Having kind of a boring morning so wanted to get something started. If your DB/DF/DH talk to other girls that are friends would it bother you??

No, I have no problem with DH having friends of the opposite sex.

No.

Depends on who the girl is. If it was someone that he has had previous relations with, then yes. If it is just a girl on base or that he works with, then no.

if they are MY friends i would be happy

if they are HIS friends i would be annoyed... but i don't think its wrong... but they better cut it short :giggle

Nope, I trust DH 110% and I dont want to control him

Depends on who the girl is. If it was someone that he has had previous relations with, then yes. If it is just a girl on base or that he works with, then no.

Exactly what she said.

there is only one girl that he really talks to that bugs me. But its not cuz I dont trust him its her, she would try somthing and i dont want him to be the one she tries with! Other then that he can talk to whoever

Depends on who the girl is. If it was someone that he has had previous relations with, then yes. If it is just a girl on base or that he works with, then no.

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No, It wouldnt bother me. Unless she was all over him and/or she had a thing for him, then I would get a little protective.
I trust DH, but I dont trust many girls.

No...in fact one of DH's best friends is a girl.

I feel the same way... I trust DB 110% its the girls that I dont trust!!!! There is a lot of sneaky girls out there....

I totally trust my DH. I would feel perfectly comfortable as long as I know the girl. If I know someone I can usually tell if they have ulterior motives.

Depends on who the girl is. If it was someone that he has had previous relations with, then yes. If it is just a girl on base or that he works with, then no.

:agree It totally depends on who she is. Although some of his girl friends are just annoying. There is one that just will not go away, :duh and I do get mad, I could def. do without her.

I feel the same way... I trust DB 110% its the girls that I dont trust!!!! There is a lot of sneaky girls out there....

part of trusting him is knowing that he can handle any situation that may or may not arrise with another girl. even if they do seem suspicious

I actually am in an odd situation (and perfectly happy). One of my DB's ex's is now one of my best friends. They (she and DB) are still pretty close, but I trust him with her because I trust her. Yea... now... if it were his ex-fiance... different story.

nope

Honestly, dh has female friends at work, he talks to them at work. Right now in our relationship we have decided that him having female friends outside of work is not the best choice.

Hopefully that will change in the future.

Doesn't really bother me. I trust him. He is 100% faithful and always uses good judgement, no matter what the situation.

depends on what they are discussing. If it is talking about parenting or just shooting the breeze, no. If they are discussing her being naked with him, then yes i think i would have a slight problem with that.

My job as his wife is to support and trust him, not to control and hover over him. He has the right to have friends, their sex shouldn't matter. I would have a problem if he were friends who were cruel or mean or rude to him or myself, but he also has the self respect to avoid people like that.
I don't worry about girls who might "try something" with him either. Not only do I trust that he has the will power, the love, and the honesty to say no, he is also stronger than any girl and capable to walk away from her. Girls are more than welcome to try what they want... that is THEIR problem, not mine... and only Andrew's problem for the few minutes it takes to set the girl straight.
I trust my husband... and although I don't trust anyone else... I trust that my husband can HANDLE anyone else. He is free to be friends with whomever, and I only express distaste based on the CHARACTER of the person, not their sex.

It wouldn't bother me at all. My DH is welcome to have whoever he likes as a friend.

I feel the same way... I trust DB 110% its the girls that I dont trust!!!! There is a lot of sneaky girls out there....

I'm always confused by that statement (not picking on you - you're just the most recent person I've heard say it) - I mean if you really DO trust your SO completely it shouldn't matter what the other person (in this case females) does because or how sneaky they are, should it? Because, by virtue of being worthy of that level of trust, your SO would not go for whatever they try, no? I mean, short of the SO being victimized there would be nothing to worry about - and that would have nothing to do with trust anyway if they were victimized. :dunno

I'm always confused by that statement (not picking on you - you're just the most recent person I've heard say it) - I mean if you really DO trust your SO completely it shouldn't matter what the other person (in this case females) does because or how sneaky they are, should it? Because, by virtue of being worthy of that level of trust, your SO would not go for whatever they try, no? I mean, short of the SO being victimized there would be nothing to worry about - and that would have nothing to do with trust anyway if they were victimized. :dunno


Well I think its a valid statement.

A lot of women have bad intencions... and by constantly being there, inyour SO's face, it may cause problems.

If you are constantly having little fights with say ur wife, and a gal friend of work is ur "friend" and is aways dropping hints on how "oh ur wife is so petty... i would never do that to a man"

Its really not going to help with relationships.

Whats worse. if you ever have a "big" fight and he needs consolation. and this is a "close friend" he might go to her and when emotions are high.. you dont really analize situations that well


for these reason.. I prefer that DH keep his female friends as casual... because I know that some women will wait around for the "right opportunity" to get what they want.

I know my DH is 100% faithful... but we are all human and have weak moments... I like to try and draw a line for him so that those situations do not become a problem for us in the future.

No It's Not wrong...If its your db then u should trust him to be able to communicate with the opposite sex without always thinking the worst case scenario..

No, he can be friends with whoever he wants. I wouldn't want him telling me that I couldn't talk to someone so I how can I expect to tell him who he can talk to? We trust each other so there is no need to get upset about it.

No. He has plenty of female friends.

depends on the girl.... there is one that i would def. be pissed if i knew he was talking to (the one I wrote the song about :hehe)

he still talks to this girl that he met online and slept with once... It doesn't really bother me b/c she lives in FL and he lives in NC... he extends me the same courtesy with a guy I was dating when he came back from his last deployment... same kind of deal... I live in FL and he lives in TX.

I think we have a different kind of understanding when it comes to that stuff b/c we met while we were both working at the same nightclub... it's the "nightclub family".... everyone is flirty and talks to everyone else... it's just different.

Well I think its a valid statement.

A lot of women have bad intencions... and by constantly being there, inyour SO's face, it may cause problems.

If you are constantly having little fights with say ur wife, and a gal friend of work is ur "friend" and is aways dropping hints on how "oh ur wife is so petty... i would never do that to a man"

Its really not going to help with relationships.

Whats worse. if you ever have a "big" fight and he needs consolation. and this is a "close friend" he might go to her and when emotions are high.. you dont really analize situations that well


for these reason.. I prefer that DH keep his female friends as casual... because I know that some women will wait around for the "right opportunity" to get what they want.

I know my DH is 100% faithful... but we are all human and have weak moments... I like to try and draw a line for him so that those situations do not become a problem for us in the future.

Do you also "draw the line" for yourself with male friends?

I could never imagine telling dh who he can or can not talk to.... nor can I imagine him telling me that.

IMO marriage or relationships are not about how long of a leash you get from your so.... That is a parents job, not your wife/husband (or SO)

I don't care normally who my dh talks to.. but one of my neighbors really bug me. She cheated on her husband and tried to leave him, and flirts with every man she comes within range of. :pukey she asked my husband to help her with her trash can, she didn't need him I know that..I am mad at her, but not at him. He is such a softy always helps everyone :) I refuse to talk to her now. Especailly since I keep hearing her talk about everyone.

No it doesn't bother me. We both have friends of the opposite sex.

Do you also "draw the line" for yourself with male friends?

I could never imagine telling dh who he can or can not talk to.... nor can I imagine him telling me that.

IMO marriage or relationships are not about how long of a leash you get from your so.... That is a parents job, not your wife/husband (or SO)

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i don't mind dh having friends that are girls.
i have friends that are guys.

Depends on the girl. DF's ex is my best friend. I trust BOTH of them, and I know nothing would ever happen. I dislike strongly his other ex, though.

I don't care if he's friends with girls, as long as they don't have a past and I don't know them.

I totally don't mind, unless the girl takes it as far as asking him if he ever thought about hooking up with her. Then I have a problem with it. But That's done and over with. lol

For the most part no, if he used to have a relationship with her, then yeah..it would bug me, i prefer to be around in a situation like that... and also if it is some girl running around looking like and acting like a tramp..well i would just hope he has enough sense to stay away from that situation completely

no i have guy friends and he has friends who are girls...

No way, he's a grown man and can talk to whomever he wants to, same goes for me.

no i would trust him

Ok, I have alot of insecurities I need to get over...but it does bug me when talks to other girls and has them as friends. The only time where it wont bug me is if I know who that person is and they aren't hanging out with them. If he has to talk to girls at work to kinda get around in a working fashion or has to ask them for help then it won't be a problem. I cut off all my male friends...theirs only like one he has met and liked. Aside from that the "girl" situation has been a problem ever since we first started dating. I do trust him, and I know he isn't going to mess up and he has told me 100 times and more he wont do anything stupid...but still...theirs a chance..its a problem I have.

DB is really jealous. (He's actually growing out of it as he get's older). So sometimes if I see him talking to a girl when we're in a social setting or on the phone/online.. I will act really jealous and pretend I'm mad just to spite him - even though I really don't care and I completely trust him. Haha. I know that's totally immature but I get a kick out of it. :P

It doesn't bother me, he has a few very good female friends and I have very good male friends. And that's what they are-friends. The women have been his friends before I came into the picture so I have no right to change anything about their relationship

I does not bother me if DF has female friends.

:rofl
This question always makes me laugh.

If you're so controlling that you have to choose the sex of your SO's friends, you need to grow up more before you try to be in a relationship. IMO.

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This question always makes me laugh.

If you're so controlling that you have to choose the sex of your SO's friends, you need to grow up more before you try to be in a relationship. IMO.

i gotta agree...
needless to say, no i dont have a problem with it at all.

I really don't care if my love has chick friends as long as they (the chicks) understand that he is married and to keep their hands off!!! I know that he would not do anything, but it is those dand women out there with no morals that I dont trust!!!!

On the other hand, my hunny hates it if I even look at another dude, let alone talk to him!!! :sigh

Do you also "draw the line" for yourself with male friends?

I could never imagine telling dh who he can or can not talk to.... nor can I imagine him telling me that.

IMO marriage or relationships are not about how long of a leash you get from your so.... That is a parents job, not your wife/husband (or SO)


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No. Not at all. G went out with one of the girls from here, 2 weekends ago. Friends are friends. It's when you can't trust your SO, when there is a problem.

No.

When we met he was pretty good friends with this one girl. I was perfectly fine with them talking. Personally, I didn't really like her. But my thought was they were friends before we even met so who was I to come in and say they couldn't be friends anymore. Eventually, they lost touch though.

He really likes one of my best friends from back home and has been known to call her and talk to her. She is my only friend from back home that he'll hang out with or talk to without me around. There have been times I have stayed home and they went to the beach or I went to bed and they stayed up and watched a movie.

There are also several female shipmates he has hung out with, the several female RDCs he has worked with and the one he works with now (they see him more in one day then I'll see him in 1 week), and he lived with a friend and his wife at one point. He talks with her on the phone and they email back and forth at times.

I don't feel any of it is unappropriate. The only thing that bothered me was the girl he was friends with that I didn't care for would run back to his ex and tell her everything that was going on with us. I didn't mind them being friends; I just didn't like what she was doing. Oh, well though. We've been together over 8 years and married over 7 years (8 years in Sept). So, if she was trying to start something it obviously didn't work.

No it doesn't bother me.

After 7 years all his friends are mine and vise versa but DB can be friends with whoever he wants, girls or guys. Plus most of my friends are guys anyway so I really can't say much. I trust him!!

If I couldn't trust her, and she me, then whats the point of being married?

Not really, he talks to my friends all the time, no biggy

Do you also "draw the line" for yourself with male friends?

I could never imagine telling dh who he can or can not talk to.... nor can I imagine him telling me that.

IMO marriage or relationships are not about how long of a leash you get from your so.... That is a parents job, not your wife/husband (or SO)

yes... i also have a line i do not cross... and DH deff likes to remind me as well what makes him uncomfortable

I have guy friends, but i try to keep things very casual unless it is a mutual friend... I don't look for them, or call them... But its always nice to catch up every now and them :)
I also try to make friends with guys who are dating my friends... that way things are a lot more comfortable for both DH and I...

No but if they were an ex or somthing like that then i might raise an eyebrow

not really, no. I have a lot of friends who are guys and he doesn't mind.

Doesn't bother me. Trust is part of being in a relationship. He's never violated that.

no it wont bother me but if it was his ex then i have a problem with him talking to her.

nope because i have guy friends, and it wouldnt be fair.

Nope.. doesn't bother me at all. Heck he had 3 female roomates when we started dating and he still keep in contact with them from time to time.. and I have several guy friends that I talk to ...

it does when they are extra huggy.... and I don't know them very well... when hubby first started dating me, his friend erica would hug him so much, it made me feel uneasy...
Like at one point he was away from the summer, when he came back I gave him a hug and kiss, she jumped on him and started screaming. I felt weird around her. Now we are good friends but at first I hated her for doing that kind of stuff right infront of me. It just seemed really rude.
Now she does that to me too, but now that I know her better, and no that she didn't mean to make me feel uneasy I don't feel so bad.

my db has lots of close girl friends. it only bothers me if i get the feeling that he tries to hide it from me. he had one girl who he had dated before but it never really went anywhere, and he still talks to her...but doesn't mention it to me. I think he thinks that i would be insecure about it. which i am but i'm not going to tell him who he can be friends with. I wouldn't want him to do that to me so... trust is important. you have to give him that unless you have reason not to...

My friends or his friends? I get mad when my friends call and ask me for DH.. they were mine first! :P But I don't care who his friends are.

No, It wouldnt bother me. Unless she was all over him and/or she had a thing for him, then I would get a little protective.
I trust DH, but I dont trust many girls.

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i think my dude is uber attractive, im surprised hes not beating them off with a stick!! :giggle

As long as they are just a friend, no biggie. Most of his femail friends are my friends too