This may be a weird question, but I'm new to all this army/military stuff, but I was wondering if boot camp brought anyone's relationship closer together? People have been saying that it can make or break a relationship...I've heard absence makes the heart grow fonder and that my boyfriend will probably realize how much he loves me and whatnot, but with the distance and time apart I guess I'm kinda worried that he might fall out of love with me. I know I shouldn't be worried, but for 2 years we were on and off, and sometimes it got quite rocky. Well we got back on before he left and now we are closer than ever. It was different this time and I miss him more than ever now! :tears

oh my gosh yes it will i think! i just saw my df this past weekend after he had been in boot camp. we hadnt seen eachother in 71 days. we are so much more closer now i can tell. it strengthens your realtionship so much. it is so hard i know but i think it really does make you closer. everyone goes thru the worries,fears,and doubts. you can do it! feel free to pm me if you ever need to :)

The process of getting ready for boot camp did bring is
closer and strengthen our relationship.
Getting ready for BT meant taking a lot of time to talk about us,
our goals, our needs etc...
addressing problems within our relationship
and having time to just go out and have fun together ;)
so that did bring us closer

but DB has been gone for one week and I miss him terribly...

both of you girls feel free to pm me! i have been thru it & i thought i couldnt do it! i love to talk to other girls who are going thru it and be able to help :)

yes it did bring us closer together....he had plenty of time to think about us when he was in boot/ait......he came home on christmas exodus and got engaged....
when he was done and came home we got married....and now he is stationded somewhere else he talks even more and we plan for a future..

Definately brought us closer. I know I can live without him, and finding that out has made me strong. But I also realize how badly I want him around and how much I love him. And he's changed for the better, he wants to be a better husband and father and he has his priorities straight and knows what's important to him.

My hubby is in the middle of OSUT right now and it has definitely brought us closer together!! We are stronger then ever, but I still can't wait for him to be done!!

I didn't go through bct but after ranger school it brought us much closer.

I would have to say much closer! You'll appreciate what you have when you are apart. It can be quite an opportunity for growth if you allow it to be. My bf has been gone for more than two months, and I feel like I've fallen in love with him all over again. Take advantage of your time apart and do things for yourself that you wouldn't have normally done. It will only help you both in the long run.

It definitely brought us closer. After four years of marriage we had hit a rough patch, and the military literally fixed it for us in a snap-put our lives in perspective and my husband in a place he loves.

It DOES happen. :yes

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Thanks everyone this makes me feel much better! :hehe

I've just heard so many negative stories so it's nice to hear positive ones. He's only been gone a week, but it feels like a month. I got a phone call from him telling me he was in reception and was ok, and I hope to be getting letters soon!

I've been wondering the same thing, couldn't have asked the question better myself so thanks for asking! I'm already going insane and he's only been gone since Thursday (I haven't seen him since memorial day though when I drove out to Cali to see him). But anyways I am already at the point where I am questioning if he is thinking about me and all that jazz which is dumb because I know he is, just can't help but be slightly worried though =[. I'm glad to hear it provided stronger bonds in most people's relationships! I hope everything works out for you! :hehe

sorry for the double post =[

yeah girl - i feel you there - I'm really new to this as well, but I am finding that this distance has assured me more and more that this guy is the ONE.
I get really sad sometimes, and miss him insanely, but I really do think that this will end up bringing you together!

It for sure brought us closer together!!
And to be honest...I think more of the time the SO left at home makes or breaks the relationship.

Yes, Yes, Yes. It makes you grow up. I can tell you that. It made me and my hubby so much more closer. It kinda makes you feel like you can defeat anything after bootcamp. Plus I was pregnant when he left and when he came back he had a son. So I think it diffently made us stronger as a couple. Now if you've had struggles in your relationship previously I do believe this will be a make or break thing. It takes alot of dedication etc. to get through it. If you love him....love can get you through anything.

Yes, bootcamp has made DH and I so much closer. He and I have been togehter almost 6years and married for almost 5 years and in that time (unitl he left 8 weeks ago) we had NEVER been apart for more than 1 night. (we lived together from the beginning of our relationship...it's actually how we met....room mates) I honestly didn't think I could do this. We have 2 daughters that love their daddy so much...I just didn't think I could do it alone. But here we are, I'm going to see him next week and I am a nervous wreck, lol. I am so in love with him, I think even more so now than I was before he left.
Absense does make the heart grow fonder. We had hit a bit of a rough patch about 4 months ago, but and I think he & I both realize now what a great thing we have together. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world.
(great now i'm crying,lol)

It brought DH and I closer together.

Hehehe yeah it brought DB and I closer. And I'm definitely closer with his mom, we still check up on each other every week.

And somehow, he remembered me taller... at his graduation, he didn't see me when I was standing in front of him. I said his name, he looked around and got confused. Then he looked down. Not to mention I was also wearing heels... oops!