I just need to get this out... I've been doing better with this deployment but today wasn't such a good day. My DB has a crazy exwife who doesn't like me around their kids because she's jealous. DB and I have dated a year but she doesn't let up. She's deploying too and the kids will be taken care of by her best friend until DB gets home. I love these kids, but exwifey doesn't want me to see them. I just want to be able to pick up letters for their dad and put them in carepackages. DB doesn't want to push the issue with his ex because she will freak out (she's in a delicate state due to the fact that she's going to an unsafe area and is upset) and he doesn't want the drama (which I can't blame him for not wanting to deal with her). But this means that I won't see the kids for a few more months. I think it's ridiculous and I told DB this in an email then felt bad for dumping my crap on him.

My exhusband took my dog a few months ago (we had joint custody -HA!). Well - I drove by his house and saw my dog and got all emotional. I'm kicking myself for doing it but...

My unemployment runs out in 3 weeks and I still don't have a job! AAARRRGGGHHH!! Sorry ladies, just had to get that off my chest. Not the best day for me.:vent

:hugs:hugs That is a lot to deal with, I hope things start getting better! PM me if you ever want to talk!

I know exactly how you feel with the children. I have a very similair situation with my DBs DD. Luckily for me he will be home soon. I told him next deployment I want a regular schedule of visits that HE set up with HER before he leave so there's not more of this crap I've been dealing with. anyway HUGS and I hope it gets better

You have a lot on your plate, but you are doing a GREAT job. Never doubt that. I am very sorry that you are having a bad night. Good luck on finding a job. I know how that goes :( Sending some good vibes. I am sorry that you have to deal with ex wife drama. I really hope things get better for you. I wouildnt feel too bad about talking to your husband about it. You are HIS rock, but sometimes you ahve to let him YOUR rock meaning telling him how you feel :)

How frustrating! Unfortunately, you can't do much about his ex. Hopefully, she is forwarding the letters to him though! :hugs :hang

:hugehug I hope things start getting better for you. Good luck on the job search. :hugs

I know exactly how you feel with the children. I have a very similair situation with my DBs DD. Luckily for me he will be home soon. I told him next deployment I want a regular schedule of visits that HE set up with HER before he leave so there's not more of this crap I've been dealing with. anyway HUGS and I hope it gets better


I too am in a similar situation. Luckily, I do get to see his daughter, because his parents took over his rights while his deployed. I am wishing so bad we had gotten something in writing saying that I could have some alone time with her, because we did nothing and unless I want to have a long, drawn out court battle while he's gone, there isn't much I can do but just have my "supervised visits" at his parents. Next time will be different though. Not only will there most likely be a brother or sister involved (meaning DH and I will have had a child), but jealousy shouldn't be an issue when keeping the best interest of DD in mind.

I always tell myself to just make the best of what I've got to work with. Hang in there!!!

Thanks for the kind words, ladies! I'm sorry to dump all my crap but it was just one of those days! I'm so glad I have you all to help me thru this DAMN deployment! :hug

Thanks for the kind words, ladies! I'm sorry to dump all my crap but it was just one of those days! I'm so glad I have you all to help me thru this DAMN deployment! :hug


Dump all you want, that's why we are here isn't it? To share the good, the bad, and the ugly and help each other through this. I am sorry you had such a hard day.I hope things start looking up for you really soon.

I am in a similar situation and I know how tough it is and I am sorry that you have to deal with all of this!! I am here any time of day or night!!!


:hugehug :hugehug