Is marrying young something that you feel you have more pressure to do because of being with someone in the military. My boyfriend has said he is going to ask me to marry him when he gets back from training. We'll have been together almost 3 years & lived together over one by then. Advice & Thoughts...anyone?

I noticed it a lot near the base at my SO's parents, there were a lot of very young couples. It seems they don't want to miss out because they're going to be seperated for so long. They all seem very happy.

I noticed it a lot near the base at my SO's parents, there were a lot of very young couples. It seems they don't want to miss out because they're going to be seperated for so long. They all seem very happy.

I don't know if this is true for ALL couples. I know there have been problems with "fake" marriages through a JOP, just for the benefits and extra money.

That's actually what a friend of mine and DB did.

Andrew and I wouldn't be married right now if he weren't in the Army, but that is because with him being in the army we had the financial part we needed as well.... which would be the only thing keeping us from getting married if he WEREN'T in the Army.

I think that being in the military helps a young couple with marriage because of all the benefits but only if the young couple are completely ready for marriage. I think that the seperation thing is why so many UNREADY young couples get married..... they feel the pressure of marriage because they don't want to be apart.

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:welcome and just follow your heart and instinct :)

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Maybe this thread should be moved over to love shack?

Andrew and I wouldn't be married right now if he weren't in the Army, but that is because with him being in the army we had the financial part we needed as well.... which would be the only thing keeping us from getting married if he WEREN'T in the Army.

I think that being in the military helps a young couple with marriage because of all the benefits but only if the young couple are completely ready for marriage. I think that the seperation thing is why so many UNREADY young couples get married..... they feel the pressure of marriage because they don't want to be apart.

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My parents got married when they were 17, neither was military but they were "forced into it" because my mom was pregnant with my brother (back in 1973 from what my mom tells me it wasn't really an option for them not to get married) Anyway they are still together after 35 years.

Andrew and I wouldn't be married right now if he weren't in the Army, but that is because with him being in the army we had the financial part we needed as well.... which would be the only thing keeping us from getting married if he WEREN'T in the Army.

I think that being in the military helps a young couple with marriage because of all the benefits but only if the young couple are completely ready for marriage. I think that the seperation thing is why so many UNREADY young couples get married..... they feel the pressure of marriage because they don't want to be apart.

:agree Us, too. We got married because he wanted me to have insurance (my job didn't come with any benefits) and he wanted me to deal with any legal mumbo jumbo if he was ever gone... and lo and behold, he was gone soon after we got married.

I was in the same situation you are in. I got married in december after my now hubby got done with training. I am happy being with him. I just could not go that long with out seeing him knowing that he will be deployed in jan 09 for 12 months. I live 1100 miles from my parents. We were together 4 years when we got married. Hope all goes well