :yes

If we didn't have my DD, I would def. consider it. It would be hard to have a baby without him...but his legacy would live on...But since we already have a daughter...I dont see why we would

i think i would do it. i heard of something like this on the news one time.

i think i would do it. i heard of something like this on the news one time.

i have too. i think there was a woman who had her dh's sperm extracted after he had already died (who knows if it was viable) then his family sued her for it. i think she ended up winning the case.

We debated last yr whether we should try to conceive for that reason, fear of him not returning. But we decided to leave things as is and just have faith... life always seems to work out for some greater reason. So I don't think I would freeze any sperm, since we decided what we did last yr.

If we werent pg right now, maybe.

YES.

I have actually already told him I would love it if he did. I don't think HE would want to (for my own reasons) and I think he thought I was kidding... but I would love it if he did.

DH and I talked about it and I understand why people would. We decided not to because if he doesn't return his legacy is me. We have dreams together and I would do my best to make them happen. The same goes for him if something happened to me. We've decided not to have children and I doubt him being gone would change my mind about it.

If we had the money yes, I want dh's children. I would love to always have a part of him with me even when he was not.

I dont' know. I would hate to assume anything would happen in the first place. kwim? But on the other hand it would be amazing to still have his child. So that is a really tough one. I'd have to really think about it, and talk to him about it as well.

I know it isnt' cheap though. It isn't like you can just put it in your freezer next to the fudgesicles! :giggle

I'm not sure. DB and I really want to have kids, but I'm not sure if I would be strong enough to have a baby without him.

I had never thought about it, but now that I do I think, if we don't have any children before he gets deployed we might at least discuss it. I would like to do it, but I have no idea what he would say about it.

No because one i have children already and 2 you are a still a single parent it just doesnt seem like thats how God intended life to be. I feel everything happens for a reason and if you didnt get a child this time it doesnt mean its the end of the line.

We had planned on doing that but he deployed early. It is NOT cheap!!
I will answer the second part after he gets back from deployment:)

YES I would. Not so much for having children alone but in case he was hurt or exposed to something that made him sterile. As far as being a single mom, that could happen at any time...who knows if your DH is going to make it home from work one day.

I dont think so.

If we didn't have any children already, or only had one, I would do it.

If we had the money yes, I want dh's children. I would love to always have a part of him with me even when he was not.

See that's exactly what I thought but DF was so extremely freaked out by this so we mutually decided not to do it. We already decided a while ago though that we are always willing to adopt if I can't have a baby because we found out that he can (:sigh)

would you?? :thinking

would you?? :thinking

would who?

I dont think so since I am already pregnant.

DB has talked about this in a serious meets sarcastic kind of way. But he brought it up for many reasons besides deployment.

I think if we were married and didn't have any kids, it would be done. Not because I want a child but because he is his parents only son and for them to have the prospect that if their son does pass away then they will still have a chance to have a grandchild by him.. KWIM?

I think it would be so sad to have a baby that would never know its father. I know it would break my heart to have a baby and not ever be able to share it with my husband.

We are currently doing this. We didn't do it for DH's first deployment - it was kind of a crazy time and we didn't get around to it, plus we weren't married yet. But we talked about it a lot before this deployment and he ended up making the decision and doing it while I was at work one day. The storage is free for a year because of his deployment, and he had to pay for the testing to prove he is STD-free (about $800.) He probably could have got that waived by proving through the military that he is up-to-date with that testing, but he had only a few days before shipping out so there wasn't time.

I told him I am not positive I would use the sperm if he died (we don't have any kids yet) but I wanted the option. And it will clearly be useful if he gets injured or exposed to anything weird over there.

I just asked Adam and he said he would want to do that. So, we would do it. If he really wanted me to try and have his child even if he died, I would want to do that for him. Even if it is hard. I could find a way. :P The world would be a better place with another Adam in it. :D

We've talked about it and it is something we are doing next time we are in the states. It's something important to us

If we didn't already have kids, yes, we would. No question.

:agree

No. Negative. Never. To me personally, it is too much like trying to play God and that is just something I don't want to do. I would hope that I would have enough faith to trust in God that nothing would happen to Dh and if something did, then it was for a reason and an understanding higher than my own.

Nope.

if we were married
yes

yes I would.

If we were married I would consider it... it would be a really difficult subject to bring up though. I don't know if I'd be able to go through with it because it would feel too much like inviting in a bad omen or something, you know? :dunno That's a toughie.

I would if we had the money to do it

Thats really tough... just because they wouldn't know their father.

And hypothetically speaking if I were to do that with DB, they'd most likely have my personality over his since he wouldn't be here to help raise them... oh god. I'd probably strangle them or something... more than one me is too many.

But honestly, DB is the only person I've ever wanted children with. If I can't have them with him, I don't want any.

If I didn't have any children with him prior to him leaving, then YES I would. Although it would be something that we both talked about extensively and also I would want our families to know how we felt as well, that way there would be no shock..

If we wouldn't've kids together or only 1, I'm positive about it if we where in the situation of him deploying we would do it!
I don't see anything wrong or bad about it and being a single mother isn't always easy, but who tells me that even he doesn't deploy (for right now) something else happens and he doesn't come back home and I'll be a single mother then?
Regards and much love!

Freeze his sperm in case something happened, so if he died I could still have a baby by him? Probably not, unless we had been married a long time, I all ready had several kids by him, and never saw myself getting remarried....

Freeze his sperm so that if we wanted to have a baby, but he got exposed to something which would make him sterile, or make our babies sick and have major birth defects... sure.... if he wanted that as well. :yes

I agree, I would want DH to if we been married for along time and already had kids. But I would want him to agree with it

My cousin that went to Desert Storm, something made his sterile. He had all these test ran. It was so sad.

i can totally understand and respect why people would do that but i personally wouldnt want to even if i wasn't already pregnant. i trust my fate