I don't really know how to put this. DB had been gone close to 3 months now, He has recently finished boot, and is now in AIT. I don't think i have been happy one day since he's been gone. I don't really think i've gone as far as depression, but i don't know. I wouldn't be surprised i guess. I feel like i have no one to talk to because, before he left, and even now, HE is my best friend. I tell him everything, but I don't know if I can tell him how I feel now because I don't want to upset him, or make him mad at me. I dont know, but my main question is how do you know? like if you are depressed, or even better, what do you do just to get through? I know so many people say try to keep yourself busy, which is what I've been doing but i don't ever feel like leaving the house anymore. I don't eat nearly as much as i used to, and i RARELY sleep. People try to call and invite me out and it sounds all good, but then when it actually comes time to go and hang out i cancel because i just don't wanna leave the house. I guess if it was up to me, I would lay around and mope all day waiting to hear from DB :sigh whats wrong with me? what should i do? is there anything i CAN do? I just wish DB was home... then everything would be normal :depressed i guess i just have to wait.

You don't have to wait. You have to force yourself to leave the house & get out.

I know, because I have to do it too. I dread going places with friends but once I'm actually out I'm thankful I left and it improves my mood tons.

You don't have to wait. You have to force yourself to leave the house & get out.

I know, because I have to do it too. I dread going places with friends but once I'm actually out I'm thankful I left and it improves my mood tons.

So true. Instead of focusing on not having him around, do the things you've been putting off for yourself.

I had a job and school that I was dealing with when DH was in boot, but on the weekends I would lock myself in my dorm room and hide. I had to MAKE myself get out and go work out and just be active because I was dying inside.

A hobby or something that would benefit the both of you when he is finished with boot would be a great idea!!!!

You don't have to wait. You have to force yourself to leave the house & get out.

I know, because I have to do it too. I dread going places with friends but once I'm actually out I'm thankful I left and it improves my mood tons.


150% thats the only thing you CAN do it and i promise you once you start getting out and living your life it will improve your mood and keep your realtionship strong its rough most of us know the feeling :hugs

he did something to improve his life for the both of you....you need to pick yourself up and get doing things to improve life for both you.....if some of those things are for yourself then let it be....he is going to be coming and going alot...you will be able to talk to him more once boot and ait is done, but still a lot of away time...so get up, brush yourself off, and get going, get moving....does one of us need to be your drill sargent to get up going...move it girl, get out there, life is still going on....get into it....be happy he is doing something positive he wanted to do,, now is your time to do it...

I hope you feel better soon!

I feel like this right now as well....

I think you should try going out during the day... (I don't like going out at night b/c I get kinda sad for some reason)

I always try to do soemthing different each day... SOMEthing.. maybe not a huge thing.. btu I have lunch with a friend... Or go to a friend's house and hang out for a bit... maybe go watch a movie...

Its not a lot... and it definitely doesn't take up my whole day... but it makes me feel good.. like I'm trying...

Even if I feel blah.. and I would rather stay home and just wait around for emails or whatever...



Force yourself to go out! Even when you really really don't want to... go any ways... Maybe you wont have the most awesome time... (or maybe you will) But just getting out of the house and doing something helps keep you feeling alive.

Our first deployment I was like that but I would force myself to go out even if I was dreading it. After I went out I would feel a lot better. Not just for going out but for being around others and just talking and thinking about things that don't have to do with the military.

thanks ladies!!! i really appreciate everyone being so understanding. Since its kinda late now im just staying in... but ive made plans to go mini-golf with my brother tomorrow!! step 1!!! thankss!!

Hi, I have major depressive disorder. And it does sound like you are depressed. I totally understand. My fiance' just graduated from boot and now he is at AIT. I am living in a horrible situation right now and I am depressed a lot. I am on AIM a lot so if you want to chat about all this, I am there. Or you can send me an email if you want.
I understand about not having people to talk to. My fiance' is my best friend too. Fortunately, I do talk to him about my problems now that he is at AIT. He wants me to talk to him about things.
Anyway, send me a message or come chat with me if you want to talk.

I don't really know how to put this. DB had been gone close to 3 months now, He has recently finished boot, and is now in AIT. I don't think i have been happy one day since he's been gone. I don't really think i've gone as far as depression, but i don't know. I wouldn't be surprised i guess. I feel like i have no one to talk to because, before he left, and even now, HE is my best friend. I tell him everything, but I don't know if I can tell him how I feel now because I don't want to upset him, or make him mad at me. I dont know, but my main question is how do you know? like if you are depressed, or even better, what do you do just to get through? I know so many people say try to keep yourself busy, which is what I've been doing but i don't ever feel like leaving the house anymore. I don't eat nearly as much as i used to, and i RARELY sleep. People try to call and invite me out and it sounds all good, but then when it actually comes time to go and hang out i cancel because i just don't wanna leave the house. I guess if it was up to me, I would lay around and mope all day waiting to hear from DB :sigh whats wrong with me? what should i do? is there anything i CAN do? I just wish DB was home... then everything would be normal :depressed i guess i just have to wait.


awww hun, reading this made me cry cause i know how you feel.. i'm the same way. And its only been two weeks for me. DB is my best friend too. and i know what you mean about not feeling like you can talk to anyone..because he's the one you always talked to. Its ok to feel like you are, i know it sucks.. The only thing i can tell you is that i know that some days are worse than others, but like people say.. you have to keep yourself busy... Easier said than done thats for sure, But i have noticed..when i'm working even though he is constantly on my mind I am also forced to think of other things. I also know that when i'm home alone, thats when i cry.. pretty much all the time. I don't have any friends here to talk to so if you want a friend. I'm here for ya. Cause i think i can use all the friend i can get.. sounds like you could to

I'm feeling the same exact way right now, don't worry its not just you. But going out really does help =]