Who do you tell all your daily crap to when your SO is gone?
It's only been a couple of days, but this is my biggest issue.
I have a serious need to spew about a certain situation, but I can't email about it, since you never know who's going to read it first, and it has to do with the boat community.

Who do you replace the banter with? Who do you vent to? Who do you bounce ideas off of?

This situation is going to be the death of me this deployment if I can't let off some steam about it. And dh is my go to for that kind of thing. He helps me work through all the thoughts in my head.

:thinking This is going to be a long summer.

My mommy.

She is great about it. She never says "I understand" because she doesn't. She never minimizes my pain. She just listens and tells me she loves me and misses me.

my bff's(L)

My mama. And sometimes we get really irritated with each other, but we always work it out.

Mommy and.... Y'ALL! LOL

Usually I'll tell him just about anything that is going on... sometimes I will wait until I've fixed it or taken care of it if its something I think he'd worry about.

For the most part, I talk to a few people.. mostly my parents because I grew up in a military family and they understand more than most people. I call different friends too.. it depends on what's going on.

If you need anything though hun, we're here. You can pm me anytiime you need something. :hugs

My journal--I never was a journal writer before, but now I am.

my bff whos hubby works with mine but deployed to a different location.
she is always there for me (L)

and of course all the wonderful ladies on here!

The person that has actually been the most help for me has been my db's best friend. His dad was army and his brother is air force so he totally understands how I am feeling right now. He was also the one that my db's ex turned to when they were dating. Mike (my db's best friend) has actually become one of my best friends.

My gal pals at work and my MSOS ladies!

Mom, the boards, and I'm pretty sure I'd go apeshit without DH. There are a few women from here I talk to regularly though.

either of my bartenders

no one really i try to handle all of my stuff by myself andits our life why bring other people into it im a very private person also

I write i a lot of things into the deployment journal. I am terrible at journals but this one has lasted so far. I am writing in it every day.

When my DH was deployed I called our mutual friend who we met online. He's a really good listener when I needed to bitch or just talk. :)

mostly my best friend eric. he can also give me the guy viewpoint. del also listens to a lot of my vents.

My mom, and SOS of course..

My Mom, Dani, Del, and RCWant2be :) In fact, same as when DH is home :teehee

Who do you tell all your daily crap to when your SO is gone?
It's only been a couple of days, but this is my biggest issue.
I have a serious need to spew about a certain situation, but I can't email about it, since you never know who's going to read it first, and it has to do with the boat community.

Who do you replace the banter with? Who do you vent to? Who do you bounce ideas off of?

This situation is going to be the death of me this deployment if I can't let off some steam about it. And dh is my go to for that kind of thing. He helps me work through all the thoughts in my head.

:thinking This is going to be a long summer.

You can talk to me about it! :D

Friends, SOS,my family
Kristen- you can pm/ call me anytime and I'll be in VA in July:cp

Honestly? My cat :haha

DB is the one I talk to about everything, but with him gone writing in a journal helps A LOT. And so does talking to my mom and sister.

My sister, my friend Angela because she is normally going through that same and I journal. Writing is very liberating too me...

My mom! She was a military wife too but she never has the "been there, done that attitude" because she never went through a deployment but she's an amazing mommy.
The ladies here are AMAZING too!

Honestly? My cat :haha

:P It's only when she tells you what to do that I worry..

Who do you tell all your daily crap to when your SO is gone?


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:giggle That's who :giggle

:P It's only when she tells you what to do that I worry..

LOL - usually he listens for a minute or two and then licks his butt :dunno:hehe

My bff, msos or my MIL (I love her and she understands and is normally on my side)

My best friend Mandy (she doesnt fully understand it all, but listens to me vent and cry) and my MSOS ladies. I also talk with a lot of my friends, but they dont necessarily get the full story and details.

My mom, or my bff

Sabreena :D

Usually I just keep it to myself or talk to Stacey.

My BFF's :-) they ROCK!

My parents, but hubby is almost always around even during the deployment.
So its never been anything too big that I just couldn't wait till the evening to tell him
:hugs to those girls that can't talk to their guys for the most part.

Mostly my Mom and sometimes Grandma.

a few different friends
lol
i go to different friends for different things

Depends. Either my mom, my sister and/or certain friends. Otherwise, I blog it.

My Mom, 2 friends here in Hawaii and a couple girls on here! :)

meghan (withyounear) is my other half while dh is gone!!!

I have a dear friend I met online - we're in a similar situation and email every day (we live in different countries) - there's aways ladies on here who you could off-load to. Or maybe you could sign in to the Dear S.O.S. page and post your problem there - I'm only new to this site, but think that's what it can be used for. Good luck - definitely don't hold in whatever is bothering you so much. Take care.

If you need someone to talk to/vent at, I'm here! You're welcome to come over anytime!

My mom and my younger sister

myself hahahha

I'm always here if you need to talk Kristen. :hugs

My best friend!!!!!!!

I met her online (not a civi lol) I talk to her almost every day... even when dh is home :giggle he thinks we're crazy hahahaha


But I email and mail Dh every day any ways... That helps a lot too

i just vent to my hubby in letters and emails and wait for his response...sad but true.

I usually email back and forth with DH and my DD always listens. My DD has gotten me through the last 7 months......we're best friends.

No one, you guys. I just let it all go inside me and then let if go. This will be a long summer for me too!

My absolute BFF, my journal, my Mom, and my SOS peeps. :)

My Mother. She's a Marine Wife so she knows exactly what I'm going through and she usually has the best advice/ideas to give me on how to solve the issue. Sometimes she doesn't but at least she knows exactly how I feel and she has a great way of cheering me up.

I usually keep things to my self and yes I know it sucks not having them there to just talk about anything going on on your day.
Sometimes I do talk with my mom or sisters but most of the time I just keep it to my self and write it in a letter to him.

I'm here if you want to vent! :hugs

I honestly don't have alot of things to spew about to DH when he's gone. My life is happy and fairly quiet. I guess if something were wrong or I needed advice, etc. I'd probably call a g/f. But, I can tell you I didn't do that last deployment, nor this one (so far). So I think it's just my quiet life...I don't have alot of excitment to go discussing around personally?!

My aunts Rosie and Annie, they're always there for me...

other friends whose hubbies are deployed.

My mommy, my best friend, and my friends at work, and df in emails/phone :)

My mom and MIL...

My Mommy and it may sound funny but I do talk to my doggies they never talk back or tell me to suck it up hahahahah

I'll hold it in 99.9% of the time.

Mommy and.... Y'ALL! LOL

you ladies...and hmmm...no one else...i can really think of that will honestly care to listen.

Stacey (lckychrmzz) is my main venting person. Then one of my friends from Al is another...

Stacey (lckychrmzz) is my main venting person. Then one of my friends from Al is another...

And Erika is mine lol Then my momma.

My MIL, she's been awesome during this deployment. I email her daily and she always knows just what to say to make me feel better.

Usually I'll tell him just about anything that is going on... sometimes I will wait until I've fixed it or taken care of it if its something I think he'd worry about.

For the most part, I talk to a few people.. mostly my parents because I grew up in a military family and they understand more than most people. I call different friends too.. it depends on what's going on.

If you need anything though hun, we're here. You can pm me anytiime you need something. :hugs
Thank you! That is so sweet!

either of my bartenders :lmao Good idea! I told dh I was going to start riding my bike to the local cantina so I could drink the deployment away! :lmao

no one really i try to handle all of my stuff by myself andits our life why bring other people into it im a very private person also That is good advice. It's not an issue between me and him, but one that I usually talk to him about, since he understands best. But remembering that it's my life and my stuff is definitely good advice.


You can talk to me about it! :D
Thank you!

Friends, SOS,my family
Kristen- you can pm/ call me anytime and I'll be in VA in July:cp
Aw, thanks! We should get together when you get here!

I'm always here if you need to talk Kristen. :hugs I'm going to start riding my bike to your house on the way to the cantina! :lmao

i just vent to my hubby in letters and emails and wait for his response...sad but true. That's what I planned on doing... but I can't send him letters, and now I've got good reason to wonder how many people are reading the emails before he gets them... so I feel like I can't discuss things that I really want to discuss.

I usually keep things to my self and yes I know it sucks not having them there to just talk about anything going on on your day.
Sometimes I do talk with my mom or sisters but most of the time I just keep it to my self and write it in a letter to him.

I'm here if you want to vent! :hugs
Thank you Shaky! You are so sweet!

I'll hold it in 99.9% of the time.
No you don't! You write a vent and lock it before we can comment! :grin: :P


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Thanks for all the good ideas! I think I will start journaling again. Maybe I won't feel the need to SAY it so much once I write it out.

I appreciate all the help ladies, and some of you that offerred to listen better watch out! :P

No you don't! You write a vent and lock it before we can comment! :grin: :P


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Thanks for all the good ideas! I think I will start journaling again. Maybe I won't feel the need to SAY it so much once I write it out.

I appreciate all the help ladies, and some of you that offerred to listen better watch out! :P

:moon

I've been better about NOT doing it. Ask Schaele :rofl

:moon

I've been better about NOT doing it. Ask Schaele :rofl


I kind of miss them. They're like little SOS mysteries. :hehe

meghan (withyounear) is my other half while dh is gone!!!

aww I feel so :wub . I don't know how i would of made it through this deployment without a great friend like Stacey (estacia).

woohoo my name was dropped i feel all sorts of special.

I spent a lot of time venting and discussing things with my db's mom. She's wonderful to talk to but I found that she just couldn't understand some of my concerns and sometimes it's better to talk to other girlfriends and wives.

I have a handful of people I go to. Mostly my Tom though. Tom has been my best friend and general sidekick for the last 15 years. I have always bounced everything off of him. In fact doing it with DH has been a learning process. DH just refers to Tom as my brother. He's just considered part of my family by all of my family. But when I can't get Tom or it's something I really shouldn't discuss with a guy, I have my girlfriends, my SIL and my mom. When I need guy advise I have Tom, my brother Chris, and my Dad. I'm blessed to have so many wonderful and supportive people in my life.
Take deployment as a chance to work on your friendships and bonds. I know it's hard to stay as close when DH is home, it does take effort, but a little honesty and warning help.

CC daily hourly and Matt's here..LOL When he's not here her phone runs hot from phone calls and texts..lol

I'm always here if you need to talk Kristen. :hugs

Same here :)